I work in retail. I’ve started denying I work there. I find it funny to embrace the awkward. Maybe you will too.

I’m not a very social person, and I can come across as strange and aloof. I’ve been told by my wife that I have resting b—- face. I’m friendly and happy, but the vibe I give off on a first impression, for better or worse (definitely worse), is “this dude probably collects dead bodies.” We all have to play the hand we’re dealt.

Our store is very laid back, you get the idea… These customers don’t know where anything is. So they spot me, decidedly not looking like a model employee – t-shirt, jeans, no nametag, one headphone in. Still, I obviously work here, since I’m doing price tags, cutting open boxes to stock shelves, etc.

Here, we reach a fork in the road. They can ask politely, “Hey, do you work here?” and they’ll be helped to the best of my abilities.

Or, their tone of voice can send them down the other path. The fact that I don’t match their preconception of what a worker drone at some suburban outlet store should look like will add a hint of disdain to their voice when they almost sarcastically sneer:

“Excuse me, do you work here?”

Eye contact, try a smile on (the trick, I read, is to smile with your eyes and not show teeth – I think I’ve mastered it).

Deadpan, very convincing, play my hand as dealt:

“No ma’am, this is just a hobby.”

And back to work, ignoring them.

If they get too upset I’ll give in a little and offer to help them on the condition that they don’t tell anyone I was in here “volunteering” again, but usually it’s just a blank stare and a really awkward silence until they shuffle off and I keep doing what I’m doing. It’s not much, but I get a kick out of it.

I am currently working in a company as a consultant, My job involves entertaining clients who are interested to invest.

So my day-to-day job requires me to talk to many people and sometimes I have to work late due to the pile of admin work.

The company is mid-sized and everyone knows everyone as we have to work together as a team to earn more, the boss’s daughter is also working in the company.

But our relationship is strictly professional and we do not have anything out of work.

So my girlfriend ended work early and decided to wake for me and the office lobby so we can go dinner and go home together.

I happened to exit the elevator with the boss’s daughter and said bye to her.

My girlfriend saw this and her face was more black than Justice Bao. (the guy with the moon)

By the time we get into the car, I asked how was her day the usual. But she refused to answer me.

We finally reached the place we wanted to have dinner and she started to say things like “I’m not hungry” and “I don’t want to eat”. Basically throwing a tantrum like a 5-year-old.

So I eventually have to coax the child-like girlfriend to talk. She finally revealed that she was unhappy because my colleague is too pretty.

Her words left me flabbergasted. I then answered: “So what? That has nothing to do with me”.

She then said she felt insecure.

But let me be clear before anyone judged me. I don’t drink, I don’t go out with friends. All my free time is given to my girlfriend. I remember every single anniversary and I am always concerned with her.

She told me to quit my job and find a new one.

I am doing actually quite well in my line of work and I told her that it is impossible to find a job that pays the same with the bad market.

She then accused me of cheating, saying that I want to work there so I can woo her.

This is not the first time she accused me out of her imagination. She always listens to her “friends” who puts these evil thoughts in her mind.

So I had enough and told her: “Since you do not believe whatever I say there is no point having this discussion, this is not the first time. This is it. Good bye”

I left her and remained single for 6 months.

Here is the joke, I got together with the boss’s daughter later on.

This story i’m going to relate to you is about spooky behaviour from my parents.

One morning around 9.00am i woke up to find my mum looking at my pile of magazines that was lying at the side of my table as well as going through the drawers.

Well nothing Unusual right? I supposed she was looking for something as normally that’s what she would do in my room if she lost something. But this incident was strange. She was flipping through my magazine, every single page of it…which i didn’t mind of course.. but its not like she had great interest in those mags, you know what i mean?

Skateboarding mags?? Or some punk zine or a car mag??

As soon as i was rudely woken by her presence I asked her..”mum can i help?”.. at that instance she turned to her side and walked away, while she was walking to my door (sliding door.. jap style) i pulled out an cheeky/ugly face at behind her back.

As she was halfway between the door, she suddenly stopped and turned around and stared at me as if she knows what i was doing behind her. I was spooked man I tell you, there were this strange cunningness in her eyes.

Then she close the door but i was still sleepy go i went back to sleep. After a while I got up and thought about what had just happened and so I went to see my mum who was in her room happily drinking her cup of tea reading the newspaper .

So I ask her whether what actually was she looking in my room just now? And guess what she said? She said she was never in my room the whole morning! I then told her about the incident and she totally denied it. Then who the hell was it that was going through my drawers and magazines!!!!!!

My mum then brought me to some bomohs and she said it could possibly be some wandering spirits that is trying to take the image of my mum to create misunderstanding or mistrust in our relationship. Well, i can tell you that this spirit is trying to do so, but she had failed because my relationship with my mum is excellent to this day.

When it comes to the appreciation of alcohol there are so many different kinds of standards but there are a few general guidelines most people follow.

There are those who drink to enjoy the alcohol and others who are drinking for the sake of showing they can or trying very hard to impress others.

Here is the story:

I worked in a bistro bar and we serve food and alcohol, one day this extremely large-sized man came in with two other women and asked if he could bring his own bottle of Martell Cordon Bleu to drink on premise, my manager reluctantly agreed.

