I really need to vent about this and any support is welcomed right now.

Hello, so I’ve been dating a guy for about 5 months now, we even called ourselves bf and gf, we only just recently slept together last weekend then my world came crashing down when I just happened to find out he was married ..

he told me had two children but never mentioned his marriage. I confronted him, of course he said the normal things how he truly loves and cares about me and so on.

I feel so stupid and embarrassed even tho I had no idea. I slept with him under the guise that I was his gf, we went out in public on dates plenty of times, he showed me affection kissing me and being all over me I honestly thought this man was my bf.

Of course I know it has to end I’m not stupid, but I’m soo hurt and sad about this and I have no other support to go to simply because I’m embarrassed to even open up to anyone about this.

We did plenty of other things so me thinking he just wanted to get in my pahnts wasn’t in my mind at all. He claimed I was more than being physical to him and that he cares about me….

I found out from lurking on Facebook but somehow he claims to think someone he knows told me which isn’t true but I didn’t tell him.

I told him I couldn’t continue with a man that was married and even threatened to tell his wife and he didn’t care not one bit.

I grew up in a home where my father constantly cheated on his wife so it’s personal for me because as a child I know how that takes the dads energy a way from his children.

I feel so bad about myself and kind of worthless honestly

Obviously, fake name. Anyways, a while ago, I was working a contract for a rather significant pharmaceutical company.

Our manager was great. Attentive, offered good career advice when you needed it, always had your back when the proverbial hit the fan, and guided us through some difficult times with lunch on the company card. The guy was excellent – one of the few times I could hand-on-heart say it!

However, good things don’t last and as higher-ups decided that Support was way too happy, decided to dispose of our leader.

Enter Angie… there are few words to describe Angie. We’d heard tell of her actions and personality through her previous subjects during our morning coffees around the campfire.

Apparently, she would snipe and shout at you for merely existing and apply the logic of a 3-year-old suffering major attention deficit disorder.

Angie had been in charge of drug safety for about a decade.

Now, from what I could tell, these guys seemed to be very well versed in everything from chemistry, to biology and some were even former doctors. None of this sheer brilliance washed with Angie; she merely treated them like tools that she had no idea how to use and would bang with a hammer when they worked her way – even if her way was clearly stupid.

Still – judge no book by its cover and all that!

Angie arrived in Support a day early mere moments after our former hero had walked. She immediately proceeded to command facilities to join her at her desk, where she chewed out a 17-year-old girl mercifully due to there being dust on her desk and grit in her drawers.

This relentless torture went on for a good 20 minutes while Angie inspected every inch of the girl’s effort to appease her whims, even re-cleaning several spots more than once.

Afterwards, she walked away red-faced, eyes to the ground and with a lump in her throat after just about getting the words to indicate she will have her drawer pack replaced with a brand new unit.

We all knew it was to be a new world order with Angie’s arrival; we would have thought her showing up a day early was to meet and greet the troops… it was very apparent to me that she was just a vicious troll marking her territory, showing everyone who was boss!

She was like hitler reincarnated.

Suffice it to say, we finished up the day typing up CVs and comparing layouts.

A man shared a story about him buying insurance from his friend’s mom because she fits his appetite.

Here is the story:

I have been controlling myself for a long time. My friend’s mom is the ultimate hottie. I always find excuses to go to my friend’s house to talk with him but I just wanted to interact with his mom. Im 21-years-old but his mom is only around the mid to late 30s cause she gave birth to my friend when she was a teen.

Then his mom approached me one day and asked if I have any insurance to protect myself from accidents and blah blah, that was when I realised that I had hit the jackpot and an opportunity had arisen. I was not listening and using my eyes to scan her whole body like an x-ray machine.

She then asked if I was interested to switch my insurance provider to her company and I agreed, cause if she is my agent I can meet her as and when I want.

So we met on another occasion without my friend at a restaurant near my home and she prepared her laptop for me to sign the insurance documents. While signing, We started to have a casual chat and she said that my friend is a good kid despite growing up in a single-parent family.

Then she also asked me about savings or investment insurance, I told her maybe the next time we meet we can talk more about it, I told her that I have something on and left. But the fact is I have nothing on and I’m trying to ‘brew the tea right.

So I started texting her under the pretence of asking about insurance policies but I was just trying to know her more and letting her know me more.

