So my wife always gets bad gas before bed and while we’re laying in bed before going to sleep she will literally not stop farting. Every couple minutes or so she’ll keep letting one rip loudly. Yes I am aware women fart and it’s normal but it’s constant! For hours! While I’m trying to sleep! They smell so rank too it’s like something died in her butt.

I’ve tried gently suggesting she take medication for her gas but she doesn’t really seem to think of it as a problem. If I ask her to stop she says, “You know I can’t help it BBBBBRRRRRTTTTTTTT!”

It’s so hard to fall asleep with her constant smelly farts for hours. She even farts in her sleep too! I don’t know what to do or how to get her to stop or take this seriously.

Update as requested: We talked more about it. She got very upset with me because I was “body shaming her” which I’m not.

I told her I get it. Women fart but she couldn’t even make it through us arguing WITHOUT FARTING FOR GODS SAKE.

I told her to quit eating milk and cheese because she’s lactose intolerant and she knows this. She told me I can’t control what she eats so I said, fine take lactaid.

She claimed she does. I called her on her bullcrap and we argued more and it ended with her angrily sipping from a carton of milk to punish me later and me telling her we’re going VEGAN in this house! As I microwaved a large can of baked beans to defend myself from the incoming FARTNADO.

I know it’s more expensive to go vegan but I don’t care! No more milk, cheese, eggs or coffee creamer which is apparently 90% of my DISGUSTING BRAP HOG OF A WIFE’S diet. I’m gonna try to slip lactaid in her food and drink from now on.

Girlfriend comes back from holiday with a hickey.

Hey, my girlfriend and I have been going out for nearly 6 months, and so far everything’s been great,

however, my girlfriend came back from her holiday with a hickey, as in a mark on her neck that’s usually from kissing.

She told me that her and her friends met up with a group of boys and her friends (all girls) said if you don’t kiss a boy, we get to give you a hickey. So she tells me she went with the hickey from her friend.

I hate this whole situation that she’s all of a sudden come back from holiday with a hickey, to be honest, this is a dumping level offense in my book if you just look at it in black and white.

It makes me look stupid. All I have is her word to believe her which isn’t satisfying me and I’ve been thinking about it an unhealthy amount since she told me.

I did take her aside and I looked her in the face and said, “promise me that was your friend, and not another boy” or something along the lines, and she responded with first defensively “Oh what would you rather I have gone with the option to kiss another boy?” and then when I replied, “Who said you had to choose an option.” she says “I love you so much. I’d never do anything like that” blah blah BS.

Any advice is welcome and if you need more context on a specific part, ask away. Thanks.

I moved in to live with a single father to a 8 year old daughter. He is the father of my daughter’s classmate. We met a few times in some parents involved events and got close. We supported and helped each other through some difficult times.

We also went out on a few ‘family outings’ and our kids calls us Mama Jas and Papa Jo.

I have been living with my father and brother’s family of 4 in my father’s house since my divorce. My brother and SIL is actually quite unhappy with the arrangement as they’ve plans for their boys to have their own room. But since father invited me over, they can’t say anything. My newphews are much older than my daughter and have ganged up against her. They have hogged her tablet and not let her play. When I asked them about it, they just blame my daughter for being selfish and unwilling to share. My brother will always side his boys and even mentioned that we’re the ‘guests’ not host. I can only ask my daughter to endure as my father is in a difficult situation.

When Jo asked us to move in, I actually felt a sigh of relief. But at the same time, I didn’t want to be a leech to him. I offered to contribute to the expenses but he quickly decline citing he earns almost 4 times of me. He said he rather I take care of his house and daughter and make up for the lost of her motherly love.

I gladly agreed as I am very confident with my cooking and believe I can take good care of the girls. We are Very close.

We have a few months of good times. The girls are getting really close and Jo have been very nice to us. I feel blessed even though it’s a little tiring to rush back home to cook after work. But them loving my cooking makes it worth it.

