Should I quit my job?

So… as title suggests, here we go. The main dilemma I have is if quitting a job when I am only 2 months in since employment is a good choice or not.

For context:

So this is my first job and I work in a lab. I do have an idea of what my career goals are in life, and figured to achieve it, I needed work experience above all else, both in and out of a lab. The problem is, I am not getting any work experience, let alone chance to work done, at all at my company, as the work system and progression is incredibly inefficient and slow. For close to 2 months, I have not done anything remotely productive at all, and with how the system works in place (e.g. everything has to be “trained” before you are allowed to do anything), this will probably keep going on for another few months.

Some chitchat with my fellow colleagues and observing how the gears turn at my workplace have practically confirmed that most of the work experience I want would be at best a year and more away, meaning months of idleness or the odd job here and there (kind of like now). And even if i did somehow not lose my mind from being idle, with the inefficiency the system has at this company, overtime is practically needed everyday as I see in my colleagues or the system itself will punish you for failing to meet demands.

To cap things off, here is where I am asking for opinions to help make or steel my mind. My friends have told me that I would be better off resigning and finding another job to look for what I want, as I am clearly unhappy with the depressing environment as well as outdated and slow-paced nature of my current company. However, my parents are not really pleased with the notion of me quitting my first job so quickly and so early, and that I should “tough it out” for at least a year and more. But if this job is not helping with my future career path and goals, am I not just wasting my time for something that might not even help out in my resume?

Is it really okay to quit this early, especially given its my first “real” job?

TL;DR First job, incredibly slow-paced and inefficient company, not getting to learn or do anything at all, thinking of quitting and seek another (hopefully better) job that can give me what I want but am afraid of quitting early due to parental pressure and stigma.

With covid, nowadays real estate price is going sky high. Those who are rich, they can afford a private property without any concern.

Whereas those middle class income population, private property will never be an option. And HDB will need to wait till 35.

Is like saying that single people don’t deserve a life…. We don’t need a space for us to live our own life…

Staying with parents is a blessing. But I wish I could have some personal space and privacy as well.

Here are what netizens think:

• Just SK it up and stay with your parents. People in other countries get kick out at 18 with no option of public housing , work entry level with crazy rental prices for a cage room. Sure you say they higher income. But you ownself say I middle income. Not happy, want independence, want privacy, go pool your resources , find a couple of roommates, go rent a house. If not go camping at east coast park.

• Govt is artificially restricting housing prices to prevent the crash in prices 10yrs down the road when there are lesser young ppl.

• If you’re not happy, just show your dissatisfaction by voting the other parties lor. How to have ur cake and eat it leh. The gov is already very obvious, u want “cheap” housing, u better get married and have kids.

• yea. it’s been discussed for a long time. even in other countries like the states. it’s like i sell u chicken rice for 100 dollar, is it affordable? yes it is “affordable”, i can pay 100, but is it justified?

• Yes it is hard, and houses (both public and private) are getting smaller too so multi generational living is becoming more unbearable for people who desire FREEDUMB once they hit 21. Rentals could become a thing like other countries but hopefully a solution can be found without chrashing property prices.

Gender reveal parties makes absolutely no sense.

You see like in sports, you’ll have support for one team and against another. If your team wins, you’ll cheer and feel happy. If your team loses, you’ll frown and feel frustrated.

But gender reveal however….if it’s a boy, they’ll cheer, if it’s the girl, they’ll cheer.

Like…what’s the actual point? Am I supposed to hope for a specific gender and cheer about it? What if the outcome is different and I got the opposite of what I want? Should I abort the child and try again?

If I show that I’m frustrated, then I’m the asshole for no reason.

Either way you’re expected to be happy no matter what?

Some people spent thousands for these pointless parties like….

Wtf?

No seriously I don’t see what’s the point if either outcome you’re expected to be happy.

It makes 0 sense.

Here are what netizen thinks:

• It’s just a feel good thing, an excuse to celebrate. Actually, you don’t need a reason to celebrate but having one makes it better!

• It’s a reason for celebration as becoming pregnant can be more and more difficult these days. No matter if the child is a boy or girl, it still remains a reason for celebration.

• Those games are for influencers to gain clicks and likes. Even if not happy have to appear to be happy, right? Otherwise spend so much for what.

• I especially love the ones that burns down the whole forest and surrounding houses.

• How about just let people celebrate & do whatever they want without being judgmental? It’s not pointless to them. It doesn’t have to “make sense” to you. It’s their baby & they just wanna celebrate the joy with their loved ones.

Divorce procedure

While I was dating with my husband. We broke one once so badly. He did so much promises get to get me back.

Fast forward to today, we have dated for 16 years and married for 7 years with a toddler.

We are both in our mid 30s.

Things were nice and good in the beginning. Got our house, welcoming our first child etc.

However, things got worst for the past 1 year. All the promises and marriage vows are just seriously fart.

Every now and then, small little stuff could just trigger him off and result him to shut me off.

In the most recent incident, our toddler was having a meltdown and he got so pissed off and tried to tap our toddler with masking tape. The next moment, our toddler runs up to him wanting to play. All he did was to push away.

