I have an older brother who very driven and a very high flyer (whom I will not disclose as he is quite high profile) due to his job commitments he is still single and has no time for romance and to start a family.

Hence with the wish of my late father, we agreed to help him conceive a child with my wife as a surrogate. Being very old school mentality, my wife agree out of fulfilling her filial piety duties.

There is no intercourse involved and the process was medical with the sperm injected to the egg like IVF. Soon a son is born and my older brother is grateful and elated.

But same as you, I was very upset and imbalance in my heart. I knew my wife did not cheat on me but I grew jealous when she talked to my brother, or when she helped to take care of “their” child.

We quarrelled alot initially but eventually agreed to be mature about it and not to talk about it.

Now the kids are older and I have a new jealousy and imbalance in my heart. Compared to my kids, “their” child was very bright and did exceptionally well academical and holistically.

I agree my older brother probably have better genes and has more resources to give his child the best as he earns a lot.

His child has good nannies, goes to the best school, best enrichment schools, music schools, clubs, etc and all the elite exposure which we cannot afford for our 2 kids.

And it doesn’t help when my older brother is occasionally boastful about his son’s achievements and thanked us!

It was petty but I cannot help to feel why my sacrifice is not worth it.

Pls help me feel better…

I’ve had a tumultuous relationship with my mom since my dad died 8 years ago. Mainly due to her being a practising Religious Scientist (she prays instead of using modern medicine.)

So yeah she’s always been crazy but my dad kept her relatively stable.

Last year my mom and I found out that my dad had been having an affair for more than four years.

In those four years he missed birthday parties for his kids, he wasn’t there when I was in the hospital because of my heart condition, or when my little brother had appendicitis.

Apparently, he did show up to his affair partner’s kids’ birthday parties. He even skipped my 16th birthday for one of her kid’s 5th birthday parties. The truth came out after we found them together.

My younger siblings were at school, mom and I were having a mom/son day and when we got home the two of them were together. In the whole explosion of arguing it came out that dad had been there for her kids more than us since the affair started, and that he was with her when he wasn’t with us.

He’d even faked two business trips and actually spent the whole time with them. During one of those was when I was at the hospital and he still chose to stay, using the excuse that the business trip was essential for him to keep his job.

I (28F) have never had a good relationship with my parents. I was the child who was left out of everything.

I moved to the US many years ago as I do not want anything to do with my parents nor do I want to stay in Singapore.

Hello, I’m working as IT support as an Intern.

Basically i got fired because my employer “assumed” I’m not happy with my work and he feel that my unhappiness will bring the team down.

He had a meeting with my lecturer and told my lecturer that he doesn’t want me to know about the meeting.

He then told my lecturer that he doesn’t want to deal with me or be responsible for my grade. He assumed the worst of me and refused to talk to me about anything that he disliked about me.

Since day 1 I’ve completed every single task, he asked of me. My technical skill is really good, even better than my senior as I’ve taught him a lot of stuff. We were quite cool with each other, we had good chat and I told him i like this job really much.

He said he wants me to be more proactive and show more seriousness in work and so I told him that my soft skill may not be good but I will try my best to improve them. After that, I started to be more proactive and asked for work every single time i can, i also stopped joking around which made him think that I’m unhappy and told my lecturer that he doesn’t want me in the company anymore.

What should i do about it?

Here are what netizens think:

• Assuming what you said is true your employer is just being a cb or he/she is being fed some bull. What you may want to do is to sit down have a meeting with your employer to trash things out. Anyway it’s an intern position, don’t lose too much sleep over it and try to find another one internship.

• Your lecturer definitely finds it ridiculous that’s why he/she decided to let you know about it. Without a valid serious offence (such as awol, which one of my fellow intern friends did and get fired by the company because she can’t get along with the rest of the staff in her department), the company cannot dismiss an intern just like that… consult your school & ask the company to fully explain this situation.

• there’s no such thing as wrongful dismissal, unless you in USA la, SG here… employee powers are next to nothing.

I have been working as a Grab driver for many years, income has overall dropped since the day I started as the bonuses were not as good as before.

In the past, there were incentives from Uber and other platforms but now the so-called incentives from Grab are practically dead.

The old saying work harder to earn more does not seem to be true. After I get older and older, I realised working harder is not only stupid but also not practical.

I can’t possibly drive Grab 12-14 hours a day like a machine.

My friend who was working as a Grab driver introduced me this trading app and told me that it is easy to make money, he said that he is earning money even if he is sleeping.

He told me that he has been successful so far and has cut down the hours for driving Grab. He told me that if it continues to do well, Grab will be part-time or he will just do hitch and worked a basic office job as it will give him more personal time compared to driving 12 hours a day for Grab.

I tried to follow his methods in trading and I did win a few small trades but it did not seem realistic to me as I believed that it was beginner’s luck.

So I thought of learning it properly and eventually found myself investing in cryptocurrency. With the meme stocks and meme cryptocurrency I was doing well and I cut my Grab driving from 10 hours a day to 5 hours a day.

But it eventually became a nightmare after the Luna crypto which has most of my investments in it.

Luckily for me, it was not a big loss, I loss a bit but near the breakeven point.

Now I am back to square one driving Grab 10 hours a day. Everything I earned from investments has gone down the drain.

I’ve already been divorced once.

My first marriage was emotionally abusive. I fell hard and fast for my now-husband, and now I see that I ignored many red flags.