My ex boss was the worst. He hated everyone in our team and me and my colleagues hated him as well. He hated me the most because I refused to do any work outside of work hours. My colleagues give in to his tyranny and do work whenever he asks but I refused to do it. So I was the first in his firing line. And just like I predicted, he fired me based on some bullshit reasons. This happened over a year ago.

About 6 months ago, they had a company party but the party was at a resort kind of thing so anyone could walk in. My previous colleagues invited me because I was also involved in that project before I was fired. And a lot of people were going to be there so no one would be focused on my presence. So I went there and that’s where I met my boss’ wife Lucy (not her real name). She was very sweet and she and I hit it off even though she was in her late thirties and I am only 25. Towards the end, I asked her how she ended up here and she told me. I was surprised that this a-hole got such a pretty, sweet wife. We talked about reading and books and so she invited me to her book club. I never told her that I worked under her husband.

At first i joined the book club because I like books as well and I just wanted to see if there were other cute girls there (lol). But then me and Lucy hit it off. We then started seeing each other as friends and then pretty soon she was telling me everything about her life. She was emotional with me and trusted me. Turns out her husband is an a-hole to her as well and she would tell me about her marriage troubles.

I was feeling attraction towards her because she was very pretty and we started connecting emotionally as well. I then realised that I could get two birds with one stone. I started flirting over the phone with her and making jokes and innuendoes. At first she was hesitant and then she started flirting back with me. And then I decided to escalate. So about a month ago I invited her to have a “friendly” dinner. We had a nice dinner and then went to have drinks at a bar nearby. I put my moves on her and flirted hard. She was tipsy and she started flirting with me as well. After a few drinks I invited her to my place to have some wine. She said yes. At that point I’m sure she knew what was going to happen.

We went back to my place and then after a glass of wine I kissed her. She kissed me back and then we had the most amazing night of passion. She told me the next day that it was a mistake and to never talk about it again. But then the next week she was in my bed again. I’m pretty sure it’s because she was having terrible s- with her husband and I was an unselfish lover. She was so surprised when I went down on her and told me that has never happened before. So I guess she likes sleeping with me. And so now she is having a full on affair with me. I regularly screw her and send her home to my ex boss.

I don’t regret screwing over my ex boss but I do regret using her like this. She’s a really sweet person and she doesn’t deserve this. Feels good to finally get this off my chest.

Hi, I am posting this due to constant worries that I am having over my financial situation and Uni studies.

I am 23M who ord-ed in May this year, and has been working in temp/contract jobs since May till the end of October this year. My parents want me to go for University, but my GPA in Poly was 2.5 so I am unable to qualify for all the local unis, other than SUSS Part-Time.

I have applied to James Cook Uni in Singapore, as well as no-bond sponsorship which will reduce the tuition fee to 50% of the total fees (The original school fee is 60k) – So with the sponsorship I am looking at about 30k worth of Tuition fees to pay. The reason I have applied for JCU is because it’s the only Uni with a course that is related to what I used to study in Poly, and I am granted several module exemptions which allows me to graduate faster.

I have many worries – I still have no clear idea on what I really want to do as a Professional Career (What if my studies actually doesn’t contribute to my future career?) and my family’s financial situation is a mess. My parents barely have any savings for retirement (Mother has only about 50k savings also not much in CPF, apparently my Father has only about 200k savings, no CPF).

My father is a foreigner (hence no CPF) who has been living overseas for the past 10+ years, and while I have been trying to have a proper discussion with him about my Uni, due to time differences and his tight schedule so far I am unable to have a proper talk with him (only had short 3~5min conversations) even after several weeks.

I am feeling very frustrated and horrible now… Parents are getting old, my father wants to retire soon and my mother told me that she is depending on me and my younger sibling for her retirement. Considering my parents’ total savings would be only about 250k, I feel so helpless right now… And I don’t want my younger sibling to worry about supporting my parents. I have been constantly thinking whether enrolling into JCU is the right choice to make, and contemplated several other options.

Now, JCU wants me to make a decision by end of today, on whether I want to continue my enrolment with them (Have to make first payment of 12k), as school is starting lessons next week. I have only about 14k, so I will need to borrow from my parents the remaining 16k to study in JCU.

I can’t help but worrying that finance-wise I have no time to be studying full-time and that I should be working, gaining work experience while figuring out what I truly want as a Career. Studying at SUSS part-time would also be cheaper than JCU’s tuitions fees even with its sponsorship (SUSS 15~20k vs JCU 30k) allowing me to work and study at the same time, but there will be no exemptions and I would only start next year July, so I will likely only graduate in 2027/2028 (In comparison, JCU allows me to graduate in 2024/2025). This would also mean that I am turning down the JCU sponsorship and most likely will not be given a second chance. Considering that most job positions with decent or better pays require at least a Bachelor’s, I am very torn between my options and deciding what is the correct path to take.

