Something has been bothering me. My husband has recently gotten a car. But he did not initiate to drive me home at all. Not even once.

What he has been emphasizing is the fact that petrol is expensive and he does not want to travel far. I would appreciate it if he could at least offer me a ride home from work once.

Not that I would want him to fetch me daily but just the effort that counts. Would really hope that he could at least offer me a ride home once.

I have been seeing other husbands initiate to drive their wives home although not daily but at least once before.

So just sort of feeling a bit down wondering if it that I’m not worth his effort to at least drive me home once from work.

Netizens’ comments

1. You should cook dinner for yourself only, not for him, and tell him that food costs are going up. Similarly when doing the laundry, let him do his own, because cost of labour isn’t cheap. You get the idea….
2. I think you should encourage your husband to sell away his car when he can’t afford petrol for his own car. Nowadays having a car is a liability, unless he is financially able to own a car, if not what is the point of having one? And if he isn’t using the car for you and your family, I wonder what he use his car for?
3. U r his wife, then u initiate by requesting him to pick u up lah. Why keep quiet and then allow yourself to feel unhappy over it? If he still complain abt costly petrol after your request and reject u, then i would feel something isn’t right. Shld he reject u, then u shld qns him why did he even bother buying a car?

I only showered once a week for my entire life and I realised how probably I was smelly every time I went out and I just wanna disappear from this world

For my entire life I’ve been only showering once a week and today I realised how bad that was. For reference I’m currently 23.

As a child, my family wasn’t rich but not poor either, we’re quite middle class. During my teenage years I just used a lot of deodorant to avoid bad smells, and I thought that was it.

Anyway, a few weeks ago I have moved into my own place and I also got into jogging. Considering I started to jog every morning I started to get quite sweaty so I decided to shower after every jog, since the smell was quite bad and my deodorant didn’t seem to cover it.

This lead me to basically showering almost every day, which made me feel great & clean and cozy. However, this weekend I had a terrific realisation. Basically I didn’t jog for the the past 2 days therefore I didn’t shower. And today, after not showering for 2 days, I realised I was quite smelly. Which made me realise that I was probably smelly for my whole life, since I only showered once a week.

I started to google it and yeah, TIL that we gotta shower everyday and not once a week. I can’t believe I’ve been like this for my whole life, I’m just thinking back to all my social interactions that I had and I was probably smelly.

Also I was looking to pictures from my school days and I noticed my hair is terrible and oily in all of them. FML.

EDIT: I messed up even more, I was reading your comments on this post at work today while being logged in and a colleague of mine passed by my desk. She asked me what I was reading and saw the post, and also my username. Now I think everyone in the office is going to know that I used to show only once per week. I’m done with life

I am thinking about whether I should accept the offer, as 4 years of studying is rather long and I would be close to 30 years old when I graduate.

Currently, I’m a Diploma holder and working. Am earning close to $3k per month. I only have 2 weeks to decide whether I’m accepting the offer.

I’ve heard all people saying that having a degree in Singapore is the minimum in this era. It just sounds as though having a Diploma now is somehow equivalent to having an ITE cert. Not trying to offend ITE students but this is my train of thought.

Pros for me going further studies:

– Better job stability in the future, pay-wise and position

– Knowledge (duh)

– Better status. I would rather not have any degree than study in a private university (SIM, SUSS…) again, my own thinking please don’t be offended it’s probably just my ego.

– probably have a better head-start compared to classmates because what I’ve learnt in Poly is similar to Uni.

Cons for me going further studies:

– takes up 4 years of my life. Not to mention when I’m out I’m going to be close to 30 yo with 0 proper income.

– current job is paying close to $3k. To climb ranks it would be hard because I only have a diploma

– knowledge is all over the internet. If I really want to learn something, I can just search it up over the internet. What I’m really pursuing for is just the degree cert.

– I have pretty much enough savings to pay for my tuition fees if I were to accept the offer. But I would rather capitalise these sum on better things (investment, etc.)

– everyone else is trying to get a degree, which is common in these years and therefore makes it kinda mainstream.

– kinda tired of studying lol

I need the readers feedback on these please as I couldn’t make up my mind, thanks so much for helping”

A netizen shared how he spends about $1.3k on Grabfood per month despite only earning $2,000 monthly, and asks if there is such a thing as “food delivery addiction”.

Here is what he said

“Is there such a thing as food delivery addiction? I need help and I think I am addicted to compulsively ordering Grabfood everyday.

For context, I work as an entry-level admin staff and my take home salary is $2k after CPF deduction, which isn’t much compared to the salaries of other office workers.

Anyway, I never used Grabfood, or any food delivery services before the pandemic and it only started during the circuit breaker years ago.

Every since I was introduced to Grabfood, the convenience of the food delivery service is too good and I find myself using it very frequently.

At first it was like maybe once a week or maybe twice a week, but as time went by, it started becoming a daily thing.

Fast forward to now, I am ordering Grabfood once in the morning for breakfast before I go to the office, then ordering Grabfood again at night for late dinner/early supper.

And on my days off, I sometimes order Grabfood for all three meals at home because it is just so convenient and I just have to sit and wait for my food to come.

It has gotten so bad that for the last 5 months, I have been spending about $1.2k to $1.3k on Grabfood, and I am really wondering if there is such a thing as “food delivery addiction”.

I can’t stop ordering Grabfood and blowing my money away and I really need help and I don’t know what to do and I am at my wits end.”

Editor’s note: Bro, uninstall the app from your phone and set a screenshot of your bank balance as your wallpaper.

So many financial advisors companies trying to attract fresh grads to enter using their high pay as a selling point.

They make it sound like it’s so easy to earn 5 digits per month eg by selling 1 case per week. And they even say they have support and training courses.

I wonder what are the cons of a financial advisor job? They almost never say the cons

Here are some of the cons of this job:

• The con is that its a con
• It’s a ‘self-sustained business’ which requires lotsa inner faith
• Poor work-life balance
• You might lose all ur friends when they ask u to start touching ur warm contacts. You might nt do well as an advisor. You might not enjoy the job and there are pretty stiff penalties for dropping out 
• The cons is you only succeed if you’re a chiobu
• You go be one then share with us your experience lah

What netizens think:

• It’s not an easy job. You got to be brave enough to face endless rejections (easier said than done), believe strongly enough in what you are doing, and let people know how sincere you are. I’ve been in this line for almost 2 years now, and I don’t sugarcoat because new recruits will find out eventually anyway. Success stories are great and motivating, but not everyone has it that smooth sailing. Nevertheless, I still enjoy what I’m doing and that’s why I’m still here. If anyone is really considering joining this industry, my advice is join a team that has similar beliefs as you.

• It’s a professional beggar job. U need to beg and convince ppl to invest and then, you can get your high commission.

• I advised you not to join. No free lunch in this world.

• You need to find a boss who knows how to generate COLD leads on demand. Not all that personal network, roadshow, canvassing. Those work yes but in today’s world what worked 50 years ago is not always the best now.