I moved in to live with a single father to a 8 year old daughter. He is the father of my daughter’s classmate. We met a few times in some parents involved events and got close. We supported and helped each other through some difficult times.

We also went out on a few ‘family outings’ and our kids calls us Mama Jas and Papa Jo.

I have been living with my father and brother’s family of 4 in my father’s house since my divorce. My brother and SIL is actually quite unhappy with the arrangement as they’ve plans for their boys to have their own room. But since father invited me over, they can’t say anything. My newphews are much older than my daughter and have ganged up against her. They have hogged her tablet and not let her play. When I asked them about it, they just blame my daughter for being selfish and unwilling to share. My brother will always side his boys and even mentioned that we’re the ‘guests’ not host. I can only ask my daughter to endure as my father is in a difficult situation.

When Jo asked us to move in, I actually felt a sigh of relief. But at the same time, I didn’t want to be a leech to him. I offered to contribute to the expenses but he quickly decline citing he earns almost 4 times of me. He said he rather I take care of his house and daughter and make up for the lost of her motherly love.

I gladly agreed as I am very confident with my cooking and believe I can take good care of the girls. We are Very close.

We have a few months of good times. The girls are getting really close and Jo have been very nice to us. I feel blessed even though it’s a little tiring to rush back home to cook after work. But them loving my cooking makes it worth it.

His attitude starts to change as he started making rules on a lot of things. Sometimes about what we wear and what I spend on, how to clean and pack. he gets angry if I ‘didn’t do my part’. Especially when I buy food back instead of cooking. There’s once he got angry because I took the girls to McDonald’s instead of cooking. I thought since they requested and Jo isn’t coming home for dinner, why not?

I know McDonald’s isn’t a healthy choice but it’s just once in a while. If I didn’t cook it’s usually because I got delayed at work or is sick.

He also started being very calculative about the extra expenses that incurred ‘due to us moving in’. He cited a $40 increased in the utilities bills etc. He even mentioned about not getting the Nintendo Switch he promised the girls.

I had a discussion with him to find out if he’s struggling financially or that he has plan to cut cost. But he just says he is disappointed in me for not fulfilling my duties and hence he feels unfair about what he has to pay for us.

I am honestly taken back. We don’t have any agreement about working for lodging and how do one define “fulfilling a motherly love duty”? I asked him what do he expects from me and he says to cook and do housework, tug the girls to bed. He specifically mentioned about toilet not being clean and dry enough. I have done my best except on days I cannot due to work or I fall sick.

I start to understand why his maids/nannies always leave him right after their contracts ends and he never seems to like them – always complaining they’re lazy and have a Punfectory attitude.

He seems to set very high expectations and is kind of micromanaging. Like if I didn’t arrange the dishes in a certain way, he gets unhappy. And if I didn’t arrange the clothes in the way he likes (sometimes the rolled up towels or boxers rolled off), he’ll mess up that particular drawer so that I have to pack all over again. I realized if the toilet isn’t dry, or the toilet bowl doesn’t have the solution installed, he is unhappy. I also realized that he is actually unhappy when I didn’t do housework even if I am sick. He would sometimes do it himself and then gets very angry –  throwing away things that are on the floor because they “blocked” him from cleaning “smoothly”. He nearly threw our daughters’ WIP science assignment away because it on the floor. And he had threw softtoys away because they fall off the bed when he was changing the sheets.

I actually do feel like a maid sometimes because it seems like I need to work for my lodging. But on the other hand, he is really nice to the girls (except for throwing their softtoys away while cleaning). He does gets a little particular over their dressing during celebrations but not so much on normal day situations (he prefers they wear dresses). My daughter really like him. But to me, he reminded me of my abusive ex husband who is a control freak with some kind of OCD.

I am honestly confused and caught in between now.

My sister recently decided to hire a maid for our family. All of us are working adults and we just wanted someone to manage the household chores and cooking.

Before I go on to share about the maid issues, I’d like to give some background info about my sister. She has extreme issues with insects and finding them in her food in particular.

I think it all started when she accidentally ate half of the worm in her vegetables and vomitted on the spot. Ever since then, she’d seldom order vegetables outside. Instead she would personally wash, clean and cook the vegetables herself for the family to eat.