I am very sorry for the long walls of text… But I feel so lost now and I hope to know other’s opinion on my situation and your recommendations on what I should do… Thank you.

Parents that fear everything

Does anyone else feel that your parents tend to always view the world with a kind of pessimistic / fear-based lens — as if there is evil lurking in many corners everywhere and one misstep and people would be out to get you?

I never really thought much about this or noticed it until I wanted to try solo travel for a week after graduation (something I’ve thought about for a long long time since i had to forgo exchange due to COVID).

And also because my parents rejected me multiple times when i broached the idea of overseas family travel months ago

Did my research on the place (Taiwan), and will be paying for 100% of it out of my own pocket.

But when i told them of my plans they just shot me down immediately and started out listing down how taiwan or overseas in general is super dangerous, like they are expecting me to be kidnapped anytime and to never return… what?

Tried to convince them that taiwan is pretty safe but of course will take precautions, dont stay out late etc but they refused to listen and kept repeating how the world is dangerous to me.

Am so befuddled.

My girlfriend gives me money every time I buy her a present. Or she just goes out and buys something equally expensive for me.

Is this normal?

I used to buy gifts for my ex girlfriends and they would usually just accept them with a smile. My friends’ girlfriends too are happy to receive presents.

My current gf and I have been together for about two years. We’re both successful. She always insists on splitting the bill when we go out.

She looks really uncomfortable when I give her expensive presents out of the blue. At first, she would simply refuse to accept them. But when I insisted, she started going out to but something, of equal value, for me immediately.

If she’s unable to do that, she simply gives me money. The amount being equal to the value of the gift I gave her.

I feel like she should loosen up a little and not let herself get so stressed over a present.

I wonder what people here have to say.

I just caught my dad cheating and the woman he is cheating with is pregnant

So I (f16) decided to go to a local coffee shop and get a drink. When a spotted my dad with this woman… not to big of a deal they could have been co workers or something.

Then he started brushing her hair out of her face while he was taking and he had a big smile on his face. Definitely something you don’t normally do with just a friend or co worker. So I started recording. Then they kissed which where I’m from you definitely don’t do that with a friend.

I also noticed this woman is in her mid to late 20s while my dad is 41. I also noticed this women is very much pregnant probably around 8ish months.

After I got my drink I decided to confront my dad and walk up to them. I just said hey dad what are you doing? He looked shocked but then said oh just getting coffee with a friend. I decided to be brave and said so you kiss all your friends like that.

I seen panic in his eyes and he quickly said don’t tell your mom. I then asked if the baby was his? He said a quick yes while not even looking at me. I just said wow you had at least around 9 months to tell mom about your affair yet you haven’t, I’m really disappointed in you. Then I left.

My dad has a job in business so we always thought he was busy at work but we now see where he spent some time. I was going to text my mom right away but she’s at work right now and she’s a nurse so I don’t want to distract her from a important job.

So I’ll tell her when I get home from school. I feel really bad for my mom she told me this morning my dad had a early morning meeting. I could see sadness in her eyes I asked what’s wrong she admitting to wishing he was home more to be with us.

So yeah I can’t believe my dad did this my mom definitely deserves better though.

Lost a friend during the Itaewon Incident.

She was a nice friend to talk to.. really very extroverted. Her smiles and laugher never fails to cheer me up whenever we video called each other. She was really gone too soon.

Her hopes and dreams to become what she want in the future crashed that night. When I saw the video of someone doing the cpr of the costume she wore, i knew she was gone. Whenever i was upset, she will be the person who always cheer me up and gives me advices whenever i need them.

There were too many things i wanted to say to her. Even a simple “Thank you for listening to me ” she couldn’t hear it right now. We were supposed to meet next year once i finished my school for my graduation trip. Now i only could silently pray she could come back to my dreams.

Or maybe when i look up at the skies finding the brightest star, that would be her shining telling me that she is fine up there.

Lives were all gone too soon, so please cherish everyone and tell them how much you love them today before it’s too late…

Here are what netizens think:

• Whenever there’s a tragedy there are people looking to scam people using it. Verify your friend’s passing and be careful of requests for money for the funeral and so on.

• that’s why better live in the moment than future. tell the people who matters to you what you want to tell him. life is too short to procrastinate.

Bf visited prostitute during our vacation

Hi All,

I would like to get any advise on how to deal with my current feelings. My boyfriend is a supporting boyfriend and and we are in a RS for about 2 years. Recently we just went for a vacation and he visited to red light distinct while I was visiting to my relative there ( about 4ths last). While I was not with him for about 4 hrs, he visited prostitute and lied me that he was meeting a friend.

I have a gut feeling that something was wrong cuz normally he posted ig story when meeting frds in there but this time, didn’t post anything.

Since he is left out with cash, I checked his credit card DR and found out that he spent for taxi and prostitute.

I asked what he did, he kept lying he was visiting his frd and asked me that I am the insecure person and wanted to break up with me.

Is it normally for guys to visit prostitute even when you are in serous RS?

