My (25f) husband (28m) and I were invited to a couples dinner as part of his motorcycle group.

He tells me we are going to take his bike which I agree to.

He’s an experienced driver and has been riding for about 7-8 years and never been in any accident or crash. That being said, I have been on the back of the motorcycle with him a handful of times and I know he has the tendency to drive fast.

So today as we were hopping on I specifically told him not to drive crazy.

I am 25 and my husband is 26. We have 2 kids. He’s very VERY touchy.

Cuddles me all night long. He cuddles me all morning.

When he gets home from work he sits on the couch and cuddles me. This I don’t mind, I actually love it. His touching can become, not so innocent sometimes. He touches my butt quite a bit too. He’ll rub it, squeeze it, or smack it.

I don’t mind when he touches my butt, but our children are getting to an age where I think it’s inappropriate to do this in front of them. They are comprehending what they see, yet won’t understand why he’s touching me like that.

They are too old to not know what’s happening but not old enough to understand that him touching me like that is something only mommies and daddies should do. I also think him smacking my butt in front of them is really also something they shouldn’t be seeing, for similar reasons. I’ll just be making dinner or something and he’ll come behind me and slap it. I don’t mind at all when we are in private, though.

Well, i just got into this job a few weeks ago, it is at the place where my mom works, so i decided why not, and just try it out.

The Boss which is the owner of the place is a rather chill guy at first, but little by little you can start to grasp the true nature of this man.

He said that he is always alone, his family doesnt want to spend a lot of time with him and his wife hates him, literally screams at him in front of other people, even in front of me and my mom.

Anyways, so you can start to picture what type of person this guy is. He is a very domineering guy, likes to control people, even outside of your work hours, he DEMANDS that you solve any type of issue for him, some of them could be completely out of your league, but he doesn’t care, he wants a solution to it, no matter how long it takes, even if you have absolutely no clue how to do what he asks for.

Today, I was working as his driver, usually, i just carry big stacks of paper and rearrange stuff in the inventory, but not today, oh no, this mf wanted a driver today, and now i am his driver for the day.

So i am driving this guy to the bank, he is giving me directions on how to get there. But out of nowhere its “1:00” and a loud bell rings oh no, this guy from giving me instructions just randomly started praying, he lifted his hand up and started praying, then he put his hand on the steering wheel.

For a sec i thought this guy wanted to kill both of us, and to this moment i don’t know what exactly he was trying to do, but it made me lose my concentration and i drove into a bump on the road. Afterwards, my Boss straight up hits me.

Just like that, no hesitation, no display of anger, he was praying and with the hand that he was praying with hit me (quite ironic if you think about it) .

At first i didnt know how to react. I was in shock, i was thinking “did my boss just HIT me?” “What do i do know? Do i just keep driving? I feel bad for driving over the bump fast but it wasnt THAT bad”, so i played it off and laughed. He hit me hard tho. So i followed his directions for the rest of the ride.

And starts explaining to me in a very calm voice why what i did was wrong. So in a turn there was another bump, so i sped a little bit and just to provoke a reaction and he started screaming at me. But now, i defended my self, saying that he was a dumbass for thinking i could avoid the bump. Then he tells me to pull over and at this moment i am ready to throw hands, i have fully processed the situation and said f#ck this job i am out. So i pull over and get out of the car ready to throw hands, but this guy kinda realizes i am 30 years younger and my job is to quite literally carry heavy sh#t all day long. So he instead tells me to get to the passanger seat to “Learn how to properly drive” F#ck this guy.

Eventually we get to the bank and he gets his money, and he drove us back.

I dont know how to feel about this lads. I feel like i did something wrong and that i was punished accordingly, but at the same time i feel its just not right. (btw the van is totally fine)

A man shared a story about how he bought apple shares over 20 years ago and his initial investment of about US$200(SGD$285) became part of his retirement fund.

He earned about US$70,000 (SGD$100,000) after he sold it in 2022.

Here is the story:

My most successful long-term, buy-and-hold investment. I bought a small part of Apple’s share when it was around $0.40 to $0.45 in 2001.

It’s value increased a few years later and my friends was telling me to sell it. But I did not. Most of my friend sold it and they regret to this day.

Initially I was selling it after it raise a bit and selling if after it falls but it all changed.

I’ve bought AAPL a few times now, and every time, I make a killing over a few months and think “Okay, I’m getting out and I’ll buy back in when it falls.” And then it doesn’t fall, for years. Finally I said screw it, and I’m going to just leave a bit in AAPL for the long haul. If I want to play prices, I’ll open a second position.