I kid you not when I say she washes the vegetable stem and leafs one by one.

For the hiring of the maid, she was the one who did the searching and interviewing while I simply accompanied her. During the interview with the maid we eventually hired, she asked the maid if she knew how to wash vegetables thoroughly. Of course the maid said yes.

She then shared with the maid about her trauma with finding insects in vegetables and that she really wanted someone who is as thorough as her when it came to washing and cleaning. Again, the maid reassured her that she could the job.

So my sister told her that if she found an insect in the vegetable, the maid would be required to eat the insect as punishment for not washing it properly. I’m not sure if the maid was desperate or confident , but she agreed to my sister’s terms and signed a separate contract for this particular condition. Incase you’re wondering,  the offered salary was $800.

Not even 1 month into working for our family, the dreaded scenario happened. My sister really found a worm in her vegetable during dinner. Enraged and disgusted, she ordered the maid to eat the worm infront of her. We tried to dissuade her in vain and the maid really ate the worm.

Few days later, the maid threatened to report my sister to MOM and refused to work. She said she wants a transfer or my sister would get into trouble. Thing is, apart from this wormy incident,  everyone including my sister has treated the maid really well.

Question is, can my sister get into trouble? Can we just repatriate her and close this chapter without getting the authorities involved? Can the maid really do anything?

Am I at fault for yelling at my fiancé and him leaving bc of it

I know the title sounds bad but hear me out. I (21) am 35 weeks pregnant (about 9 months) with my fiancés (40m) (yes I know there’s a huge age gap no I don’t want to hear about it) baby.

This past week he’s had this attitude towards me and making really shitty comments towards me and basically anything that will get a rise out of me. Whether it be bc I don’t wanna clean or I’m on my phone which ngl I am on it a lot especially tik tok which he hates.

That being said anytime I ask him what’s wrong he complains bc we haven’t had S in about a month and he tells me he’s frustrated and while I understand I just can’t with my stomach being the way it is and S rn for me is uncomfortable and this is my first child and I have a lot of other things going on.

Fast forward to today, we were sitting on the couch in the living room and he asked how long ago we got my car and I tell him and then he asks about a trip I made and I got up and walked to the room and shut the door.

I did some things in my past that I’m not proud of and we had a Convo and moved on. Or so I thought. I stayed in the room quiet on my phone not bothering anyone for about an hour before he opens the door and says he’s leaving.

I asked him why and what his problem is and he said I was the problem and I said what did I do I didn’t do anything and he goes exactly you don’t do anything.

We started fighting we yelled at each other and at one point he took my phone and threw it outside on the concrete and thankfully it’s fine. I ended up throwing an air freshener can and the tv remote bc he kept making low blows at me knowing I’m not gonna do anything.

He ended up leaving and has been texting me but still insists that I’m in the wrong.

Hi guys, would need advice on whether I should stay in a “relationship” that I deem as toxic.

Basically, I’m not officially in a relationship with this guy but we’ve been together for almost 2 years. We fight so often & many times, the fights are very intense & aggressive. When things escalate, he would usually shout at me while standing close to me & face down to me (i don’t really know how to describe his stance; but it’s an aggressive stance). When he does this, I wouldn’t even back down & would face him head on and fight it out with him (i admit my words can be too harsh during these kind of fights & note that my temper are really bad so sometimes i maybe the one that escalated the fight). 

But ya, he raised his hands during a few of these fights but have never actually laid hands on me. He’d usually end up throwing my stuff across the room, snatching my phone away to make me stay (because i’d usually try to leave the room & get away from him), or he’d smash stuff. Just to note, he does not raise his hand/ throw or smash stuff/ snatch my phone in every single fight. It’s only during these very intense ones, but these happened probably more than 6-7 times during the 2 years – and 1 time in public. 

Other than these intense fights, we also have very frequent long & random fights (heated but not as intense as the above). 

These are the things that I can’t accept but at the same time, when things are good he’d be really very nice to me. He’d always tolerate me & gives in to me. He’d buy me stuff that I wanted to purchase myself to surprise me when I asked him for opinions on which item is nicer. He’d also always bring me to eat any food that I’m craving for & does many things that I want. Honestly, I would really settle down with him if not for the above stuff. I just don’t want to end up giving him a chance to actually hit me when our fight gets too intense? And I find that we fight way too often & too intensely with either willing to back down?