His attitude starts to change as he started making rules on a lot of things. Sometimes about what we wear and what I spend on, how to clean and pack. he gets angry if I ‘didn’t do my part’. Especially when I buy food back instead of cooking. There’s once he got angry because I took the girls to McDonald’s instead of cooking. I thought since they requested and Jo isn’t coming home for dinner, why not?

I know McDonald’s isn’t a healthy choice but it’s just once in a while. If I didn’t cook it’s usually because I got delayed at work or is sick.

He also started being very calculative about the extra expenses that incurred ‘due to us moving in’. He cited a $40 increased in the utilities bills etc. He even mentioned about not getting the Nintendo Switch he promised the girls.

I had a discussion with him to find out if he’s struggling financially or that he has plan to cut cost. But he just says he is disappointed in me for not fulfilling my duties and hence he feels unfair about what he has to pay for us.

I am honestly taken back. We don’t have any agreement about working for lodging and how do one define “fulfilling a motherly love duty”? I asked him what do he expects from me and he says to cook and do housework, tug the girls to bed. He specifically mentioned about toilet not being clean and dry enough. I have done my best except on days I cannot due to work or I fall sick.

I start to understand why his maids/nannies always leave him right after their contracts ends and he never seems to like them – always complaining they’re lazy and have a Punfectory attitude.

He seems to set very high expectations and is kind of micromanaging. Like if I didn’t arrange the dishes in a certain way, he gets unhappy. And if I didn’t arrange the clothes in the way he likes (sometimes the rolled up towels or boxers rolled off), he’ll mess up that particular drawer so that I have to pack all over again. I realized if the toilet isn’t dry, or the toilet bowl doesn’t have the solution installed, he is unhappy. I also realized that he is actually unhappy when I didn’t do housework even if I am sick. He would sometimes do it himself and then gets very angry –  throwing away things that are on the floor because they “blocked” him from cleaning “smoothly”. He nearly threw our daughters’ WIP science assignment away because it on the floor. And he had threw softtoys away because they fall off the bed when he was changing the sheets.

I actually do feel like a maid sometimes because it seems like I need to work for my lodging. But on the other hand, he is really nice to the girls (except for throwing their softtoys away while cleaning). He does gets a little particular over their dressing during celebrations but not so much on normal day situations (he prefers they wear dresses). My daughter really like him. But to me, he reminded me of my abusive ex husband who is a control freak with some kind of OCD.

I am honestly confused and caught in between now.

My sister recently decided to hire a maid for our family. All of us are working adults and we just wanted someone to manage the household chores and cooking.

Before I go on to share about the maid issues, I’d like to give some background info about my sister. She has extreme issues with insects and finding them in her food in particular.

I think it all started when she accidentally ate half of the worm in her vegetables and vomitted on the spot. Ever since then, she’d seldom order vegetables outside. Instead she would personally wash, clean and cook the vegetables herself for the family to eat.

I kid you not when I say she washes the vegetable stem and leafs one by one.

For the hiring of the maid, she was the one who did the searching and interviewing while I simply accompanied her. During the interview with the maid we eventually hired, she asked the maid if she knew how to wash vegetables thoroughly. Of course the maid said yes.

She then shared with the maid about her trauma with finding insects in vegetables and that she really wanted someone who is as thorough as her when it came to washing and cleaning. Again, the maid reassured her that she could the job.

So my sister told her that if she found an insect in the vegetable, the maid would be required to eat the insect as punishment for not washing it properly. I’m not sure if the maid was desperate or confident , but she agreed to my sister’s terms and signed a separate contract for this particular condition. Incase you’re wondering,  the offered salary was $800.

Not even 1 month into working for our family, the dreaded scenario happened. My sister really found a worm in her vegetable during dinner. Enraged and disgusted, she ordered the maid to eat the worm infront of her. We tried to dissuade her in vain and the maid really ate the worm.

Few days later, the maid threatened to report my sister to MOM and refused to work. She said she wants a transfer or my sister would get into trouble. Thing is, apart from this wormy incident,  everyone including my sister has treated the maid really well.

Question is, can my sister get into trouble? Can we just repatriate her and close this chapter without getting the authorities involved? Can the maid really do anything?