Neighbor across the street uses car alarm as an actual alarm

For a long time now, around the same time, my neighbors car alarm goes off around the same time Monday through Friday.

I was talking with the neighbor directly next to them as they are across the street from me, and said that it has to be on purpose.

My next door neighbor has been there for over 50 years and knows the neighborhood pretty well, and she told me that the car alarm is a literal alarm, like an alarm clock.

I’m it sure how or why they are doing this, but it is pretty disruptive.

My wife works from home and I sometimes have to make calls, and it is quite annoying when the car alarm goes off in the middle of those things, it also causes some of the dogs to howl and bark.

I’m asking you guys on how I should handle it? I was thinking of going over there to see if everything is ok when it goes off if I’m around, and maybe buying them an alarm clock.

Netizens’ comments

• Oh my god. How has no one given this person free raw breakfast eggs across his windshield to go with his morning alarm?
• Pretty sure that’s impossible without major rewiring
• I didn’t realize this was even possible. My vehicle has an alarm and there’s no way to make it go off on a timer.
• Definitely post an update when you talk to them cause I’m super curious what in gods name they’ll have to say for themselves. Hopefully they’ll be mortified that it’s bothered people, but I’m scared that the level of entitlement required to think that’s ok is gonna mean they’re a jerk 😩

Should I abandon ship?

I just got a new job. During interviews, they mentioned that we are allowed to WFH 3 times a week. After I joined, this policy at department-level kept changing to progressively reduce the number of WFH days.

Right now, it has been announced that we have to come to office everyday. Frankly, I would not have accepted this job if they had told me they will transition to pure WFO arrangement (yes yes, super gen Z I know).

What should I do? If I quit now, it will reflect very badly on my resume and I will face difficulties finding a new job.

But if I don’t, I feel such resentment everyday. Pay is 8/10, boss is 6/10, culture is 2/10, career prospect from being in this job 9/10.

Netizens’ comments

• Find a new job that has the amount of WFH you want, and then leave. Perfectly explainable to future employers.
• Find an excuse, and then a new job, and then quit. In that order. I don’t see why you have to hold your end of the bargain when they keep on giving you less and less.
• Change lah, still on probation can probably ask leave on the same day and never step foot in that office again
• Tbh if you leave now and you can explain it to recruiters it won’t reflect badly, just tell them exactly this, what was discussed in the interview and agreed on wasn’t what the job role was. You don’t have to go into specifics.

Why are there so many old people doing menial jobs in Singapore?

I am a foreigner here to do my master’s. I am from a third-world country and I thank my stars daily for being fortunate enough to study here.

Everything is so good here. But I see so many old people well in their sixties doing menial jobs such as cleaning and working at a supermarket or fast food chain.

Who are they ? Were they not able to plan for their retirement or are they from other countries?

Netizens’ comments

• Singapore has a rapid rise from third world to first in a single generation.
  This means that the older generation are stuck with skills are the lower end of the value chain and are unable to adapt to the current high skilled labour job market.
  This trend of elderlies working menial jobs is also common among other high growth Asian nations (4 Asian tigers), called the silver tsunami.
• Many of these old people who have no choice but to keep working did not have the chance to save up. For example, a construction worker could be paid only 50 cents a day in the 1960s.
  However much they could save in their younger days, it is impossible to have enough for today’s expenses. Those who are single or estranged from family are the most vulnerable.
  That said there are also many old people who work because retirement for the lower and middle classes is somewhat meaningless.
  Families are increasingly nuclear and grown up children are often too busy with their lives to spend much time with their retired parents.

Is it insane my parents are asking for 2k a month to live with them? Even though I don’t own the house.. while the mortgage is 2.5k a month..

House was on my sister and dads name, I graduated this year and got a good job out of school, my sister decides to get married and she’s leaving in February,

my parents are telling me to pay 2k a month so I get “used to life” after my sister goes, I get pretty much no respect as a adult and you know how brown culture is you have to listen to everything your parents say..

also my parents are demanding me to pay 2k a month.. I’m happy with the 1k a month I pay now but isn’t 2k kinda insane? I’ve talked to them and they said that’s how much I have to pay “or else”..

so idk what I should do should I leave and rent outside? and my parents are trying to charge me that much.. idk I only tend to agree to these things due to emotional blackmail but yeah idk what I can do..

Edit: For all the people saying they want you to move out are wrong my dad is a single earner who makes 35k a year and my mom hasn’t worked a single minute in her life..

they really need me or they’ll be basically on the verge of bankruptcy

My older brother is somewhat useless. But my parents love him. He mooches off everyone. My dad retired a few years ago and can no longer afford to support my brother and his stupidity.

So ever the last five years I have lent my brother about $10,000. And he has paid back roughly $600.

Well he is getting married and he needs money for a honeymoon. Like $2,000. Which I can afford. But I don’t really feel like lending him money I know I won’t get back.

I said “No”. He kept calling me and texting me saying that his fiancee deserves a good honeymoon and that I should help him out. I point out that my parents paid for his degree and I had to go into debt to get mine because they had nothing left for me after he took six years to graduate. And that he still owes me $9,400.

Finally he gets my parents to call me and ask for the money. LoL. I’m already LC with them. They owe me money too. They start trying to guilt me. That I’m his little sister and I should love him enough to help. Blah blah blah.

After about a week of this crap I lost it. I told them fine. I will meet him at their house and help him out financially for the last time.

