Okay, So this happened last night while me and my family were visiting my brother’s girlfriend’s house for the first time.

We were all sitting at the dinner table and I remembered when my brother’s girlfriend, who’s a widow, saying that she keeps an urn of her late husband’s ashes in the house.

Conversation let from one thing to another then, I looked at my brother and asked him quietly if he was comfortable with having his girlfriend’s late husband’s urn in the house. he gave me a long stare so I figured the answer was yes but maybe, he couldn’t tell his girlfriend about it fearing she’d misunderstand maybe?.

So I brought it up with her and told her it was quite weird to have her late husband’s urn in the house. She looked at me and was apparently caught off guard by what I said. she said that she didn’t think so and that it wasn’t like the urn was on display, also said this is her late husband’s house and where the urn should be.

I told her it felt weird especially, since she just had my brother move in with her and he must be feeling uncomfortable with the idea, his girlfriend looked upset and got quiet. my brother shouted “none of your goddamned business, shut your mouth!” I responded with “I mean..personally, I wouldn’t be cool with my girl keeping an urn of her ex within close approximate, at best it’d make me feel uncomfortable, at worst it’d make me feel creeped out.”

His girlfriend then replied by saying that I have no business dating a widow then and I shrugged. She excused herself to the kitchen and stayed there, my brother went off on me calling me an obnoxious person for making dinner awkward and upsetting his girlfriend. I told him I was just giving my opinion but he lashed out more.

my parents and I left and they told me my brother’s girlfriend was being hypersensitive, but I too went too far and upset my brother and probably sparked an argument between them and I should reach to apologize but I’m not sure.

My son is 18, He is going to be attending poly soon and is living with me, my husband and his 2 younger half-sisters.

The other day I found out that he found and accepted a part time job without telling me. I was upset with him about it and the reason for that is that first of all, he should’ve told me since we live in the same house and also, and more importantly how I’m left without someone to stay with the girls from 3 to 8 where my shift start-ends. my son is usually the one to stay home with the girls and his new job is during these hours so one way or another we are impacted.

He told me his friend found him this job and it just happened – but I don’t think it did because he knew he had to give up staying with his sisters while I work. my husband travels most of the time (he’s a pilot) and paid child care is a no for me.

My son said I shouldn’t be surprised by him trying to work to save money to be able to pay for himself but that is just absurd since he literally lives with us without having to pay for anything except for his own entertainment. He said he needed the job and he wasn’t really going to stay and watch his sisters for days on end especially he doesn’t get paid for it.

We kept arguing and my husband got involved and he too was upset saying that my son had no respect for us. my son basically had a “like it or not” attitude with us and kept refusing to discuss this with us saying we have no right to be upset with him and should just accept it.

but I’m just…I think that he’s being inconsiderate of my husband’s and I struggle to provide for the family as a whole. this should mean something to him but he acted selfishly.

The babysitter option isn’t ideal and is because my daughters don’t want a babysitter. they’re both dealing with some issues and are uncomfortable being with a stranger at home. besides that my son decided to stay with them and we didn’t ask him or anything.