I’ve been with my bf for over 2 years now. I am rethinking about our relationship for a time being. He is an amazing bf who treats me well and I’m thankful for that.

But, He is the type to joke around a lot. And it’s what I fell in love about him, but it’s also what I’m starting to hate him for now.

For instance, He would make mean jokes about me always and would hurt my feelings. This are an example of what he would say and say its a joke: ‘Ya I’m sick of you’ or ‘Haha I hope you get fired’ or ‘dumbass’ or ‘Ya i dont want to see your face’

Also, He never seem to compliment to me or say nice things about me… I always have to ask for his compliments and then he will feel forced..

When I tell him about how his jokes hurt me he will say ‘ u so sensitive for what?’ Or sometimes when I bottle up my emotions and cry he will say I’m a crybaby..

I envy also how he can call his other girl friends cute but he never can say that to me.

Does he really love me? Or am I thinking too much..

Chinese wedding belief – is it still relevant today?

I’m 27yo Chinese (Chinese free thinker) and have a buddy (Chinese Buddhist) that I’ve known for more than half my life and we are considered close friends (or at least I thought we are). Both of us are holding our wedding to our respective partners in the next couple of months and my buddy said he can’t attend my wedding due to the Chinese belief that you cannot attend any unlucky / lucky events before and after 100 days of your own wedding as it brings bad luck to your marriage (not sure if this is the correct term, I don’t follow much on those Chinese beliefs).

Just wanna know if people nowadays still follow such old traditions/superstitions? My fiancée and I are still going to my buddy’s wedding even though mine is 1 month before his (which is within the 100 days belief thingy) because we don’t think our marriage is based off luck but more of our commitment to the marriage and our partner.

I initially wanted him to be my best man but I guess I won’t need to even ask him that since he said very clearly he will not come to my wedding the moment I told him about my wedding date. I respect his decision but I won’t hide the fact that I’m disappointed that one of my closest buddy of more than a decade chose not to come to my wedding based off a Chinese superstitious belief.

Am I bad friend to feel disappointed in my friend for choosing not to attend one of my most important day of my life? And I’m also confuse if I should still send him a wedding invite as a kind gesture so that he won’t feel like I did not want to invite him, even though he was the one that said he will not be attending my wedding?

Me (30m) wife (47f) had her friend over at our home tonight. My friend had messaged me on WhatsApp saying that he wanted to cheat on his gf. I had advised him this was a bad idea and left it at that.

I was sitting alone when my wife comes up and punches me in the face multiple times.

She had gone through my phone and is apparently too stupid to realize that on WhatsApp that the sender’s messages are on the right (she thought I was sending messages about wanting to cheat).

I tried to explain to my wife that she had this all backwards which I eventually succeeded in doing. My wife then gets mad at me for being shocked and upset that my spouse had hit me.

She tells me that, “my father hit my mom and he still loved her.”

Honestly how can anyone think this way? I wouldn’t hit my wife for any reason ever. The kicker being that my friend told his gf that he was having feelings and wanting to stray and they had a productive and calm talk about it.

So I was beaten by my wife for telling my friend not to cheat.

My wife threatens to divorce me all the time, goes through my phone constantly and is a mean drunk. I can’t tell anyone about this, but how can anyone be so cruel to someone they love?

She has told me that she misses her ex-husband and that she should be with someone from her generation.

I have been with my girlfriend for three years now.

About two months ago this acquaintance of ours privately told her that he would be a better fit for her than me.

I’m not going into detail, but he talked about it for about two hours (my gf is a very nice person and just couldn’t leave during the process).

Ok to dump a girl for getting fat? Assuming she’s getting chubby. She wasn’t the slimmest to begin with, but now it is honestly starting to get to me.

For background, we’ve been dating for about 1 and 1/4 years. I gym run and cycle q regularly and I’m clearly an ectomorph.

She says she exercises around 3 times a week but its clearly not showing results. I think its a combination of her endomorph body, lifestyle, work stress and overall net caloric intake.

Due to our work schedules, we exercise together only occasionally.

I havent told her my concerns yet. I plan to soon but I’m not sure how she’ll take it as I don’t believe anybody has really told her that shes chubby.

Before anyone slams me for being a shallow male pig, I think physical compatibility in a relationship is very important.

