Hi everyone,

I am a future bride in May 2023… and I signed a package with a wedding bridal company after we went down their studio and they told us about their package.

All is good. That was in September. After the signing and the 30% deposit, they created a Whatsapp group with me and my fiance. I started to whatsapp them and ask questions and send then pictures of the hairdo that I want. And they said Okay they noted…

Then come October, I started asking them questions and all replies from them were one-liner, short forms, late replies… which kinda concern me. If after 30% deposit, and they dare to give this kind of customer service and late replies, i cant imagine how we’re gonna communicate ahead for my wedding day.

Then now in October, meaning we have 7 months left to May 2023, I asked them when can I come down their studio to try their wedding outfits again? Cuz the last time we tried their outfits was in September was when we first went to their studio and signed the package and paid the 30% deposit. When I asked her, can I come again to try other outfits again cuz the first time we had to go and can’t try and see all of them. She said “Ouh u are free to come anytime u want to try the outfits!”

Now In October, when I asked if I can come to try and see other outfits they have, they kinda changed their tune and merelt said ouh “Hi for your wedding outfit, u can choose 1 month before your wedding don’t need to rush, as we will have few more collection coming in”.

But I kept asking but I still can go and try right? And they kept saying again and again “All can try 1 month before wedding”… I said hmmm I wanna bring my own family entourage to come see me wear my wedding dress… and they kept saying the same thing “u can try 1 month before wedding which is in May” which I kinda get the passive aggression in the text kinda saying “Bish just try 1 month before your wedding stop Rushing” is the kinda tone of their text.

I was so fed up with this kind of customer service. And the WORST is when I asked when can I go for a site-viewing of my own wedding venue which is after we signed the package, she said she will get back to me in 1 week in advance. That was in September mind you. Now October, I still didn’t get any reply to when my site-viewing date is… and the worst is, I asked when can I go for food-tasting?

The best answer from them is “can arrange for u but min 2 pax max 4 pax … but 2 pax will be paid off, only the other 2 pax u have to pay” I sit there wondering since when food tasting is chargeable? Like we paid u 30% deposit hello!

Their customer service sucks and their late replies is giving me ANXIETY. If they treat me like this even before my wedding which is now 7 months away, I can’t imagine how they’re gonna perform with their service on my Real wedding day.

My fiance kept saying I am too rushing and creating a bad impression of myself on them thus them getting annoyed and sickened by my questions. Hello I am a customer, I ought to have my doubts and clarifications answered and cleared! My question is AM I a Bridezilla or should I calm down?. I already tot of canceling this package with them and forego the 30% deposit that I can never get back. I will leave a BAD review on all their pages to warn other future brides. I was so sad they treat me like I’m some annoying sickening bridezilla beyotch cuz I’m just scared of being scammed.

They’re sooo active online promoting their packages but take hours to reply to me or maybe even the next day… should I cancel this package and move on to a better nicer wedding company to serve me on my special wedding day? I can’t believe I cried over this. Now In October, 7 months away, and I still haven’t got a definite reply from them as to when my site-viewing of the wedding venus and the food-tasting date. It’s always the same goddamn answer “We will check and update and get back to you” in September. Now October going middle of October. Should I just cancel this package? Please help.

Am I wrong or is my husband stingy?

Posting this in need of advice on how to live with a potentially stingy husband.

I (30F) grew up in a poor family and worked very hard to make more money so as to live a better life. However, it’s hard to enjoy the fruits of my labour, because my husband(33M)’s family seems to be quite stingy. Actually, he always tells me I’m the one who is wasting money so I’m no longer sure if I’m the one who has the wrong impression, so I would like to gather some opinion from the public.

Please rate him on a scale of 1 to 10 in terms of stinginess and provide some analyses and advice on his behavior if possible.

Relevant facts (I swear these are 100% true):

1. He doesn’t switch on the lights when he poops because he “likes it”. When in actual fact he just wants to save electricity.

2. He doesn’t flush after he pees sometimes or insists I don’t flush if he pees right after me. He insists to use the half flush for everything including his poop so sometimes its not flushed properly.

3. He reuses tissue that I throw on the floor or around the house. He stacks them up to reuse them regardless of whether they are clean or dirty.

4. He keeps reusing soap by adding more and more water to soap bottles I had discarded. In fact, he’s still using the one I discarded a month ago.

4. He showers only once in 2 or 3 days. He doesn’t wear shirt or underwear at home to save electricity on washing clothes. He rewears socks and clothes at last 3-5 times before washing them.

5. He keeps badgering me to switch off all our ambience lights. When he’s alone at home, he just switches off all the lights and sits in the dark.

6. Ever since we met during COVID, we have not travelled even one time. And the only locations he’s willing to go to is Thailand or Bali because its cheap. This is despite the fact I’ve repeatedly expressed to him before it’s my dream to travel as I never got to go beyond Asia and rarely travelled when I was younger because my family is poor (I never even got to go on exchange due to this).

7. He keeps analyzing my expenses and question me on every expense, even small stuff like a new fruit knife ($8) or clothes that make me happy. He groans every time I buy anything from Shopee. I don’t even buy any branded goods. One time, I tried to buy a Samsung tablet that I really wanted (~1K) and he argued with me in front of all the staff for 1 hour about how this is overpriced and it’s “not about the money”. it’s “about the value”. He can never be happy buying anything nice, everything is about “value for money” and I can never buy nice food in peace without him badgering me. As a result, I’m always fearful of spending any money to reward myself due to his strong and unhappy response.

