Couple of months ago, I told a girl on tinder that I drive a bmw when she asked (gold digger sensor activated) Nonetheless I still met up with her n.
I parked my car and walked towards the spot. When she arrived and while we chatted, she asked where’s my car. I jokingly told her oh bmw means “bus, mrt, walk lol” ( yeah I know, it’s an old dry ass joke I picked up somewhere).
Thought I’d be funny to break ice but bruh she got mad saying I “cheated her feelings” etc and just got up and left.
I was left there like 😕 Anyways left the place and went back to my m340i and just I as was exiting out of the carpark, lo and behold there she was standing by the roadside waiting for grab or whatever.
Wound my windows down, drove slowly towards her, gave her the middle finger and revved the B58 in her face before speeding off.
You always see such stuff on youtube but never imagine it would actually happen to you and actually meet people this shallow and materialistic.
But rubbing it into their face at the end makes the whole experience worthwhile lol.
The tech industry in Singapore and Computer Science is now at the top of the food chain and the forefront of development. It can be said that CS and Tech are the king of all jobs right now. Computing students have both the money and the power, they earn a lot and are generally respected by our society. This is just a small but true story to demonstrate why the tech industry is blooming:
My younger brother (born 1995) have just graduated with a degree in Mechanical Engineering at NUS. However, instead of going for the traditional ME role, he self-taught everything about programming and software engineering, signed up for CS modules as his UEs, and worked remotely for a mid-tier American company for 2 years. He went to class in the morning and went online for only 3 – 4 hours every night to have his works done, earning an official net monthly salary of 3600 USD – or about 4800 SGD. But the main income actually comes from the freelance and commissioned outside projects – completing 1 to 2 of these every week and he could easily earn 9k – 10k SGD in total without paying any additional dollar of tax. After working for nearly 3 years, he now owns a car and a large condominium in Orchard.
Almost every girl are infatuated whenever they hear about IT guys and software engineers. There is this girl studying oversea in Australia, coming back here in Singapore to work and was referred by her older sister to work at the same bank. For some unknown reasons, when my younger brother goes to that bank and doing some transactions, he got both the girl and her elder sister at the same time, and all three started to live with each other in my younger brother’s condominium. The two sisters are hailed from a relatively wealthy and prestigious family, with the father being a university professor and the mother working as a civil servant for the government.
When the parents first heard about the news of all three of them living together, they are quite angry and threaten to disown the two sisters. However, after hearing that my younger brother works in the tech industry, they completely changed their attitude towards him. They called and inquired him almost every week, giving him gifts and doing everything to push him to marry their precious daughters as quickly as possible, so as not to miss on the opportunity. My younger brother should have married the elder sister this month, but due to Covid-19 restrictions and some other issues, they have been delaying their wedding ceremony.
Please don’t judge or be mean. I don’t know who else I can talk to about it. This is not meant to be a joke because I think there may be something wrong with me. I am seeing a therapist for something else entirely, but I don’t think I am ready to share this. I don’t know when it started or why.
Tried to do some deep thinking to find out the root cause of this, but to no avail. I’ve always been addicted to smelling my partner. Like specifically, when they’re extra sweaty and the beautiful scent of the perspiration after it dries up on their skin. The pungent the better. It leaves this sweet, natural aroma. My partner doesn’t know about this. I know people say it’s important to discuss what they like/dislike with their partners but I can’t. When I smell their scent, I just feel so close and so much love.
I’ve always had a thing for smell but never this extreme with my exes.
My partner is serving NS now and whenever he books out, I will tell him not to wash his Smart 4, trying to be sweet and helpful, offering to help him wash. But all I want is to secretly get a whiff of his sweat drenched uniform. I feel guilty and ashamed for this. I feel like I am lying to him just to fulfil my needs. I get secretly upset when he books out in cv because he doesn’t sweat as much when he is in uniform and the smell isn’t the same. I love it especially when he falls asleep without showering because he is too tired. He is also a deep sleeper and we both sleep naked. I will wait until he is asleep. Best if he is asleep with his pigu facing upwards. I would slowly creep up on him and gently spread the cheeks just to get a whiff of that fermented goodness. There’s always this sour smell that I absolutely love. I know many of you will think that it’s gross, but I feel like at that moment, we are truly connected. Sometimes when we get intimate and its my turn to, you know, service him orally.. I would sneakily try to get a whiff of his sweaty ballsack. It has this smell, similar to a swimming pool, chlorine-ish scent and I can’t get enough.
Don’t even get me started on his used underwear. Sometimes I dig through the washing machine just to smell it before starting it up and doing laundry. On a few occasions, he caught me in action and I have to come up with stupid excuses like, “Oh cos I don’t know if the clothes have been washed yet so I smell first”. I don’t know if he suspects a thing and I feel terrible hiding this from him and constantly needing to lie to him to get away with this.