So I had around US$200 worth of Apples shares and I eventually forgotten about them and I continued with my day job.

When the iphone came out, again my friends was telling me to sell it but i did not.

I just sold it earlier this month in September 2022 for $150 a share. I made almost SGD$100,000 after commissions.

Sometimes it’s worth it to trust your gut and go for it. This is going to addon to my retirement fund.

Okay, I’ll tell my story.

I was involved with “Denise” for 9 years.

She would pick fights seemingly any time I was in a good mood, and frequently ruined important things for me (like my graduation party from uni) by getting angry…sometimes because I was “ignoring her” and other times because I “wouldn’t leave her alone.”

I loved her and tried to be everything for her even though we fought all the time, because that’s what I thought relationships were all about…work, right?

But after we got married, she became genuinely abusive towards me. Some of my favourite Denise one-liners were: “you’re worthless” “you’re never there for me.” “If we have kids, you probably won’t even love them.” “I don’t even want to have your kids.” Our bedroom was dead.

I asked her to go to counselling three different times during our relationship, but she refused because “we don’t need it.” Great…

It got to the point that I was afraid to interact with her in any way.

It was literally: work –> workout –> dinner –> bed. Eventually, I started to get really depressed and ended up talking to a friend of several years, “Jamie”. She was nice to me…not judgmental and seemed to really care about me and how I felt. We started spending more time together and it eventually started to grow into an emotional affair. Eventually, we fell for each other then Denise and I separated and divorced (ironically after she asked me when we were going to start having kids).

Of course, Denise found out (they always do).

Obviously, she was very hurt and angry, but she ended up asking me basically “why Jamie and not me?” to which I replied, “I can trust her with my emotions. She doesn’t hurt me.” We stayed up all night, talked a lot, hugged a lot, cried a lot, apologized to each other and divorced uncontested.

Denise and I are still friends and Jamie and I are happily married.

I(F20) started a new job as a cashier a little more than a month ago. This is not my first job, but it is my first job in retail. I applied for and was hired for a PART-TIME position.

Since I’m considered part time, I get no sick days, benefits, vacation days, or even bereavement days.

I am currently in long term relationship with my boyfriend for almost 6 years, our anniversary is coming up soon too.

He is planning to bring me to see rings soon. And we managed to get a bto already.

But throughout all these years I have the nagging feeling that I don’t love him in the romantic way. He is my best friend and it kind of all started because I wasn’t able to say no and hurt him.

I care about him and he is important to me but throughout all these years there were times I always wondered how it would be if I was with someone else and been attracted to other people.

I read that this is normal even if you are in relationship and as long as I remain committed and not act on this feelings, it is okay, feelings will pass in the end.

But it keeps coming back, these thoughts and feelings. It has been so long and I’m so used to spending time with him, doing the things I do for him.

I feel so bad now if I tell him how I feel, I wasted 6 years of his time. And I do love him but maybe just not in romantically.

And with the bto everything is just so complicated. I really don’t know what to do. Whatever I choose just doesn’t feel right.

Whenever I think of this I just tell myself that these thoughts will go away eventually but now it’s been 6 years and it’s still there. What should I do?

I hate how some men treat unattractive women like myself.

I wish I could tell all men I come into contact with, that I know you are not interested in me. I know you do not find me attractive. I know. Believe me, I know.

However, why is it so hard to show common decency? Why is being polite now construed as flirting?

I go the gym regularly. I’ll be on a treadmill near the doors. I see how the front desk attendants interact with conventionally attractive people. Lots of smiling, laughing, asking how their day was, chatting about football, asking about work.

When I walk by afterwards, it’s as if I’m interacting with a statue. I will do a slight smile, with a cheerful “thank you” or “have a good evening” as I’m moving towards the door. Often times they look down at the floor – as to pretend they don’t see me. Or they look towards the door. I usually get no response. Once in a while I will hear a mumble of “good night.”

It’s not just the gym. It’s the supermarket, the library, when I go out to eat, when I go shopping. It’s a never-ending list. It is truly draining to interact with men as an unattractive female.

For the longest time I tried convincing myself I was imagining things. Telling myself things like, “maybe they had a bad day” or “maybe they were busy.” Until I went out one evening with a very attractive co-worker. Our waiter was all over her. However, when I ordered and spoke to him, he wouldn’t even look at me. He only ever asked her if we needed anything, or how our food was, etc.

Anyways. I hate it. I still treat others how I’d like to be treated myself. Even if I get treated like I’m invisible in return.