I showed up and we sat down at the kitchen table. I pulled out all the contracts that I made him sign when I lent him money. I also pulled out a printed copy of the check he paid me the $600 with.

I said he had a choice I could lend him the $2,000 but they had to pay me back what he owed me first or I could tear up all of his debt to me.

Huge fight. I’m an asshole for being so mercenary. How dare I treat family in such a transactional manner. I am a terrible person for letting him think I was going to help. Did I want to make them homeless by asking them for the $30,000 that they owed me too. Blah blah blah.

I said to call me when they decide

Now I’m getting crap from family because they are telling everyone that I won’t help out family. I’m a terrible daughter and sister. So I started asking everyone how much they were going to pay for his honeymoon. “No, no we don’t mean that WE should help. Just you. You’re his sister”.

Okay. Which of you guys is paying off what he owes me already. Radio silence.

But I found out from my cousin that they ar all talking about me behind my back. LoL. I don’t care

Normal for Singaporean man to stay with single parent throughout whole life?

Currently living in a 1 bedroom rented apartment with a older brother, and our mother who is the sole breadwinner for the pass few years of our lives until now we got stable job.

My older brother is applying BTO to move with GF alr, and I am single and planning to start saving money for a 3-4 room resale HDB and putting my mother as a essential occupier, giving her a bigger home to relax and retire in.

If I were to move out also, she would be alone and I don’t really like the idea of that. Hence..

Is it a norm for guys to forever live with their parents? And do girls find it like a “turn off” if they find out the guy first property is a HDB that he is living with his mom in?

Netizens’ comments

• your question shouldn’t be “is it normal?”
  your question should be “what are my values in life and does staying with my mom goes against this value?”
  Stick by your values, and good people will recognize and respect you for it.
  Sure, the reality is that it will be a turn off for many girls, but a great lady will understand and even love you more for this, compared to those who just want attention and be pampered and loved.
• not a turn off
  but if really cant get along w ur mom, you hv to choose 1 eh
  pls be transparent abt your situation from the start, dont need to lie abt this, nothing shameful, if the girl cant accept then that’s it

I’m jealous of how my boyfriend treats his friends

My (24f) boyfriend (26m) has a wonderful and close friend group that have known each other since they were young. I’ve been with my boyfriend almost 3 years and they’ve welcomed me into the group as one of their own and we all get along great.

The only thing is, I’ve noticed my bf is very affectionate and caring with them, but not so much with me. It makes me sad, and pretty jealous. For example, when one of them is going through a rough time, he’s constantly bringing it up and he’s visibly concerned and he’ll reach out to them daily checking in, will offer to bring his dog to their house to cheer them up, and he will choose careful words to use to make them feel heard and loved. Whereas with me, I just get weak “I’m sorry”s and no effort, nothing. I have to ask for affection, and I’ve embarrassed myself by getting upset and asking for more effort. I mean, on a regular basis even when things are fine I have to ask for the kinds of affection that are normal for relationships (casual touching, kisses, cuddling, etc)

I know he loves me, but I wish I received the same love and effort that his friends do. Another thing that makes me sad is when he’s out with his friends he’s off his phone and won’t respond to me at all for hours (which is fine, I know he’s with them and encourage him to have fun), but when he’s with me? He is on his phone the whole time and responding to them individually and the group chat constantly.

I shouldn’t have to teach someone how to love me, and I shouldn’t feel lonely while in a relationship. We have good times, and he tells me he loves me, but that’s different than truly feeling loved.

I’ve learned to just accept everything because this is the first healthy relationship I’ve been in since truly improving myself and my confidence. In the past I chose abusive and toxic guys/girls to date because I just wanted to feel something. I am happy, but I can’t help but wonder if I could be happier.

Should I quit my job?

So… as title suggests, here we go. The main dilemma I have is if quitting a job when I am only 2 months in since employment is a good choice or not.

For context:

So this is my first job and I work in a lab. I do have an idea of what my career goals are in life, and figured to achieve it, I needed work experience above all else, both in and out of a lab. The problem is, I am not getting any work experience, let alone chance to work done, at all at my company, as the work system and progression is incredibly inefficient and slow. For close to 2 months, I have not done anything remotely productive at all, and with how the system works in place (e.g. everything has to be “trained” before you are allowed to do anything), this will probably keep going on for another few months.

Some chitchat with my fellow colleagues and observing how the gears turn at my workplace have practically confirmed that most of the work experience I want would be at best a year and more away, meaning months of idleness or the odd job here and there (kind of like now). And even if i did somehow not lose my mind from being idle, with the inefficiency the system has at this company, overtime is practically needed everyday as I see in my colleagues or the system itself will punish you for failing to meet demands.

To cap things off, here is where I am asking for opinions to help make or steel my mind. My friends have told me that I would be better off resigning and finding another job to look for what I want, as I am clearly unhappy with the depressing environment as well as outdated and slow-paced nature of my current company. However, my parents are not really pleased with the notion of me quitting my first job so quickly and so early, and that I should “tough it out” for at least a year and more. But if this job is not helping with my future career path and goals, am I not just wasting my time for something that might not even help out in my resume?

Is it really okay to quit this early, especially given its my first “real” job?

TL;DR First job, incredibly slow-paced and inefficient company, not getting to learn or do anything at all, thinking of quitting and seek another (hopefully better) job that can give me what I want but am afraid of quitting early due to parental pressure and stigma.