We met about a month later and we were texting like we were friends, she complimented me saying that I’m mature and thinks about protecting myself with insurance and doing some savings. She compared me to her son and said that I sound 10 years older than his son, that was when I know the time for me to ‘cash out my winnings.

I said: “Do you see me as a boy like your son or a man?”

She laughed and said I’m definitely a man and blink one eye at me (WOAHHHHH), not trying to be a snob here but I am highly intelligent. I’m thinking there is a higher chance she is saying that I’m a man cause she wants to please the customer, but my other ‘brain’ is saying there is a chance.

So we started laughing and there was some light flirting and I said “well your an attractive woman and still young, no find a boyfriend?” She said cannot lah she don’t put any pressure on my friend and said she prefer something casual.

Then my eyes open wide like an owl in the night, I told her in a smoky voice “Elaborate what’s casual?” and I blink my eye back at her.

I will update again, I am definitely swallowing her even if I have to buy one more insurance policy from her.

Is it normal to feel slightly affected that my boyfriend seems to be a little stingy with me?

We’ve been together for more than a year now and I buy him stuff and treat him to meals every now and then, but he rarely ever does the same for me. He’s generally a frugal person (although he does spend huge sums on his own stuff on the rare occasion that he shops) but sometimes I can’t help but feel affected and ponder whether it’s because he doesn’t love me as much.

He expects me to transfer him back for everything he pays for but more often than not doesn’t take the initiative to do the same for things I paid for.

I am not the confrontational sort, and I don’t want to hurt him or make money a sensitive issue in our relationship if I do bring this up, iykwim. He also didn’t put much effort into celebrating our anniversary and my birthday, and he was a little unhappy about the bill for my birthday (he treated, and the bill came up to ~$30 total for the both of us, while I was happy to treat him to the same place for his birthday regardless of what he wanted to order) I’d like to think I’m not the materialistic sort who expects unrealistic treatment from a partner, so I do feel bad for having such thoughts but can’t really help it.

I love him but wonder whether it’s normal to feel this way? I am afraid of what it’ll mean for the long-term; feeling hurt and/or not worthy. Is this something that will change overtime when guys feel more committed to their girl or something? Or is this indicative of different lifestyle habits and expectations?

How do yall deal with imposter syndrome?

I met up with my secondary school clique recently and we usually meet up twice a year. Amongst us, there is a management consultant in one of the world’s biggest consulting companies and an entrepreneur that did not make it to any university (back then). The rest of us are just normal local uni grads and typical employees now.

During the meet-up, said the management consultant was talking big as usual. We are used to it. Things took a turn when he commented on the entrepreneur’s business. The consultant even gave ideas on how the business could be run better. The business owner just kept quiet and we could all tell that he was not interested in the conversation. This ticked the consultant and he doubled down, saying how he does this for a living and business owners usually pay loads of money for his company’s inputs.

The business owner snapped and retorted that while the consultant was enjoying life in university, he was out getting slaughtered in the real world. What does a uni grad know about building a business with 8-figure revenue while maintaining a decent margin and still thriving despite covid? Salaried employees should just stick to their lane and learn from their bosses and stop pretending that they are the shit. Especially if they are fresh grads and have less than 10 years of experience in the real world.

While that was directed at the consultant. The rest of us heard it and felt damn bad about ourselves. We thought we worked hard for our degrees but there is no denying, objectively, that the business owner had it harder than all of us. Most of us enjoyed our time in hall and our biggest worry back then was exams, while our friend was out there trying not to be bankrupted and struggling to find customers. But does that mean our degrees mean nothing? Some of us tried to ask the business owner about being an entrepreneur and he replied that we are better off climbing the corporate ladder since not many survive in the business world.

However, how did he survive? Our time in NUS made us believe that we can achieve anything but I can’t help but feel small in light of the real competition out there…..

An employee at a local company send Singapore Uncensored a story of an unqualified general manager’s behaviour.

Here is the story:

Hi, Thanks for publishing my story I have more to share.

Sometime back, it was lunchtime I was chit-chatting with 3 other managers of our hobbies and one of the managers started laughing a bit loudly.

Well, it was lunchtime and no one cared. But the general manager came out of the room and stared at us with hate in his eyes and slammed the door at us. The managers were shocked when they heard the loud bang and quickly scattered like ants.

However, the CEO’s childhood friend was among the group that was chatting.

A day later while having a meeting with my general manager he said that the other managers should not be chit-chatting and make so much noise.