Oh on a side note, he snores REALLY loudly every night which disrupts my sleep so badly that I feel like murdering him sometimes. Any advice on how to make him stop snoring so that I can get some decent sleep when I’m with him would be greatly appreciated please!

Sister tells disabled brother to sell his flat and move in with her, then goes back on words to chase him out after taking his money and insurance payout, leaving him nowhere to shift to.

I am neither the sister nor the brother, I am just a friend. The brother got into a car accident around 10 years ago, and is paralyzed from chest down.

He has been staying at his sister’s house for the past few years, in the living room of her maisonette, which has a balcony where he can get bathed by his caretaker. He actually had a HDB, but because his medical supplies are expensive, he wanted to sell the flat. Before selling the flat, he asked his sister, like “you sure I can sell the flat?”. The sister said sure of course you can stay here. So, he sold the flat. Fast forward just few months after he sold the flat, the sister said he had to leave. She says that because of him, her family doesn’t have a living room anymore, and she has to do her work with a low chair as her table (she does not want to do her work on the dining table because the height of the table does not match her sitting position), she says she has been “looking forward to paint her living room walls”.

Also, because he travels around in a motorized wheelchair, when he comes back to the house, it leaves dirt on the floor that apparently the maid does not clean well. Because of these reasons, she wants him out of the house. The brother has been unemployed, for obvious reasons. You might ask, then just buy another flat right? Nope. The sister had been in control of his bank account because he trusted her to take care of his finances after receiving his insurance payout, but she has been taking his money for years without him knowing.

It was only this year that he found out. She took 200k+ from him to help pay for a property overseas, and as of now, yet to fully return him. She had also been deducting money as rent and utilities without telling him about it. She has also been wasting his money, around 20k, on unnecessary things like geomancy. The sister says that the brother has sufficient money in his bank & CPF to buy a flat.

Sure, but if he buys a flat, he really wouldn’t have enough money to sustain his life, given that he is unemployed. He needs to buy food, medical supplies, money for caretaker… It would literally deplete all his savings. He has also been unable to rent a flat, either under HDB or elsewhere. HDB, because he is ineligible due to the regulations.

Homeowners, upon hearing that he is disabled, don’t want to rent to him. Even if he were so lucky to be able to rent outside, it would be expensive, same as the reasons stated few sentences above. Take note, she actually has an unoccupied room on the second floor of the maisonette because her daughter had moved out after getting married. I felt that if she wanted to, she could make the room a living room for themselves since they are physically able to climb to the second floor. She can get a table in that room that matches her height since that’s so important to her. I really don’t understand how one can be so cruel to chase a disabled sibling out of the house.

To me, the problem all started when she guaranteed him a place to stay and letting him sell his house. Who would have thought that she would suddenly backtrack on her words? After all, they are siblings, why is she so cruel? I want to know if any of you reading this have another perspective to help me understand why she thinks it is okay to do all this. Also, if anyone could see if there are any actions he could possibly take legally in this situation.

Thank you for reading.

A girl shared a story online after realising her socks was constantly missing and reappear after a week or two. She posted the story on how she escaped from her sick boyfriend.

Here is the story:

I just made the most shocking discovery of my life, my boyfriend has been together with me for 2 years has a weird habit or fetish or whatever you wanna call it.

We are staying together and I realised my socks have been missing every other week. I asked my boyfriend he said that he has no idea. I started to digged around the house and I find it under the mattress and they were stacked in a pile as if someone gathered it.

I confronted my boyfriend as no one stays in the house only me and him, I asked why did he hide all my socks. He said that it’s a prank and I forgive him as it was a small matter. But something felt wrong.

I installed a CCTV secretly without my boyfriend knowing and mount it above the cabinet and faced the bed. The camera could auto-detect motion and start to record. I installed it and reviewed it a week later.

To my horror, I saw my boyfriend sniffing at my socks while “beating the aeroplane”…….

It’s not fresh socks from the laundry, its dirty socks leh.

Should I leave him or should I confront him, something is definitely not right with his head if I confront him. It would be like talking to a crazy person.

What should I do, any advice?