So the man started to ask for coke to go with his Martell.

We were a bit dumbfounded cause an expensive liquor like Cordon Bleu is normally served with water or on the rocks.

We saw him pour coke into his Cordon Bleu and his lady friends also did so. Guess birds of the feathers flocked together.

One of our waiters asked him why did he drink it with coke, he answered: “I drink Cordon Bleu caused I atas”. Our waiter smiled and walked away. He sounded like a typical Hokkien ah beng and he was talking loudly with a lot of hand gestures trying to impress the ladies that were with him.

Really pattern more than badminton and he continued to talk loudly like it was his house and other customers were complaining.

We told him to keep it down but his ah beng pattern all come out.

Money really cannot buy class, even if you are drinking expensive liquor.

A man recently shared a story on how much money he has to waste on going drinking after a few of his friends brought him to a pub that has local girls.

He stated that not only it is a waste of money but also a waste of time and receives false hope.

Here is what he thinks:

I don’t have much experience drinking but I am quite an observant person.

My friend brought me to a pub along Beach Road and there were a few local girls there who worked as hostesses. They were very young and they most of them look like they have gone through a lot the typical “single moms” or “addict” kind of girls.

They asked to join us for a drink and started drinking together, I knew exactly what they are and I told the girl I don’t need one.

My friend wanted one and questioned me at the toilet later on about why I do not want a girl. I told him that it is a waste of time and money as they are working girls, last time this kind of places all thai and viet girls, now even local girls come in for a piece of the pie.

He then question me if there are other ways to get girls and asked if I was normal. I then asked him if it was normal to use the money to get girls, like that go Geylang one-shot settle even faster.

So back in the bar, the magic question was popped by the girl to buy a drink that cost $100. He agreed and paid for it.

After he paid for the drink, the girl left and did not come back.

I then asked him to go to Geylang sua, at here still pay for drinks waste time and even more money. Don’t get me wrong, I love eating and drinking but I do not enjoy paying for hostesses as I know 90% of them are one kind.

He then diam diam started to think about the money he had to spend all these years to “buy hope”.

Most men go to these kinds of pubs/clubs or siam diu with the hope they can find a girlfriend but 90% of them end up either in tears or bankrupt cause they need to “support the girls” and end up paying more than they can bargain for.

Mostly caused by their ego and they pay for flowers or ladies’ drinks or whatever.

I agree that one can meet a girl in a regular pub or club but I highly condemn these kinds of places.

I’m astound that local girls had stoop so low

I’m subjected to military grade treatment at home where my mum would do random “room inspection” invading my privacy, giving me ptsd.

She would also wake me up everytime even though I do not have enough sleep and blame me for not sleeping early at her stipulated time. Every night whenever she feels like going to bed she would turn off every lights and wifi to force me to sleep as well.

She’s forcing to control my lifestyle and if I were to rebel against her authority she would threaten me saying things like I’m abandoning her. I had to resort to doing things secretly past lights out when she’s asleep and hence sleeping even later which I do not like.

C’mon man, I’m an adult already.

Here are what netizens think:

• Hmmm do you get water parade at 4am and 10pm too? With bottle 90 degrees up and have to drink 500ml each time?

• you will have to take those threats and not back down from them. She can say that for all she likes, she’s gonna actually fear it for real if you don’t back down

• Adults don’t complain but resolve issues. Resolution for your current situation.

1) Move out n pay everything on your end.
2) Start paying electricity and internet bills.
3) Comes to a better understanding on why shes restricting your usage.

She could be having these as well.

1) financial issues
2) care for your eyes and health
3) emotional issues (family issues)

• Some boys do need this, too bad it happens to the undeserved ones tho

• Maybe your mother is the badge lady

Employer terminated me after calling me a joke

I’m reflecting and thinking how to change myself in the future.

Yesterday I got into trouble with my boss and resigned on the spot but got terminated first by her.

I joined this company 2 weeks ago and she has been passive-aggressive to me since the interview and signing of the contract. For instance, she would accuse me and then praise me, say something bad then say something positive like “oh I was just joking”.

Was supposed to meet her to collect my stuff but she cancelled out 8am, saying she had an emergency family meeting, then later when I met her, she slipped that she slept more and woke up at 10. She last minute wanted me to come down at 3pm and said she has no other time and I went.

Work From Home To No Need come back

I was supposed to start WFH on friday and we had a call. Then she stated that I can come down on saturday to have an in person session, which frustrated me more as that was not planned. I said ok to come down 8am-1pm the next day

The next day, I overslept. I woke up at 8.15am and texted in the group that I will be there at 10am. She sent a list of texts that I infer are to guilt trip me or show me she is alpha (in which case, she can go f herself with that attitude). I am not sure what she wants me to do since I had apologised and had taken grab and otw. She was going on about how the other employee’s mother is sick and has to go back at 1pm and me being late has inconvenienced them, and how sat is not usually their working day and they specifically came down for me, and then at one point accused me of taking her company as a joke. I was just like …

I lost it and sarcastically replied that if you have a time machine, please let me know, so that I can go back in time and wake myself up when the alarm rang at 6.30 on saturday morning. She said if she had a time machine, she would rethink her decision to hire me. I asked her what she wants me to do now, come back another day? She said no you can uturn back. I said no worries I will come and return my laptop. She asked how and I replied, she deleted her message for all of us. Manipulative but I guess this is normal in the work place.