I angrily told him: “Hello you bang door the noise even louder, you not happy can say no need bang here bang there. We working in an office not go Geylang gang fight”

He said that he was just showing his authority as a general manager. I said: “Good luck to you, you just slam the door on the CEO’s childhood friend who is a senior manager in the company.”

After I told him that, his face turned green and started being nice to all the staff for the next 2 weeks.

But a leopard never changes its spots and a dog will forever eat faeces. Again his lan jiao behaviour came back again.

A man shared a story stating how he was wrongfully terminated from his job after his job got jealous of him.

He said that the boss is also interested in the waitress working there but he has been rejected by him several times.

Here is the story:

I just started working at a bar a few weeks ago but I was fired today.

The very first day I started my job as a bartender I noticed a waitress that was my cup of tea and we started to get more friendly and eventually got together last week as the feelings were mutual.

The boss of the bar was in his 40s and he was interested in the girl as well. After he found out that she was attached to me, he decided to fire me for a bull*** reason.

Here is some context, both my girlfriend(the waitress) and I are in our early 20s. So the boss who is interested in her sounds like a complete chiko pek, he is late 40s.

Here is the reason:

“You have failed your probation period and we will no longer be hiring you at this bar”

When I asked why, here is the bull reason:

“Your cocktails do not taste good enough”

I was dumbfounded as the bar doesn’t even sell cocktails it was just beer and straight-up liquor.

Is there anything I can do about it? Can I seek any help from MOM to get back at my boss for firing me for such a bull reason?

I don’t need the job I can find another one easily. I just want to get back at him.

Am I wrong for distancing myself from my friend?

I can’t stand how he is so desperate to look rich. He always asks to borrow my designer items to appear like he has more than he actually does.

Few months ago, I sold him my LV bag (brand new without box). Now he is asking me to call the LV store to give him the empty box. Ship it to him. An empty LV box. Isn’t it so embarrassing?

He likes to borrow my Rolex and posts photos of himself wearing them like it’s his. Even like to take photo with my car keys.

It’s not that he don’t have. But he wants to act like he has so many. And use mine to do these embarrassing things.

Sometimes I will make excuses not to borrow him my things. But he will say “why not? You’re not using it that day.” Or if not next day, or next day or next day until he can use it. So desperate.

It’s his right to be like this but I don’t want to associate with this type of people because it is so low class to me and embarrassing. I don’t want to call LV to ask for an empty box.

I don’t want to tell him he’s embarrassing and has no class. I don’t want to hurt his feelings unnecessarily. But how do I cut him out of my life?

In the recent debate about dating foreign girls, the thing is just like anyone from any country, there are going to be pros and cons. Its really just about your personal preferences. Being the level 99 love guru that I am, let me break it down for you kids.

Dating a singaporean girl

pros:

-she probably earns as much as you do, and she has cpf as well. So she can pay 50-50% for your HDB or your future kid’s university fees.

-contrary to popular belief, sg girls are really not that materialistic. They earn as much as you and can pay for their own stuff really. If you are dating a Siam Bu, you will need to give her $1k per month for her grandmother’s neighbor’s dog’s hospital bills or something.

cons:

-after watching too much Disney films when she was a kid, too much Korean dramas in her teens. Worse of all, being spoiled rotten by her parents, she expects to be treated like a princess. Sg girl: why you dont go Jewel tabao A&W at 1am to my house for me when i hungry? you dont love me anymore right?!

-she cant cook or clean to save her life. Guys if you cant afford a maid, then you ARE the maid.

Dating a singaporean boy

pros:

-he probably earns as much as you do, and he has cpf as well. So he can pay 50-50% for your HDB or your future kid’s university fees. If you are lucky maybe someday he will be rich, if not well at least you wont be poor.

-Sg mothers taught their sons well. He will not insult or physically hurt you. You will be surprised that some foreign men think its normal to abuse women.

cons:

-Childish and immature. Similar to sg girls, sg boys are sheltered by their parents until the point they cant even plan a decent overseas trip themselves. All they seem to be good at doing is being addicted to their video games and mobile phones. Only knows how to bring you to Swensens or jack’s place every single anniversary until the day you die.

-He will probably cheat on you with some Siam Bu or KTV hostess someday. Pro tip: singaporeans hardly use Wechat or Line, so if he is spending alot of line on these apps, you may wana check his phone