Caught my sister cheating on her husband.

My sister is cheating on her husband who is working abroad. I hate her so much because she gets mad at me when i (the youngest) is correcting her in what she is doing.

She’s been doing it for two years now. While her husband is working so hard, the money that she spent on her other guys comes from her husband.

And i really really felt bad about it, no one deserves to be treated that way. Now i’m so sure that i will tell to her husband about everything.

She’s mad at me because she said i am ruining her life well in the first place, she the one ruined it by cheating on her husband.

Wish me luck. I dont care if i will lose a family member.

Netizens’ comments

• Get evidence first. It would be so fun if the husband disappears without a word and stops sending your sister money and ghosts her. Would be fun
• You the real mvp. You’re doing the right thing
• She’s the only one ruining her own life. Her husband deserves to know and you’ll be doing him a kindness. Nobody deserves to be treated like that
• He deserves the truth. But be prepared to loose your sister and maybe other family members. Also there might be a small chance husband will forgive her and you will be the bad guy. So it’s best if you try do it anonymously.

It all happened so suddenly and I still can not make sense of what I did or didn’t do it for that matter. I’m engaged to my fiance who I’ve been with for 6 years. We’re planning to get married in 2023. I feel suffocated and unable to breathe properly.

There’s this coworker who started giving me rides home after my car was damaged in an accident. He and I had a somewhat friendly relationship that most coworkers said it was a little too friendly even though I never felt anything towards him.

I mean I noticed his attraction towards me but I never gave him a reason to think I’m interested. Like ever!.

This happened 2 weeks ago. He was giving me a ride home at 6pm and for some reason, he was quiet the entire time.

He kept looking at the road ahead without even speaking or looking in my way. I made a comment on the weather to break the awkward silence, and he said that it was hot from where he was sitting.

I didn’t know what to say. Few mins of silence and he started moving his arm towards me. He then placed his hand on my knee (I was wearing jeans at the time) I freaked out internally but froze in my spot.

Next thing he started rubbing my knee which sent a weird sensation down my spine. He still kept his eyes ahead but then he started moving his hand to my thigh.

I don’t know why but I didn’t stop him. His hand went all the way up to the top of my hip then he moved it closer to my private area.

Now I don’t know why I did this but instead of grabbing his hand and moving it away, I started widening my thighs to allow his hand to go deeper and touch my private area. I feel horrible that I felt turned on in that moment, don’t know what possessed me to do this but I just let him touch me down there and rub it a couple of times.

I couldn’t even breathe I wanted to open the door and run but a part of me actually enjoyed and wanted it. This all stopped after we reached an intersection.

We both avoided looking or talking to each other. He dropped me off and I got inside still unable to process what happened but I lost it in the bathroom and started crying.

My fiance had no idea why I was crying and I couldn’t dare tell him. I was planning on letting it go but it’s been weighing on me and I can’t decide if I should tell him.

I hate myself, I’m disgusted with myself right now and just wanna go back and undo all that. I feel like I broke his trust and hurt him even though he doesn’t know.

A lot of people out there think that the human resources department will help protect the interest of the workers or employees.

But remember who is paying the salary of the human resources department it’s the company and not the worker.

The human resources department is a “for show” they will help here and there in minor situations but when the to complain is against the higher-up position in the company the Human resources immediately becomes the enemy of the implicated employee.

Here is one example

My friend got sexually harassed by her boss as her colleague passed the hotel room key to him while my friend was drunk at a company retreat.

My friend rejected his advances for promotion and reported to HR.

HR then fired my friend for a made-up reason. That is very unfair and it’s an MNC.

Here are what netizens think:

• should really expose such scummy companies on social media.

• Pretty sure that would be illegal or borderline illegal. If this was in the last 6 years, you might consider following this up. Not a lawyer, but this doesn’t sound legal.

• You think HR will risk a wrongful dismissal arh. Unless it is a small company without proper HR policy.

• Well it sounds bad, but we are missing out a lot of the details that could change the big picture. But at the same time this kind of thing should more than just a disciplinary action from HR. This should easily become a police case and a very very expensive law suit.

• Don’t do naughty stuff with your colleagues unless you like to roll your dice, or you are as rich and powerful as your boss.

I graduated from NUS school of computing 20 yrs ago.

That was around the time the dot com bubble burst.

So I took on a sales job as a personal banker at a consumer bank without much thought. 20 yrs later, I am still at a local bank and one of my biggest regrets has been not pursuing a career in computing, esp now with all the hot tech jobs and companies like Google, Meta etc.

Seriously, at times I feel underemployed, even though I have moved on from a sales to middle office role managing a product. I’ve learnt that people here don’t progress based on intellect.

It’s all sales talk and politicking. I just feel like I’ve practically wasted the 1st 20 years of my life studying for nothing. Short of enrolling myself for a masters, how do I make a mid career change back to tech?

Here are what netizens think:

• lots of people like you tbh. graduated at the wrong time (2002 would be just after the dot com bust).

