My [29M] GF [27F] doesn’t want to post me on social media because it may cause “drama” from guys she rejected.

Hi everyone. I don’t normally like posting about my relationship online but am a little perplexed as to how to take this one.

My current GF and I have been dating for a couple of months and things have been great. I can tell that she’s committed to the relationship and we spend a great amount of time with each other and have fun.

Yesterday we were on a trip and I took a selfie of us and said “you should post that” without much thought. She then said “oh you can post it, but I don’t think I want to.”

I asked her why and she said that it could “cause drama.” Again, I asked her what she meant and she said she has a lot of guys who she rejected that follow her on Instagram and she doesn’t want the “oh I thought you weren’t ready for a relationship?” type of comments.

I asked her why she cares and why she keeps guys like that on social media to which she didn’t say anything.

I know she’s not keeping the relationship a secret, her friends and family know about me. I’m just a little concerned as to whether this type of behavior could be indicative of people who chronically seek attention online from the opposite gender.

There’s nothing particularly wrong with that, but I’d honestly not know how to feel about a partner that’s like that.

Would this be particularly alarming behavior? Or should I just calm down and enjoy the ride? Thing is, I’d like to talk to her about this but no matter how I word it it sounds confrontational/judgmental.

Thanks in advance.

I (25M) am finding it harder and harder to look at my fiance(25F) because of her weight gain

I dont really know how else to say it but over the past couple of years my fiance has been gaining weight at what seems to be a pretty quick rate and its been bothering me for a while.

She tells me somewhat frequently that when she orders food to her office she’s eating really healthy foods like smoothies, poke bowls, and salads.

And she says when she weighs herself that she fluctuates but it’s overall downwards.

But I just can’t believe her when she makes jokes about her fupa or when I look at her stomach going out farther then her chest.

I can’t help but to stare and I don’t even think “oh that’s disgusting” or “she’s really gross” just a feeling of disappointment.

She’s very sensitive but I don’t want these feeling to develop into resentment about it or anger at her. I love her dearly and while I’m not the picture of fitness and health, but I’m at least trying and working really hard to improve my own body.

I’ve been losing weight steadily of the past month+ and I’ve lost a lot of weight and I feel really good. But she doesn’t want to participate or try any of the recipes I want to cook. She doesn’t want to walk with me either or do anything physical really. It’s excuse after excuse.

I know it’s gonna hurt her feelings if I bring it up and she’s going to feel really ugly and gross and think that I don’t find her attractive at all.

I still think she’s beautiful, sweet, kind, and very physically attractive, but if I don’t say anything now about her weight and physical appearance I’m worried about her health and well being.

So I guess my main question is, is there a way I can gently bring this up and still help her understand how I feel?

If there’s any questions about what might help you better understand the situation I’d be more than happy to answer as best I can. Thank you

My girlfriend might be pregnant with someone else’s child
TL;DR: me [22M] and my gf [23F] are terrified she might be pregnant after a hookup gone wrong

So some context, me and my girlfriend are in an open relationship. We have full veto power over each other’s partners.

The story: So me, 22M and my girlfriend 23F. Have been together for 8 months. Recently she was hooking up with a new friend of hers, he was a bit insistent on not using a condom which made us a little worried. We ultimately decided to go ahead. and the condom suspiciously “broke” while they were in bed.

We’re really worried she might be pregnant. She took plan B but is a bit on the heavier side so effectiveness is iffy at best. It’s only been around a week so we don’t know for sure yet.

She’s moving into my parents house with me in a few days. And I’m TERRIFIED she might be pregnant. We’ve talked about abortion but she doesn’t know yet and of course it’s entirely her choice and I’ll never pressure one way or the other. (Of course I have my own thoughts, but I won’t share them unless she asks)

Right now I’m TERRFIED she’ll decide to keep it. If she does she’ll almost definitely be kicked out of my parents house and I’ll have to change my entire life or leave her. Either one scares me, I love her with all my heart and told her I’d be by her side no matter what. But I also tour 3-6 months a year so I would have to go back to school to change careers.

I would love some advice on any part of this situation

My parents don’t let me touch anything in the house when I have my period and I’m so done with it

I’m an Indian and there is a superstition in our religion that women aren’t supposed to touch anything in the house during their period.

When I was young I just thought it didn’t care about it and so it didn’t bother me but as I started getting older I understood how discriminating it is towards woman.

When I asked for a logical explanation my parents tried to justify it saying that the rule was written so as to give women rest and in the past women were expected to do all household work on their own.

So I argued with them that as I was a student and I wasn’t doing any household work why can’t I touch anything in the house.

It caused a heated discussion with my parents telling that periods are considered impure and you can’t touch god at that time(there is a small room where my parent’s do puja in my house).

All of this is just illogical and stupid and I can’t not listen to my parents because I don’t want them to be upset with me.

We have been dating for a little under a year now and have had a pretty stable intimate life, nothing crazy but I didn’t think she had a high size drive but now idk.

I was in her apartment while she was at work after staying the night and I was grabbing something from the closet, I have things in this closet, I’m familiar with what’s in there and this box of condoms were not here before, I’m a decent size but magnum XL would just be too big for me which makes me wonder, who’s are they and when did they show up. I do not think these are old condoms from an ex, we’ve been together for a year and these look pretty new, also weird that they’d pop up out of nowhere in a place I’ve looked at dozens of times, I’m sure they were placed here at an attempt of hiding them, but I don’t think my gf put them here.

I was a little shocked at first but now I’m not sure, it’s kind of hot, maybe it’s an old box but maybe it’s not, I’m somewhat aroused by this which is also a little shocking to me, idk if I’ll confront her when she gets home or not, I’m not sure what her reaction will be.

Update: Last night this had no attention so I just asked her when she got home, though had I waited, I probably would’ve heeded most of this advice.

She came home around 11 and after letting her settle I basically just asked her, I didn’t think, I just asked and showed her the box. Her biggest shock was that I found it bc apparently she didn’t put them there the guy did, she didn’t seem ashamed or embarrassed though, just indifferent to the fact that she’s been cheating.

She confessed, she was seeing another guy purely for bedroom activities with him (ouch) I asked for some details and explanation and basically they met some odd months ago and it led to them sleeping together. She told me that initially it was just supposed to be a one time thing to satisfy needs (that she wouldn’t tell me about) but after they hooked up that time she was basically in it for the long run, she told me that, yes, he was in fact much bigger than me (she basically said it exactly like that, also ouch) but the main factor was that he was much more experienced “sleeping with you is good and fine but he knows what to do and how to do it” (seriously, ouch)

Yeah I asked a few things, got some answers and I was just shocked, I never got an apology, I’m not sure what to do, she told me she still loves me and suggested opening the relationship bc she wants to explore and and stuff but it’s so weird that she has these wants and needs and never mentioned them until I found out. I just went to bed after the conversation and we haven’t said much since last night.

And just to be clear, I’m not into the whole cuckold thing, I didn’t think the idea of someone else banging my gf was hot, it was more about the nature of it all. I don’t mean that in a bad way, just not into cuck stuff

Update #2: A lot of you are right, she lied, she cheated, even in an open relationship I don’t think I could trust her anymore, maybe if she was upfront from the beginning I could’ve even considered being open, but yeah, I’m going to end things in a calm manner. Thanks everyone for the advice.