8. He insists that we go out only once in a week to “save money”. So we just stay at home all the time. When I want to go out, he says the quota has been met and we cannot go out anymore or repeatedly groans about it.

9. However, he’s ok losing >50K in the recent FTX scandal. I already told him to take out his money once the red flags were there but he did nothing. After he lost that amount, he said he “felt nothing”.

10. He also lost 100K+ in the stock market because he just buys trash and doesn’t do his own research. He “doesn’t like admin” so he doesn’t invest in tried and true ETFs or dollar cost average and just buys into hype.

11. He doesn’t do deals or care about discounts despite claiming to care about “value for money”. He doesn’t try to optimize for cashback deals or anything.

12. We have about 2M in current wealth and 500K in combined income.

13. I grew up with less than 1000 in my bank till I graduated uni and juggled part-time jobs while studying to pay for my school fees. Never got to go on exchange, live in hall, etc. Meanwhile, he always got to travel often and live a normal life growing up. His parents are millionaires with private property. However they also scrimp like crazy and groan about every expense.

A random girl added me on insta recently & started sliding into my DMs.

I chatted with her & she asked for my number to move the convo to WA. On WA, we chatted for a few day. She was quite flirtatious & always initiated the convo. So I thought she was interested in me.

But one day, she asked me to help her with her part-time lobang which is basically an e-commerce scam which I was familiar with (as I fell for this exact scam b4 by a different person). So I said no, then she became verbally abusive, forceful & demanding, trying to pressure me to do this so called lobang. For days I held my ground & said no, but continued to casually talk to her as I was bored anyways & needed something entertaining to see me through my busy work week (my job is pretty stressful IDK why).

From this moment on, I mostly initiated the convo for fun. For days she also tried to convince me to do this “lobang” but to no avail. Eventually, she got very tired & did not want to talk to me anymore. So before I ended the comms, I asked her why she was doing this scam & she told me something that got me pondering.

She said she wanted a better life. Then I tried to be more sympathetic & said that Singapore is a hard place to live because it is very expensive. She kind of agreed by saying that she does this because she needed to survive & cope with life’s pressure. Since I remember that the year end festive season is coming, so I offered to give her an Ang Bao as an early present. But she refused & wanted me to do the scam instead bcos she preferred “career progression”. I was shocked bcos this so called career of hers is illegal to begin with. So I tried to probe further but to no avail. Perhaps she realised that it was a waste of time talking to me, so we agreed to eventually stopped the convo.

So my question is this, what should I do?Should I have reported her or helped her? And if I were to help her, how should I do it ? Also, are there online scammers out there facing the same struggles as her? Given that the economy is gloomy & uncertain & inflation is a huge burden for many …

Covid totally disrupted my travel plans, so when the covid pandemic finally ended, I decided to take a gap year in AY 2022/2023 in order to travel.

I got pregnant while travelling, so I am wondering what my options are: Should I matriculate in 2023 or defer by another year? Some of my thoughts (in no particular order):

1. As a girl, I don’t need to serve NS so even if I defer for another year, I am still on equal footing with the guys from my batch.

2. Assuming that the pregnancy takes 9 months, I should give birth just in time for the 2023 academic year. However I will probably miss orientation. Orientation is one of the highlights of NUS life so I would prefer to defer for one year rather than miss orientation.

3. My field of study is WFH-friendly. It seems that I keep my options open by delaying matriculation to 2023.

4. It seems that the maternity facilities in NUS are really quite subpar, so studying with a newborn baby would be quite the disaster.

5. SMU seems to be a better choice for studying with a newborn (closer to childcare facilities in the city area). However NUS has a higher ranking in my field, so Im not sure whether it is worth switching to SMU just for the better childcare.

Any advice?

Here are what netizens think:

• What seems to be obvious is that you will likely need help with childcare whichever school you might end up attending and you will need to have someone who is willing and able to step in to babysit when you need help. For example, you are not going to be able to bring the baby along when you need to take exams. As for whether to matriculate later, I don’t think it will matters as long as appropriate childcare help is available since the baby is not suddenly going to grow up within a year. Take care and all the best!

• Man, I wish I am this calm. I had more stress than you when I wanted to eat Calbee chips but did not want to buy it because the price increased from $1.50 to $2.15.

• I hope u have figured out your childcare arrangements as it will be tough to go to school and if no one takes care of the baby. E.g. what if baby falls sick and cannot send to infant care ? Life after having a kid is very very different than life before. Do be mentally prepared. Wish u all the best

Over a week ago I decided to put a lot of effort into my profile, was swiping like crazy, actually got some matches for once.

Anyways, my personal life has been bad since then and opening hinge again was the last thing on my mind. Now, I opened it today and some of the guys are replying multiple times and being weird. One guy initially opened with a joke about how since I have anxiety over phone calls, I can call a hotline to help. Anyways, a week later he says in the chat “turns out people were too afraid and hence didn’t call”

Quick ranting storytime about “backdoor”

Having felt inspired by a post on men’s obsession with “backdoor” yesterday, I wanted to go for it and share my own experience. First of all, I find it weird how men are sooo into it.

But, most of the times, they don’t know anything about the whole process of getting ready for it, expecting us to do all the research and practice of douching and getting to know our body in that situation when, again, it’s them asking for it.

Hey there, I don’t use Facebook much and am typing on my phone so forgive the formatting.

I have a mandatory internship where I study, difficult to arrange, luckily I got it and then I found out that the most beneficial internship time for me would be in the morning, when I study and my internship supervisor would always be there.