• You’re right though. “Sales talk and politicking” gets you up. So many people complain why they study so hard get good grades but can’t climb. That’s because they didn’t acquire the former soft skill beyond books. This is the convo of EQ>IQ. Sales is the money and ultimately money is what the boss is looking for. Sales people typically also excel at politicking so it’s a big advantage to these types of people. But then again it really depends on your industry, there are many professions that do not revolve around sales.

• 20 over years later, nearing 50. if you got no other commitment liabilities, then the world is your oyster. else, family housing retirement commitment might otherwise hold you back. the classic ideals vs reality dilemma. in the end, you live with your choice, hopefully with your eyes wide open, and with as little regrets as possible.

Last week I applied for a credit card online from Bank A, and I was very surprised to receive an email to find out it was rejected.

In the email the bank did not reveal any reason and mentioned that I could get a free credit report from the Credit Bureau Singapore.

I was totally shocked after reading through the credit report.

In the Account Status History, it indicated that I had one credit card from Bank B which I cancelled it in 2015, and this credit card was marked “voluntary closure with outstanding balance” with the outstanding amount being $0.65.

I remembered that I cancelled this credit card through a call and was never been informed there was an outstanding balance by the bank staff.

And I have never received any letter/messages regarding this balance as well. I even doubt if this amount existed before I asked for the account closure, as there was no point I could leave a $0.65 outstanding balance. And why would the staff close it if the money had not been paid off.

Now the problem is – this is affecting my credit rating. I’m a bit lost as to what I can do. Can I still pay back the $0.65 to the bank since the account has already been closed? When will the records be removed from my credit report? I’m worried it will affect my credit when I apply for other credit cards or housing loans.

Your advice are highly appreciated.

A banker recently shared his daily schedule from waking up to going to work.

In one part of his schedule, he says he is playing games in the toilet or pretending to work.

Life of a manager in a bank

0645- wake up & wash up

0710- send kid to school

0730-0830 prepare for work

0915-0945 reach work and clear some emails

0945-1030 buy cheap coffee & have breakfast

1030-1130 relax and pretend to work. Sometimes play games in the toilet

1130-1330 lunch time

1330-1400 back at my desk, clear emails, schedule meetings

1400-1530 host/participate in any meetings

1530-1630 tea break

1630-1730 join meetings if any, if not just pretend to work again or scroll fb/play games in toilet

1730 leave office

1800 reach home and have dinner with wife & kid

2030 kid sleeps and time for hanky panky with wife!

I switch off after work and don’t respond to emails necessarily after my working hours. My annual salary is $100k & I’m below 30 years old

Here are what netizens think:

• It’s the same for all customer facing job. If you take up a backend job you can sit at your own desk during your lunch time or free hours when boss not around and win some mlbb rank matches.

• Honest post. At this young age, u do know how to reduce the stress in your life!

• P.S. playing games in toilet is much healthier than smoking in toilet!

• U working in sperm bank or local bank?

• Not bad. one day work less than 3 h and earn 100K a year.

My boyfriend went to a Thai disco and didn’t tell me. I feel so betrayed

My boyfriend of 5 years went to a bachelor party last weekend, and when he got home, I asked him what they got up to and he told me they just went to bars and hung out.

I’m currently a year 1 student. My gf and I have been together since secondary school.

We alr planned to get married next year when she graduates from university.

She has weak immune system since birth and has been in and out of the hospital. Recently, she was diagnosed with terminal illness with low survival rate. Suddenly I lost all motivation in life. I don’t even want to go to school. To add this on, Her family is asking me to move on from her but I can’t do it. The reason is that they do not want my marital status to be widowed after their daughter passes on.

Life is so fking unfair. I hope all of you in a relationship will cherish each other and don’t do things that you will regret. Enjoy and spend more time together.

Work out any arguments before it is too late.

Here are what netizens think:

• My then bf was diagnosed with a life threatening illness. I did not sway. I did not change our plan. I stayed on and we got married. I must say I only live by the day and appreciate all moments with him. We have 4 kids. He is still with the life threatening illness. I really do not know how much time my kids and I have with him. I live in fear but I have no regrets…just treasure moments and don’t think too much about what will happen next…follow your heart…do what you will not regret later…life no matter how short can be beautiful..

• Don’t lose hope. Even there is no cure for her illness, I believe “our purpose of life and strong will to live” will extend the time one’s hv left to live in this world.

• I almost lost my husband in Dec 2021. He was in coma and his pulse was zero. He fought 7 hrs during operation when they tried to stop his bleeding. That day when he woke up, the first sentence he said was–he wanted to be with us…me and our daughter. Two months in hospital. When he recovered, he told me…our daughter is the purpose he wants to live longer, even a day longer or a month longer, it is good for him.

• Your wedding can be the turning point that she wants to fight a little bit more. Even a month longer means more happiness for both of you. I pray for you and wish you both a good time together. Till death do us part.