I just can’t shake the thought that we’re not physically compatible and it keeps playing in my mind. What do y’all think? OK feel free to slam me now.

Netizens’ comments

• my qn to you is – why jump straight to breaking up with her, instead of communicating to her on changing her lifestyle? i suspect the weight issue may just be an excuse to breakup with her. perhaps you find that the relationship isnt worth the effort?
• Nah you started the relationship thinking you can change her into someone you want her to be. You didn’t love her wholly as person in the first place anyway. I hope she finds someone who embraces her for who she is, physically, mentally and what not.
• So you found her physically compatible when you guys first got together even when you said she wasn’t the “slimmest to begin with”?
• Do her the favour and dump her, you don’t deserve her.

During this market downturn, I lost 1million+ US dollars due to the UST depeg and other tokens going down 80-90%.

And I’m back to my net worth 2 years+ ago.

I took a really long time building that portfolio, from farming defi governance utility/tokens, meme coins, your blue chip stocks. I thought I was smart, but I was merely early in the mania phase.

It felt…. Nothing. I know it can’t be compared to people who are worst off than me.

I feel so desensitized until I blew it all away. I was arrogant at the point to not have diversified properly especially with super high risk on assets like crypto.

I thought anchor protocol has a yield that was unsustainable but still decided to go for it and held it all the way down because ultimately there’s so many smart/VC people backing it. Nothing can go wrong right? And here I’m selling it at 10cents on the dollar.

I’m a really frugal person and even when I had that million + dollars I scrimped like someone who only had 100 bucks in the bank.

Because I don’t cash it out at all. No one even knew I was worth that much. When I reached a million, I aimed higher with the same risk taking strategies but I didn’t know that it would be way harder. I would definitely work on my allocation strategies next time.

Anyone who had lost majority of their wealth >90%? How did you guys pick yourself up again?

I probably am able to make it through this phase and 2 more years of uni but I’m not sure if I’m ever going back to my peak net worth again. On the bright side, I still have my family, lifelong friends that see me for who I am and a healthy life. And that to me is more important than numbers on a screen.

Does anyone else feel tired of having to ‘jio’ everyone for everything? Can’t we just do things by ourselves?

Whenever you do something and others know about it (could be friends/colleagues/SO/classmates/etc), they will say “bojio” and get annoyed/disappointed that you didn’t invite them beforehand.

It could be really minor things like you bought coffee to office and your colleague say you bojio and never help them buy. Or maybe you went out for lunch alone and didn’t inform them.

Back in school, it could also be just you finishing an assignment and your classmates say you bojio because you never tell them you were working on it.

Or when you meet your friends once in a while and happen to mention that you watched a good movie with another friend some time ago, they get annoyed that you never jio them.

Or you went for a morning hike alone and your SO says bojio even though it’s an activity they would never want to do.

Are we socially obligated to invite everyone along to all our activities? Why can’t we just do things alone? I really dislike this bojio culture about Singapore.

A man shared a story why one should always have separate finances with their spouse.

It proves to be a very expensive lesson which made a man almost bankrupt after his wife used his credit and swipe it to over $100,000.

Here is the story:

Long story short, I have credit card debt solely in my name that, at the time of divorce in February ’21, was a little over $100,000. There’s a bit of an unusual backstory behind it, but I’m wanting to get a basic feel for what’s possible before getting into all of that.

We got a no fault, uncontested divorce, even though I had many reasons for it not to be, deciding to handle every other matter outside of court and the divorce. She had agreed to handle this debt many times through various forms of communication, even as recently as September, as almost all of it specifically pertained to her and her family, but has claimed to be unable to procure the funds. It now seems as if I might be getting stuck with the debt. I know… hindsight is 20/20, and I’m a complete idiot.

My question is, do I have any legal leg to stand on to sue for at least half of the debt at the time of divorce or perhaps even with the interest accrued beyond then? Or, since it wasn’t handled through the divorce, am I legally stuck with it?

Here are what netizens think:

• For this much money, you really need to call a divorce lawyer.

• There is this saying keeping your finances always separate to make sure that you will be happy.

• Money and love don’t goes well together, if it mix together its becomes a transaction. Either sides can sabo