Can I choose the citizenship of my child?

Hi!, I am a Singaporean woman married to a foreigner. I was reading about the citizenship law in Singapore and am a bit confused with the information from different years.

I would like to skip taking the SG citizenship, because we plan to move out of Singapore permanently after the baby is born.

When I read the law, the SG citizenship is automatically given to Singaporean women, if they are married to a Singapore citizen as well.

Does this mean that, since my husband is foreign, we can forgo SG citizenship and just apply for his nationality’s citizenship?

I just want to know if the SG citizenship would be automatically granted to my baby or not. If you know this, thanks in advance!

Netizens’ comments

• Hi! i’m in the exact same situation as you. you’re right, the information out there is vague and not exactly helpful. but my husband and i want to move back to his home country within the next few years as well.
• I have emailed ICA and they got back to me swiftly saying that if I am Singaporean and my baby is born in Singapore, there is no option to opt out of Singapore Citizenship
  They also advised that renounciation of Singaporean Citizenship can only be done when the child turns 21 years old (i.e. after doing NS). hope this helps! our plan is to deliver overseas.
• My spouse is foreign and my two boys hold dial citizenship. ( SG+Foreign) Until they turn 21 and only after completion of NS can they give up one or the other citizenship.
  In the event that you for whatever reason decides to comes back to SG and if your son does not have Singaporean citizenship. Then it will be more expensive to go to school as he won’t be able to easily enroll in local schools.
  And of cos he will have to come in on a dependent pass which is not an issue usually. As your child is a boy. I would suggest you give it a serious consideration whether you want him to take up SG citizenship…cos the complication that comes with NS liability.
  If it’s a girl…then no issues..just register and take the baby bonus and other incentives. In my case as I am living in SG and no intention to relocate. ….I suppose I don’t have much of a choice….good luck

My parents are very close to retirement and would like to retire in a more spacious place (don’t ask me why I’ve tried talking them out of it). Nevertheless as their sole child, I got put to the task. I set a strict budget after assessing CPF and potential cash proceeds of our current flat, engaged an agent and finally found a massive slightly older flat with nice unblocked views that ticked most of our boxes. Though within budget, we needed to fork out quite a lot for reno and owner was adamant on getting a certain COV level (close to 90k). After a few counter offers we lost to an all cash offer.

Agent made my dad sign some contract as soon as we gave first offer to the first flat, including another to sell our current flat. Since we lost the flat, we’ve been brought to viewings to flats in Punggol and Sengkang that frankly, feel like a complete downgrade from where we currently live with insane COVs with nothing to show for it (e.g. confirm need reno, far from LRT, no privacy, cramped, etc)

I’ve kept telling my parents over and over that where we are now is extremely valuable (2 MRT lines literally across the road, 3+ malls etc you can already guess where we live lol) and even if 50 years on nobody would buy the flat, the government certainly will because it’s undeniably valuable real estate. Downgrading to a flat in NE area just for extra room feels like a complete waste of their hard earned retirement funds (complete wipe out of their CPF OA plus need to fork out cash). My dad hit FRS already but I’d much rather they have excess of cash for a comfortable retirement than undertake a crushing 3k+ monthly mortgage for another decade.

The agent seems to sense that I’m the main deterrent to my parents throwing money to a random flat and has been a little more terse with us recently (understandably because my parents are quite picky and find flaws everywhere but not unreasonably so).

Our current flat is an easy sale (people will literally knock our door and ask us if we intend to sell) so the agent has been quite pushy to start listing when we very clearly told them from start that we will buy first then sell only.

I feel like I’d be doing them a favour by cutting them loose because our family isn’t desperate for a house like a young couple is. Do we have to pay a certain fee to them for having shown us listings?

Choosing between going overseas or staying in SG for uni

Some context, I’m currently studying in SMU and was originally enrolled in the computing and law course (I had this image that i was gonna become some coding lawyer and at the time i found very appealing), I soon realised that law wasn’t for me (in short i hate reading 400 pages of legal jargon a day) and tried to change to CS as that’s originally what I wanted to do (got rejected from NUS cs) but only got offered Information systems. Which is not technical enough to go into software engineering which is originally my dream job.

I recently got into CS at UNSW in australia (which is apparently the best cs uni in aus) but I’m worried that getting a good job in singapore may be very difficult, as it is not as prestigious as a local uni. I’ve also considered working in aus for a few years to get a running start in my career but I’ve heard that it is difficult for foreigners to work in Australia due to visa restrictions.

I’m now torn between staying in my current course (information systems) at SMU were the job prospects are very promising or taking the risk going oversees to pursue a degree with potentially bigger upside.

I’m hoping to get some advice on the situation as I don’t want to make a decision that I’ll regret again.

I will be graduating soon with an expected pass degree in NTU engineering.

Im not sure how will I be able to get a job as I heard even 3rd class honours are not desired. Throughout my years in engineering, I always find it tough and stressful that made me lost my interest in this field.I do not wish to go down this career path as Im not good with my technical skills.

I want to venture into another industries but the progression in the long term is not that great, neither do I have the experience to get hired. I’m just so lost and pressured at the same time to perform well in order to let others know Im fine.

Here are what netizens think:

• Engineering is just physics and math, try harder

• Just remember, your gpa is important only for your first job. Subsequent jobs, they want to know what experience you have to contribute to the company. Good luck!

• it does not matter if u 3rd class honours. U have an NTU degree cert. Most companies see local uni cert as priority.

• With the background you can still do many things. You can teach math, dnt, computing. You can do sales of engineering equipment. You can move into other sectors and other countries like mobile phones research. You can move into government departments.

• Depends which engineering u go to. Mech for me. My employer didn’t see grades just personality and my drive & commitment. It’s not the end of the world

My gf (20f) and I (22f) have been together for two years but for the past few months, there hasn’t been two days in a row where she doesn’t get angry and yell at me for seemingly no reason.

I’ve tried talking to her about it a dozen times, but she gets really irritated and starts insulting me every time. I buy her flowers and write her love letters and help her however I can and always try to be the best girlfriend possible for her. I can’t think of anything I could have done to make her this upset.

She says she’s been stressed lately, but she’s always been extremely stressed by work and school, even before we started dating. There aren’t any new stressors in her life, and she never treated me like this at all until about a year ago. It’s just gotten worse over the past few months. Every time she calls me or walks into our apartment, I’m bracing myself to get yelled at.

I’m not an angry person but one time after she blew me off for date night and left me waiting at the nice restaurant I made a reservation at, I came home and yelled at her. I told her that she has no respect for my time or my patience or my kindness and that she needs to reevaluate her priorities and start treating me right.

I’ve never yelled at her like that before– I never yell at her at all– but she actually listened to me that night. She told me she was sorry and that she wasn’t being fair to me and that she loves me. We cuddled and watched a movie and it was the best night we’ve had together in probably a year.

I don’t really know how to go about this anymore. She’s my girlfriend and I love her but lately she’s just been making me feel like crap all the time. She doesn’t put nearly as much effort into me as I put into her and she says she’s going to work on that, but then she never does. I hate being being caught up in other people’s anger more than anything. I don’t want to lose her but I feel like I might be anyways.