What is wrong with me? How can something wrong feel so right? Is there any like-minded individuals like me or do I need to speak to my therapist about this?
My mum is in her 60s, and dad is in his 70s. They live together but fights (quarrels) so every now and then that it spills over to their children (me, my sister and brother in 30s who moved out with our own families abroad and locally).
We grew up in a mid-low working class family and we appreciate our parents for doing their best to get us all to tertiary education.
Their fights are always about money, my mum is constantly on about how they have no money, and constantly unhappy about how other people around her is more “well off” judging by the type of residence they live in, and by how much their children gives. She’s also very sensitive and constantly thinks that people are disrespecting her, negative about society, inferior about her chinese education background.
My retired dad is tired of her unhappiness and negativity, and so turns a deaf ear to her ramblings in seek for a more peaceful life, in other words, “Bo chup “ (Side note, they have reached that point in life that they are open to part ways but financially not viable)
As children, we tried and are still trying our best to make things better for them, because seeing them happy makes us happy (and be at peace too). Since my mum is very financially insecured, we try our best to chip in monthly. We asked her, what exactly is making her unhappy? She says money, and so we ask how much? And she will beat around the entire bush but not answering the question. We tried to ask her to go socialise with the community and all and she will say “such activities need money one”. Thing is, there are always activities that are less on money like volunteering and all.
She doesnt reach out to us children often (and little grandchildren), saying that because we are busy and so we should call the folks instead. We have a common family group chat and we keep in touch with photos and all for those abroad, but she doesn’t respond to them claiming “wait I say something wrong you all will say again so I just keep quiet la” – thing is we sometimes try to correct her mentality, voice out our thinkings but to her we shouldn’t be disrespecting her.
Thing is, I would love to call her, but if I call her in the wrong timing (when she’s not in the right mood) she will end up saying nasty things and will end up destroying my day too. She says things like “we should live our own lives don’t interfere”, “husband is you choose one etc”, “I have no time for you all, I’m very busy”, “you all Uni grads so now talk like as if you guys know it”, “if I wasn’t a stay home mum looking after you kids last time I would so much more financially stable”…. And the list goes on.
One instance, She made a fuss when my sister in law didn’t call her to announce the birth of her granddaughter before calling her own mother. (They wanted both sets of in-laws to come in diff days to the hospital so it’s easier to handle, but contacted them both on the same day.) little tantrums like these do wreck happy occasions and random days.
Us children talked to her about seeking professional help on her psychological well being, to be at better peace with herself and to count blessings, and also anger management. We’ve managed to get her an appointment And so she’s obviously very displeased with us labelling her, but we’ve told her many times -falling to deaf ears, we children are hoping to help her be happier and are behind her to support.
It really bothers me and makes me sad because she doesn’t see how much we kids love her.
On my side, I’m trying my best to not inherit her behaviour and to be a better mum, to raise my toddler son a different way to how I was raised.
Sometimes I just wish I have happier parents and parents that I can talk to productively and look up to?
The Singapore government should have more agencies to help foreigners. They are the one who wants more foreign talents to work in Singapore, so more help should be provided.
Other countries like New Zealand have free school & healthcare for foreigners. What about Singapore? They should provide more subsidies for foreigners. House rental subsidy as the rentals now are sky rocketing, healthcare subsidies, education subsidies, etc.
They should also assist the foreign families. Allow their spouse to work with a LTVP pass instead of banning them. Singapore needs these foreigners to strive, so they should focus more on foreigners too.
Here are what netizens think:
If you are a “foreign talent” then do your math before moving here. If you can’t, then clearly you aren’t.
No free lunch in this world. Someone else will have to pay for what you want “free”.
Not happy go back loh.
I think you can take a look at the difference in the income and business taxes for both countries before sharing further. What may be viable in one country may not be viable in another.
Since you say other countries, then u go other country la talk so much.
There’s high education foreigners and low education foreigners. High education foreigners are paid $xxk/mth by their own companies and had extensive package which will cover the entire family.
If by giving foreigners a job in Singapore is not helping, then stay in your country try and ask your government to help you with your suggestion.
Shopping (kid’s growing up stage thing, stroller, walker, high chairs etc)
Household necessities
Child necessities (milk powder, diapers etc)
Helper’s salary
These are just some of the things I remembered… im very confused with my partner’s love language… he told me because I said i can afford so he dont give me allowance for the things that stating above as dont pay…
He earns 3/4 times than me… those i stated as dont pay is a monthly expenses… while those “pay” don’t happen frequently… we dont go out often for meal, needless to say we dont go doctor visit every month too… so basically im the one spending more… i dont know whether he is acting blur or he just being stingy to me… whenever i bring up the issue, ended being gaslighting… i told him to take up helper’s salary as its 20% of my salary but not even 10% of his… but he always reluctant to give, and i have to remind him every month…
im sick of being a “beggar” in this situation, any advise how to deal with this type of person?
