I’m 19 and consider myself straight. But I met this gay guy at school (age 21) and we really got on.

We made fast buddies and I admit I did strangely find him attractive. He’s taller than me, lean, thick dark hair, and super- brown eyes.

The first hint that something was up was when we were in the shower cubicle at the campus gym and I saw him without anything on. It totally turned me on.

Fortunately, I had my pants on because there was definitely a boner. So some time goes by… and we hang out (and yeah, in between I did jerk off imagining him).

Then one night about a few months ago I was over at his house and we were watching a movie. We were sitting pretty close together and I felt inclined to hold his hand so I reached over and took it.

He didn’t even seem surprised, though I did notice a smirk on his face. Anyway, he didn’t pull away and we just sat there holding hands for awhile.

Then we sort of glanced at each other, and he leaned forward and kissed me.

Then I kissed him back and we made out on his couch (at some point we were even lying down, him on top of me, with shorts removed and that got me even more turned on).

 He led me by my hand to his bedroom, we took each other’s clothes off, and had intercourse (everything including oral but short of “backdoor” since I was not prepared for that in more ways than one).

And I was confused but pretty happy, and it was honestly better than anything I’ve ever had with a girl (though my experience in that arena is rather limited). I ended up spending the night with him. From that point on, our interactions changed.

When greeting each other, we kiss, I spend a few nights a week at his place.

My roommate (who is also gay) walked in to our apartment once and found me with my head in his lap and him stroking my hair.

Afterwards, my roommate referred to him as my boyfriend, and I had to correct him, because again, I’m straight, but I feel strongly connected with him and enjoy spending time close to him.

But then last night my sister asked how things were going with my boyfriend. She said it jokingly, but it’s starting to make me self- conscious.

Am I misinterpreting this relationship, and we’re more than just close buddies who periodically have fun? Is it possible I’m not straight, or do no other straight guys feel comfortable doing stuff like this? Any advice?”

Netizens’ comments

• Ya, u are not straight. U are bi at best. And the relationship is either friends with benefit or soon-to-be boyfriend. Like even a straight male doesn’t do this kind of stuff with a close female friend?
• We’re all on a spectrum, not an on-off switch. It’s possible to love just this one male person, and not others. People love to place others into neat little boxes so that their tiny brains can get on with life, but that doesn’t mean reality is such. Just love who you love. Life’s too short, and all that jazz.

I (32M) think I need to break up with my girlfriend (43F) due to problems with our age difference.

My girlfriend and I have been together for just over a year and overall our relationship has been good. Our age 11 year age difference did concern me at first because I thought we would have different expectations of our relationship so I was very clear with my girlfriend about what I want in our relationship before getting too serious.

Before we officially started dating, I straight up told her that I want to take my time with everything and don’t want to rush anything. I told her that marriage was something I wanted but definitely not in the near future (atleast 3 years of dating).

I also told her that I didn’t want kids until I was atleast married for one year. I was honest and direct with how I view the relationship at the start so that there were no surprises. She completely agreed with me on everything and told me that she has no rush. So nothing was holding us back.

The first big problem in our relationship occured at right about 6 months. My gf all of a sudden told me that she wanted to move in together despite only being together for half a year. I definitely didn’t feel comfortable with this this early into our relationship so I told her that.

I reiterated that I didn’t want to rush anything and that I would feel comfortable moving in if we were together for a year. This caused a few serious arguments between us.

We have now been together for about a year and recently some other concerns have been brought to my attention. Recently while discussing moving in together since we both feel ready for it, she told me that she wants to be married by the time our 2nd year anniversary comes around and that she even wants to be pregnant.

So she basically expects a proposal from me in the next few months. I straight up told her that I’m not ready to propose yet any time soon and reiterated again that I don’t want to rush anything I’m not comfortable with. This lead to another big argument about our expectations of our relaitonship.

Now I’m really doubting if this relationship is good for the both of us since we both have very different timelines about what we desire in our relationship despite me being very clear about my expectations from the start.

I don’t want to feel pressured by my partner into anything but that’s how I exactly feel right now. I don’t see a solution where the both of us are happy and fullfilled wihtin our relationship. I think that I definitely need to narrow my future dating to only women that are younger than me so situations like these don’t occur again.

Do you guys think there is anyway to resolve this matter without anyone resenting eachother? Or do I have to accept that it is over and search for a younger partner who also isn’t in a rush about the future,

My [29M] GF [27F] doesn’t want to post me on social media because it may cause “drama” from guys she rejected.

Hi everyone. I don’t normally like posting about my relationship online but am a little perplexed as to how to take this one.

My current GF and I have been dating for a couple of months and things have been great. I can tell that she’s committed to the relationship and we spend a great amount of time with each other and have fun.

Yesterday we were on a trip and I took a selfie of us and said “you should post that” without much thought. She then said “oh you can post it, but I don’t think I want to.”

I asked her why and she said that it could “cause drama.” Again, I asked her what she meant and she said she has a lot of guys who she rejected that follow her on Instagram and she doesn’t want the “oh I thought you weren’t ready for a relationship?” type of comments.

I asked her why she cares and why she keeps guys like that on social media to which she didn’t say anything.

I know she’s not keeping the relationship a secret, her friends and family know about me. I’m just a little concerned as to whether this type of behavior could be indicative of people who chronically seek attention online from the opposite gender.

There’s nothing particularly wrong with that, but I’d honestly not know how to feel about a partner that’s like that.

Would this be particularly alarming behavior? Or should I just calm down and enjoy the ride? Thing is, I’d like to talk to her about this but no matter how I word it it sounds confrontational/judgmental.

Thanks in advance.

I (25M) am finding it harder and harder to look at my fiance(25F) because of her weight gain

I dont really know how else to say it but over the past couple of years my fiance has been gaining weight at what seems to be a pretty quick rate and its been bothering me for a while.

She tells me somewhat frequently that when she orders food to her office she’s eating really healthy foods like smoothies, poke bowls, and salads.

And she says when she weighs herself that she fluctuates but it’s overall downwards.

But I just can’t believe her when she makes jokes about her fupa or when I look at her stomach going out farther then her chest.

I can’t help but to stare and I don’t even think “oh that’s disgusting” or “she’s really gross” just a feeling of disappointment.

She’s very sensitive but I don’t want these feeling to develop into resentment about it or anger at her. I love her dearly and while I’m not the picture of fitness and health, but I’m at least trying and working really hard to improve my own body.

I’ve been losing weight steadily of the past month+ and I’ve lost a lot of weight and I feel really good. But she doesn’t want to participate or try any of the recipes I want to cook. She doesn’t want to walk with me either or do anything physical really. It’s excuse after excuse.

I know it’s gonna hurt her feelings if I bring it up and she’s going to feel really ugly and gross and think that I don’t find her attractive at all.

I still think she’s beautiful, sweet, kind, and very physically attractive, but if I don’t say anything now about her weight and physical appearance I’m worried about her health and well being.

So I guess my main question is, is there a way I can gently bring this up and still help her understand how I feel?

If there’s any questions about what might help you better understand the situation I’d be more than happy to answer as best I can. Thank you