Anyway I went there and signed the paperwork and she yelled at me raised her voice, she called me a joke and said I do not know how the real world works. She also kept me beyond 3pm as she made me wait 4 hours for her to print the papers. At one point i got up because she was clearly doing it on purpose and said you can send me an ecopy and I will sign it, she chased after me yelling until the lift “where the f are you going, you need to wait and sign it now and here”.

I recommended them to use e services to make it easier for them, she said no I do not know how the world works. Later when I went home she sent me the paper I signed via gmail so it was clearly to mock me. Anyway dumb girl learnt a lot. Also f her once again.

Anyway she asked me what my problem was, I said I have GAD (diagnosed general anxiety disorder) and she is making it worse by triggering me, ever since I joined. I told her it was impossible to work with her and I do not need to come into work and defend myself or prove myself everyday while she plays difficult. She mocked my GAD diagnosis and said I can’t function like this so good luck to me in the next job sarcastically. Towards the end, she kept saying I am a joke.

Empress Dowager Boss

She handed me a letter of termination saying she is firing me for misconduct and no subordination. I told her I resigned first via text, she said she printed it out first so hers counts. I told her I needed to consult someone to check on this and I will come back, she said I needed to submit it right there otherwise we would have a problem. I signed it and left.

I am kind of very hurt by this whole thing. Whether someone has GAD (i have SAD and MJD as well) or not, if someone is getting upset, you shouldn’t make them more upset. And what is the point of bosses who make their coworker life hell, do they want them to quit or is this a strategy to ensure they stay at low position with lower pay or what? Any anyway I wonder why did she hire me in the first place if she felt that way and was reflecting on what I may have done that could have contributed to this. Has anyone been told such things before?

I also unsafe that she has my address, as well as my parents address. Knowing how unstable she is and the accusation and insults, I do not know what she may do. I wish I had not played a part in it and made her angrier, and now am fearful she may do something bad to me.

I also wonder why she called me a joke, is it my looks, the tone/ my voice that makes her not take me seriously? What can I do to be less of a “joke” and how to respond appropriately with such employers?

Im tired of getting sh*t from my partner everyday.

I’m 25F dating a 21M , we started out okay and then gradually went worst.

He always brings up things that is in the past that did not even relate to him, like the things i did before i even met him.

Its crazy that i dont even know that i will meet him or know him. Things like playing online games with other guys before i met him and he proceeds to get angry and ask me delete the game or whatsoever.

I never even played that game anymore nor even talk to my guy friends anymore, completely cut them off since he dont like me playing with guys.

Every time he brings up something that i did last time before i met him, he throws a tantrum like everything is my fault for not playing or going somewhere with him first, this is next level crazy.

The things that i brought up to him was things that happened in our relationship time that he wasnt suppose to do, like not telling me he was playing with a girl and flirting with her when i was sleeping until I found out by myself.

Things that cross boundaries like spending money on other girls and telling me he has no money for me even to the extend of buying hawker centre food!!!

He even ask me to pay for his portion. I felt really mad when i saw his account, donate money to girls and i really cried the whole time and it was just easy for him to brush off and not even thinking it was anything wrong.

I dont want to control his spending but to this extend that i have to pay for his food when im not even well to do. Its ridiculous.

He will tell me not to bring up the stuff that happen between us and what he did but yet he can complain and scold me for the stuff that i did when i wasnt even in a relationship with him yet.

Better yet, he never felt he was wrong or any guilt when he does that to me! His famous line is STFU.

I do really love him and forgive him at times as sometimes he does take care of me well but i dont like this side of him.

Its stressful, idk how to resolve this relationship problem, just asking for an advice on how to deal with this.

A maid took to Facebook to ask for advice on how to deal with her employers whom she described as hurting her emotionally as a result of their mood swings.

She added that she cleans a 5-storey house by herself and the work is neverending, and the only time she gets rest is during her meal times, which she sometimes skip because she is too tired to even eat.

Here is what she said

How to deal with employers who have mood swings…

and very particular with house cleaning. FYI

I work in 5 storey house (alone) . a lot of work and it is never-ending work. start at 5.30 am finish at 10.30- 11 pm, the only time for rest is only when I’m having breakfast, lunch (sometimes 4 pm because of work) and Dinner (which sometimes I skip because too tired to even want to eat)

I’m going to finish my contract soon.

because of their mood swing, I’m having a hard time deciding whether to continue or not.

I wish I could continue working with them but I know I need to have a strong mentality and a big heart to do that.

I want to ask for a transfer but I’m afraid they will get hurt by the reason i give.

before working with this current employer, i have work for 15 years with my former employer, taking care of their elderly parents until both passed away.

They said they were very nice people (I agree) but many times they hurt me emotionally.

for almost 2 years I cry a lot. working with them is like riding a roller coaster.