Should I ignore my feelings and choose to believe the lie ( which I know the truth and have evidence). I didn’t show the evidence yet but just asked him where did he go.

Here are what netizens think:

• This is seriously disrespect to u. He is on a vacation with u, and he sees no wrong in doing it with another one? How do u intend to build a relationship and even considers marriage when there is no trust now? Dun cheat yourself ( even though he cheated on u ), do the right thing and get out before u get “presents” from his exploits.

• As usual. Drop and find a better guys. U dun want him to pass you unnecessary diseases to you. Girl once u have better health than talk about serious relationships. If he is serious about you. He will not even thinking of going to visit those “lady” in the right light district.. live your own dignity. Good luck girl.

• His friend is the pros and he just lent her money to help her out. They sat in the room for 4 hours and chat, ordered food and drinks. Such kind friends hard to find, should be cherished.

RS Advice & Rant

Erm just needed somewhere to talk about how I’m feeling.

So I broke up 9mnth ago and I’ve met my current bf 4 mnth after I’ve broke up. Everything’s going well but I’m slowly thinking again.

I couldn’t stop comparing my ex and my current bf. Things like this makes me compare them:

1) I’m at my bf place, we both fell asleep until it’s about time to go back, I’ll wake him up and he’ll send me back home. He always woke up angry and kept saying he’s tired this that blah blah blah. I’ve tried to not go over to this place to avoid this kind of situation but then he’ll say we dont really have time for each other and this is the only time. He make time for me but I keep finding excuses to not meet him, even if not to his place when I ask him to go out riding all he’ll tell me very far, lazy, he’s tired then if not tell me dunno where to go.

As for my ex, he always have a plan. Even if he doesn’t, he’ll just keep it a surprise. Even tho we always end up at places where we do nothin just chit chat. Everytime I’m at his place, when it’s time to go home he’ll immediately get up and send me back, even tho he stay in the west I stay in the east. No complaints all. Nothing.

2) That day, I was sharing with my bf and we eventually talked about our future. Like if I were to get married to him, having a child all. Ofc we eventually came to a disagreement. He immediately shut me off by saying, him alone working is not enf to support the family. I was disappointed. I kept quiet ofc as me myself is quite an independent person, I always wanted to work even if I were to have a child. I don’t believe in him alone working will be enf for everything. And I won’t have to BEG for money.

But as for my ex, he’s more of like 心疼我. He’ll tell me in future I don’t have to work, he’ll wants me to accompany our baby until she’s way older. He told me that he don’t want me to work then go home still need to take care of her. He don’t want me to be so tired.

3) As for me personally I really loves to ask alot qns. One day me and my bf were going somewhere then we were going to this highway (I forgot where) then I saw a gantry beside it. I asked him, why is there a gantry. That’s mean they’ll close the highway? My bf shouted at me, I was shocked. Immediately I thought I shouldn’t have said anything. I’ve disturb him. Often, most of the time. No everytime. We go out, he’ll be listening to music. Even tho it’s just a short distance like 5min.

But as for my ex, we often talk alot alot during the whole ride. I’ll ask him this that all, he’ll reply me gently. Then we’ll both laugh. The whole journey wasn’t boring at all, I’ve enjoyed myself during the whole ride. That’s probably the best ride that I’ve ever had. And that’s maybe one of the reason I wanna get a bike. One day I could ride beside him but sadly dreams doesn’t come true.

4) I’ve got nothing to talk to with my bf. I wanna share my work things with him but on a second thoughts I just kept silence. Cause everytime I share something he’ll be doing something, focus wasn’t on me. If not will be him complaining about things halfway when I’m still talking. Or when I’m in alot of stress that time when I had a feeling that I’m going to be fired from my work. I shared with him and what he kept repeating was why you kept want to resign, it provides you studies all. In Singapore you can’t just survive with whatever u have now. He called me and kind of like nagged and repeat everything he send me thru text. I told him “it’s not about whether I want resign or not. It’s about boss wants me not.” And I ended the call.

My ex. Wow, we could talk from 11pm atw to 8am. He’ll bring me to places, we just talk the whole night. We just had alot alot of things to share. When he talk, I listen. When I talk he listen. We gave our attention to each other.

Well, there’s alot more. But I can’t be listing everything here if not gonna be damn long.

Tbh I’m seriously thinking is my bf now a rebound or is it cause I haven’t completely move on. Isn’t that the same haha. But I really want to settle down, I’m lazy to meet new people whoever. Sometimes I’m wondering, if not just suck it up. Who knows maybe in future I’ll end up loving my bf alot more? And we’ll be happy?

Well, afterall my ex is someone I really loves alot. i also dunno whether I’ll love my bf as much as I love my ex not. But I guess I’ve lose my ex for good.

To my ex. If you’re reading and happened to know that it’s me, great! You know how good you are as a bf last time. I’m taking good care of her, don’t worry. And also don’t disappoint her. Last long! Hope you’re happier