Here are what netizens think:
I guess both of you never sit down to discuss finances together. Some of the earlier people approach is good. What I can say is tell you hubby to do a proper sit down discuss, share the load equally and plan future goals together. It’s not 1 person responsibility to shoulder the entire household expenses. Do a balance sheet up listing assets, loans and monthly bills that need to be clear. Joint account for joint liabilities – diapers, food, helper, Internet, utilities bills goes here. Each can contribute X amount monthly. If he refused, then you need to consider if he is really a husband that you can depend on in crisis.
Having a bank account with both parties contributing to the account in ratio of payscale?
Yes, he’s stingy. Make him contribute or start taxing him for things that he use and never pay for.
Yep. Tell him u going to stop having a maid. If he wants he pays. Maybe he gambling, investing or just super stingy. Tell him the kids are his also, need to share right.
My wife became a different person after marriage and worse after having our kid.
After marriage, she stopped dressing nicely. She wears the same T-shirt and jeans all the time. When she got pregnant, she stopped putting on any makeup. Now after having our kid, she only showers once every 2 days. Her reason is that she’s tired. Things turned from bad to worse.
Recently she did not shower for a week. She also cut her hair short, so she looks like a tomboy now and has gained a lot of weight from when we first met. The way she talks has changed too. Nowadays, she is either screaming at my kid or complaining about life. This is all very negative. She was no longer bubbly and cheerful.
To be honest, I am not very handsome. I know I have no right to expect my wife to look like a model. But the truth is SHE HAS BECOME A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT PERSON and I feel cheated. I try to find reasons to continue feeling attracted to her but I struggle every day.
I feel love for the mother of my child, but not attraction.
My female friends say it’s because I cannot afford the standard of living that will allow her to upkeep her ‘looks’ and ‘youth’. It’s normal for a woman like her to turn “auntie” in my situation. Perhaps they are right, maybe if I could afford a maid and she could stop working and get help with our kid, then she could look like one of those rich guy’s sugar babies. Even then, I couldn’t understand why other wives could have it all together and mine just doesn’t care and has given up.
A netizen posted on Facebook claiming that a man had allegedly asked him to join him in an empty cubicle while peeing beside him at one of the urinals.
The man posted a post telling people to beware of this fellow. The man said that the incident took place on Monday (November 7) evening at level two of Northpoint’s male toilet.
Northpoint
Beware! Northpoint toilet #02 floor South wing Monday evening 07 November 2022. This guy comes next to you at the urinal and asks you to join him in an empty cubicle!
Keep a lookout and be careful if you have kids attending education classes at that area.
Here are what netizens think:
He needs help to wash the toilet lah….lol
I just love yishun..yishun estate should be the most expensive estate in the whole of sg
Facebook user Ong Boon shared a letter that a taxi driver received from the Land Transport Authority, about his failed appeal against his written warning.
He had received a warning letter for not searching his taxi for any items left behind by the passenger at the end of the trip.
Here is what the letter said
We refer to your appeal dated 11 October 2022, made through Ms Tin Pei Ling. MP for Macpherson SMC.
Our investigation findings reveal that on 9 July 2022 at about 1.26pm, you failed to search your taxi for any property left by the passenger at the end of the trip. Hence, our investigation finds you liable for the offence of “Failing to search vehicle for any property accidentally left by the hirer” under rule 39(1 ) of the Road Traffic (Public Service Vehicles) (Vocational Licences and Conduct of Drivers. Conductors, Trishaw Riders and Passengers) (“PSVC”) Rules. A written warning was issued to you on 28 September 2022.
For clarification, rule 39(1) of the PSVC states that the driver of a vehicle shall as far as practicable, search the vehicle for any property left in the vehicle immediately before or on the termination of any journey. Failing to do so constitutes an offence under the PSVC.
We are satisfied with our investigation findings that you are indeed liable for the offence. Hence, we are unable to rescind the written warning.
Detroit rapper and Hip Hop heavyweight Eminem was inducted into the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame on 5 November, along with Dolly Parton, Pat Benatar & Neil Giraldo, Duran Duran, Eurythmics, Lionel Richie and Carly Simon.
Judas Priest, Jimmy Jam and Terry Lewis also joined the Rock Hall with an award for musical excellence, alongside the Detroit emcee.
Eminem gave a humbling speech, listing down all the rappers who inspired him from A to Z, and said that he was a high school dropout with a Hip Hop education, and those were his teachers.
He also credited Dr Dre for saving his life, as he also reflected on how he almost died from an overdose in 2007, before telling his daughter in the audience to cover his ears as he joked about how the drugs were “delicious”.
