This is a long one but.. i just need to get it out of me.

My husband and i dated for 2 years before getting married. We basically are all about each other, with nothing much to complain except for his daily forgot to put the toilet cover back down moments and the typical gaming too much matters. Hes the best partner i can ever ask for, and places me above everything else. Theres only one problem that is driving both of us crazy ; his psychopath ex girlfriend.

I am not calling her a psychopath for no reason. They broke up before we officially started dating, (at least on his end he broke it off) this i am certain because ive seen his breakup text and we are also not hiding or anything. We legit met each others family, and friends. (His family hated the ex girlfriend too anyway). She refused to acknowledge the breakup, and thats fine, i know people need time to let go. But the problem is, shes a stalker.

To begin with… my husband is traumatised by this woman during their 7/8 years long relationship. Ive seen conversation histories and talked to his friends and family to verify that. Hes not a cheater. Probably 3 years into the relationship or maybe even earlier, he started trying to call it off.

She.

1. Somehow got the whole world to put the blame on him that hes letting such a “wonderful girl” go and hes at fault, dunno how to treasure blablabla. My husband is a noob at socialising tbh. He doesnt have much friends and all these ppl only hear her side of the story obviously. So he could only keep quiet cause… yah thats him. We fought over that too. She will also get close to his colleagues and start telling them how abusive he is and plead with them to ask him cherish her.

2. Refuse to use condoms. When he insist, poke holes in condoms and when he found out, admit to it and go on to say shes pregnant and will “settle it” if he doesnt want the baby. Never once let him go with her to the clinic for the procedure or see any paperwork. And den whenever he brings up a breakup, blame him for the abortion that he never was able to be there for. S*x was becoming a chore apparently.

3. NSFW point. After giving him a mouthful of me or after s*x, uses a mirror to check how much he “finished” because apparently according to her there should be a certain amount of cream if hes not cheating. (Guys… disturbing anot?)

4. Added some blue pill (or something similar) to his food without him knowing so that she could force him to have s*x with her. She doesnt give a damn if hes allergic and ive also seen text of him telling her straight he hates having s*x with her and doesnt even want to touch her. Apparently… no shes not affected. Put drugs in food, climb on him, get the job done. And then feel proud about herself and continue telling him how hes nothing without her.

5. Call his whole family just to haunt him down when he decides to ghost her finally. Threaten to hurt people around him if he doesnt cut them off. Stalked him at the stair case and even pull down her pants and ask him to screw her to prove hes not cheating. (Thankfully… im on the line to prove he did not). And moreover at that time we were already officially dating and he already broke up on his end. But … yah.

6. Logged into his facebook and instagram without him knowing. (Havent figure out how she knows the password but we thinking either he forgot to logout after she demand he logged in to let her check his accounts while they were still together, or she bugged his phone. We have changed the phone.) I went on instagram login history and found login timings of like 4am from her device near his place and MY workplace too. (Nope definitely hes not with her as we sleep with the phone line connected before we got married.)

7. Post 1k over post on her instagram about how hes mentally abusing her and how worthless he is but ends the post with telling the world how forgiving and loving she is and is (insert 5k words here), so loving and faithful.

8. Made a copy of his mailbox keys and have been taking his mails including bank statement and dont know what else. We have since changed the mailbox lock.

9. Post tons of stuff on instagram claiming is from him when…. i know its not. Because i commented on her post to question it and she blocked and delete me immediately..! (Nearly a bunch of flowers every week.. which of you normal office man can afford it? Or want to waste such money even if you can?)

10. We earlier in the year cut off a payment for an insurance policy on his card which is for her policy. Its a small amount and he didnt notice it so when i did while going through our transactions i demand we cut it off. And we called the bank to do so. However my mistake to ask him no need to cancel the card. 2 months later there was another deduction on the same card which we did not authorise. We have since made a police report to see if she have authorised the payment (since she have his card details anyway) and we have also canceled the card.

P.S and she loves to post selfies on her ig and the typical “dont know why everyone comment on my skin very good”, “i dont put make up one”, “i just walking only got abang ask me am i lost…” basically, her instagram is either quotes to call my husband a serial cheating and herself a forgiving saint, or selfie of self praise.

AND ill never forget what he told me. That she told him she know someone in the army or DTSA (that i forgot), that can use GPS to track him down wherever he is. And he believed it becauae she did turn up at places and situations he didnt want her to. (To me, simple stalking because… really? Breaking the law to use country’s GPS to help her track someone down?

If this person sounds familiar to any of you (but i guess not since shes really good at sounding like the wise woman you MUST marry….), please ask her to give herself some respect and move on. You cant force someone to love you or choose you but you can love yourself and make yourself worthy of love. My husband can be a jerk, but he definitely dont deserve such treatment by someone whom claim to love him “deeply”. If you are calling him abusive on your ig and calling him useless, constant comparing him to your friends that open shops and blablabla, move on to someone like that.

Hes with me and im happy to have him cooking scrambled eggs for me everyday.

And if anyone have worst experience about “exes from hell…” i really want to hear it and read it with my husband so we can laugh over our bittersweet experience and maybe you can laugh with us too. 🤣🤣🤣 as the chinese saying goes, 苦中作乐。would appreciate some advice too. As off yesterday, it seems she is still stalking us.

I recently met a guy online, he seems to be a ‘well to do guy’ and he is very polite that’s why I agreed to meet him for a meal.

I told him that eating anywhere is fine and he insist that I dress up as he said that our first meal together should be special and he brought me to an atas restaurant.

He told me that he is a regular at the restaurant as he enjoys the food there, I started to ask him if he brings a lot of girls there. He said I’m the first one and I started to suspect him.

We enjoyed our food and chit-chatted more and more, I really enjoyed talking to him. He said that he will send me home after the meal and he called the waiter for the bill.

When his wallet opened there were a lot of cards inside, most of them look like visa credit cards.

While we were waiting for the bill he started to talk about his career and said that he got promoted recently as a senior manager and started to brag, which was a different side of him.

The waiter came back and said that his credit card has been declined and I was kinda shocked. I decided to save some face for him and played my phone and pretend that I did not hear it.

He took another credit card from his wallet and he tried again, he then tried to explain that maybe he forgot to pay the bills for his credit card and I told him it’s okay.

This time he did not wait for the waiter to return and he went to the counter and watch the waiter tried to charge his credit card. I decided to play some games on my phone while waiting for him.

When I turned around, he was gone. I asked the waiter where he went, the waiter said:

“He said that you will settle the bill and he has already left as he was in a hurry for something”

I was like wth… I don’t mind paying but this kind of behaviour is just too loser. He could have told me the truth about him, I don’t care if he had money anot. Just find that he’s nice to talk to. But everything is a lie, that’s why wallet have so many credit cards. He is living a life of loans and lies.

I settled the bill and tried to contact him but he has already blocked me on Whatsapp and on the dating app.