Him shutting me off could be just ignoring me, refusing to talk or help out at home and this can go days or even weeks.

The highest record we didn’t talk was 2 months. And he can just get triggered with all that small stuff. This could means me taking a little longer shower than usual or me taking a little longer time getting groceries/ being outside.

We can be talking happily in 1 week and next 3 weeks, we could be having Cold War.

To be honest, I would think that the last 1 year, we probably only talk for combined of 2 month the most.

To add on, he could just block me from Whatapp, cut off my wifi etc. (Childish ya? For someone earning a 5 digit income).

Right now it just feels like we are only staying in the same roof as housemates.

He no longer come in to sleep together and let alone any intimacy for the past year or so.

I am staying just because of my child and I think it’s really unhealthy. I don’t care if he has anyone outside (which I feel he may not). But my heart is dead.

I could only blame myself for being so naive, to even forgive him and getting back to him and landed myself in this state today.

I think i need to take up the courage to put this to a stop.

I am seeking for some advice here. I want to get a divorce but not sure how to begin.

I feel that there is no need for me to even talk to him as he is always in his mute zone when he is unhappy.

Do I speak to a lawyer first or do I just submit a request to the Singapore court?

My income is less than half of his and I don’t think it’s too much for Me to ask him to pay the full divorce fees. Moreover, he did took quite a big part of my savings where he met a financial issue during our Younger days.

Sorry but if anyone has been through a single side divorce request and how can I begin? Thanks in advance!

Financial arrangement while dating?

What should I expect while dating when it comes to how much each person pays for gifts, food, shopping trips? Should the man pay for the first date, or should it be the one who asks out?

At what time in the relationship does taking turns or splitting dinner bills come in to play? What happens if a partner is counting every penny? Or doesn’t pay for anything because they are students, disabled, or have simply have no ambition to work?

How do you know if a person is setting reasonable limits vs. simply not wanting to spend any money on you that they would rather spend on themselves?

Hi everyone,

I am a future bride in May 2023… and I signed a package with a wedding bridal company after we went down their studio and they told us about their package.

All is good. That was in September. After the signing and the 30% deposit, they created a Whatsapp group with me and my fiance. I started to whatsapp them and ask questions and send then pictures of the hairdo that I want. And they said Okay they noted…

Then come October, I started asking them questions and all replies from them were one-liner, short forms, late replies… which kinda concern me. If after 30% deposit, and they dare to give this kind of customer service and late replies, i cant imagine how we’re gonna communicate ahead for my wedding day.

Then now in October, meaning we have 7 months left to May 2023, I asked them when can I come down their studio to try their wedding outfits again? Cuz the last time we tried their outfits was in September was when we first went to their studio and signed the package and paid the 30% deposit. When I asked her, can I come again to try other outfits again cuz the first time we had to go and can’t try and see all of them. She said “Ouh u are free to come anytime u want to try the outfits!”

Now In October, when I asked if I can come to try and see other outfits they have, they kinda changed their tune and merelt said ouh “Hi for your wedding outfit, u can choose 1 month before your wedding don’t need to rush, as we will have few more collection coming in”.

But I kept asking but I still can go and try right? And they kept saying again and again “All can try 1 month before wedding”… I said hmmm I wanna bring my own family entourage to come see me wear my wedding dress… and they kept saying the same thing “u can try 1 month before wedding which is in May” which I kinda get the passive aggression in the text kinda saying “Bish just try 1 month before your wedding stop Rushing” is the kinda tone of their text.

I was so fed up with this kind of customer service. And the WORST is when I asked when can I go for a site-viewing of my own wedding venue which is after we signed the package, she said she will get back to me in 1 week in advance. That was in September mind you. Now October, I still didn’t get any reply to when my site-viewing date is… and the worst is, I asked when can I go for food-tasting?

The best answer from them is “can arrange for u but min 2 pax max 4 pax … but 2 pax will be paid off, only the other 2 pax u have to pay” I sit there wondering since when food tasting is chargeable? Like we paid u 30% deposit hello!

Their customer service sucks and their late replies is giving me ANXIETY. If they treat me like this even before my wedding which is now 7 months away, I can’t imagine how they’re gonna perform with their service on my Real wedding day.

My fiance kept saying I am too rushing and creating a bad impression of myself on them thus them getting annoyed and sickened by my questions. Hello I am a customer, I ought to have my doubts and clarifications answered and cleared! My question is AM I a Bridezilla or should I calm down?. I already tot of canceling this package with them and forego the 30% deposit that I can never get back. I will leave a BAD review on all their pages to warn other future brides. I was so sad they treat me like I’m some annoying sickening bridezilla beyotch cuz I’m just scared of being scammed.

They’re sooo active online promoting their packages but take hours to reply to me or maybe even the next day… should I cancel this package and move on to a better nicer wedding company to serve me on my special wedding day? I can’t believe I cried over this. Now In October, 7 months away, and I still haven’t got a definite reply from them as to when my site-viewing of the wedding venus and the food-tasting date. It’s always the same goddamn answer “We will check and update and get back to you” in September. Now October going middle of October. Should I just cancel this package? Please help.