He said “it takes a village to raise a child. Well it took a whole genre and culture to raise me.”
Eminem’s full speech
“Can y’all hear me? I can’t hear me. Can you hear me?
“This s–t’s crazy. So I wrote some s–t down tonight that I’m never going to f—ing remember, so I had to read it off the paper and s–t, but it’s from the heart. I realize what an honor it is right now for me to be up here tonight, and what a privilege it is to do the music that I love, and the music that basically saved my life.
“Where’d the man, where did Dre go? The man who saved my life, ladies and gentlemen, Dr. motherf—in’ Dre. So I’m going to try to make this as quick and painless as possible. I’m f—ing stuttering and s–t, I mean Jesus Christ.
“So I’m probably not supposed to actually be here tonight because of a couple of reasons. One of them that I’m a rapper, and this is the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. And there’s only a few of us right now that have been inducted in already, but there’s only a few of us.
“Secondly, I almost died from an overdose in 2007, which kind of sucked. Hailie, plug your ears: because drugs were f——g delicious, and I thought we had a good thing going man, but I had to go and f— it all up and take too many. God d–n. OK Hailie.
“OK, so. Hold on, I lost my mother——‘ spot. Paul, did I say, I said drugs were delicious, right? And finally, I had to really fight my way through man to try and break through in this music, and I’m so honored and I’m so grateful that I’m even able to be up here doing hip-hip music, man, because I love it so much.
And they say you won’t work a day if you love your job and s–t. This part I’m not crazy about? But, OK.
“My musical influences are many, and they say it takes a village to raise a child. Well it took a whole genre and culture to raise me.
“They say success has many fathers, and that’s definitely true for me. So whatever my impact has been on hip-hop music, I never would have or could have done this s–t without some of the groundbreaking artists that I’m about to mention right now.
“And this is a list man, I put this list together yesterday. And I kept adding to the s–t, adding to the s–t, and if I forget anybody, I apologize. But these were my teachers right here:
“I’m gonna start with the 2 Live Crew, 2Pac, 3rd Bass, Alliance, Apache, Audio Two — Milk Dee, what up! — Awesome Dre, the Beastie Boys, Big Daddy Kane, Big Pun, Big L, Biz Markie, the Notorious B.I.G. of course, Black Moon, the Boogie Monsters, Brand Nubian, Brother J from X Clan, Buckshot, Casual from Heiroglyphics, Chill Rob G, Chubb Rock, Chuck D and Public Enemy, Cypress Hill, D-Nice, Dana Dane, De La Soul — now I’m about a third of the way done.
“De La Soul, did I say De La Soul? Def Jef, Del the Funky Homosapien, DJ Quik, Dr. Dre of course, Dres from Black Sheep, Ed O.G., EPMD, Fat Boys, Fat Joe, Fu-Schnickens, Gang Starr, Geto Boys, Heavy D, House of Pain, Ice Cube, Ice-T, the Intelligent Hoodlum, JJ Fad, Jaz-O, Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince, Just Ice, K-Solo, Kid & Play: I’m a tenth of the way done.
“King Sun, King Tee, Kool G Rap, Kool Moe Dee, KRS-One, Kwame, Lakim Shabazz, Large Professor, Leaders of the New School, the one and only LL Cool J — love you bro. Lord Finesse, Lords of the Underground, Mantronix, Masta Ace, MC Breed, MC Lyte, MC Shan, Melle Mel, Merciless Ameer, Mobb Deep, Monie Love, Nas, Newcleus, Onyx, Organized Konfusion, Outkast, Andre 3000, Paris, Pharcyde, Queen Latifah, Rakim, Redhead Kingpin, Pete Rock and CL Smooth, I’m almost done.
“Redman, Roxanne Shante, Run-D.M.C., Salt-N-Pepa, Slick Rick and Doug E. Fresh, Snoop Dogg, Souls of Mischief, Special Ed, Stetsasonic, now I’m all down to the S’s. Super Lover Cee and Casanova Rud, the D.O.C., the Roots, Black Thought, the Skinny Boys, Tony D, Too $hort, Treach from Naughty By Nature, A Tribe Called Quest, U.T.F.O., Whodini, Wise Intelligent and the Poor Righteous Teachers, Wu-Tang Clan and YZ.
“Those were my rock stars man, and I just want to say, like, those are just a few of the names that I hope will be considered in the future for induction. Because without them, a lot of us wouldn’t be here. I know I wouldn’t.
“So that’s all I had to say, man. I know this induction is supposed to be me talking about myself and s–t man, but f— that. I would not be here without them. I’m a high school dropout man, with a hip-hop education, and these were my teachers. And it’s their night just as much as it is mine. So thank you.”
