Girlfriend of 7 months wants me to pay every time we go on a date and it’s getting incredibly expensive

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 7 months and while most things are quite good, she’s a good girl and all, she wants me to pay every time we go on a date and also wants to see each other many times per week.

She has a better paying job than I do, but still never offers to pay for meals or anything and it’s getting a little straining on the finances.

She told me she’s been called high maintenance before, but I don’t really see that being the case with most things other than wanting me to foot the bill for everything.

How do I approach this situation?

Netizens’ comments

• “Hey, I can’t afford to pay every time we go out. Would you be willing to start splitting since we both earn a good amount of money?”
  You should get the finances conversation out of the way early on in the relationship to see where you both land on it.
• Sir she doesn’t even offer to go half? Does she make it up doing other things? How often do you go out? It sounds like she’s getting a free ride off you at your expense. If she’s straining your finances now it’s only going to get worse
• When she asks to do something say “if it’s your treat than sure! I’m little stretched from doing X last week” or offer something different “I’ve been Spending too much on going out lately let’s just stay in and watch movies.”

A double-decker tour bus heading to Singapore from Ipoh crashed in Kuala Lumpur on 21 July at about 12.05am, with 19 people being sent to the hospital.

Of the 24 passengers on board, only one of them is Singaporean (a 6-year-old girl) and coincidentally, she is unhurt.

The bus purportedly crashed into a concrete road divider and overturned when the driver lost control of the vehicle along Jalan Damansara.

The Malaysian Civil Defence Force confirmed the accident on Thursday, saying that they were alerted to the accident at about 12.40am, with emergency personnel sent to the scene and the injured passengers were then taken to Kuala Lumpur Hospital.

The bus was seen lying down on its side with the front windshield destroyed.

Media reports coming out of Malaysia added that firemen had broken the windshield to reach the trapped people inside the vehicle.

The bus is operated and belongs to Sri Maju, a company that provides services between Malaysia and Singapore.

I found out my girlfriend is married.

I found out when I called her cell and a man answered. I was super confused and double-checked the number and asked who it was and he said it was her husband his name and she was busy.

I accidentally yelled out loud and sighed then told him we’d been seeing each other and not once did she mention she had a husband and she never had a ring on.

I apologized profusely and told him that I had no idea and we would not be seeing each other anymore.

The poor guy was obviously crushed and angry at first but he understood and believed I didn’t know.

I told him again how sorry I was especially that he found out like this and told him to feel free to tell her she and I are done when they talk and we cut the conversation short.

Later she started blowing up my phone with calls and I didn’t answer. She texted me and was legitimately angry I told her husband.

I texted her back and told her she and I were done and what she did is scummy and blocked her number.

I know I did the right thing and that because I didn’t know none of this is my fault but I still feel like shit.

We’d only been dating for about a month but it still sucks. I just met her at a bar and we’ve hooked up at my place exclusively because her “roommate works early and needs sleep”

she also never stayed the night because she needed her “sleep apnea mask at home” God I’m such a moron.

The Singapore Police Force confirmed that they are investigating a discriminatory and anti-LGBT+ education talk given to students from Hwa Chong Institution by a school counsellor.

The police confirmed on 22 July that they were following up on reports made, but stopped short of divulging who made the reports and what laws have been breached.

The school counsellor has also been suspended by the school and reprimanded, and HCI added that his presentation was not approved by the school.

Recap

A photo emerged online showing discriminatory remarks being made against the LGBTQ community in Singapore during a school assembly session.

The photo shows a slide pertaining to “community health”, with the header “what are LGBT so proud of? emblazoned at the top of the slide.

Prejudices against LGBT community

The slide displayed prejudices against those from the LGBTQ community, with statements such as “33% of homosexuals have problems with alcohol”, and “33% of homosexuals are pedophiles and rapists”.

Hwa Chong Institution

According to Instagram user @heckin.unicorn, the school in question is Hwa Chong Institution (HCI), as the netizen provided evidence that the photo was taken from HCI.

They identified the school’s logo on the podium stand and compared it against another photo taken at an event that happened earlier in May.

Principal to address students

To further corroborate the allegations against the school, a message was also purportedly disseminated to the secondary 4 students addressing the issue.

The message was from “Mr Pang, Ms Lim and Mrs Chin”, who thanked the students for their feedback and concerns relating to the assembly in question.

They said that the school takes a serious view of the matter and that the principal will be addressing the entire cohort on Monday (18 July).

According to inside sources, the presentation was not vetted by the school and was presented solely by the school counsellor, with no external organisations involved.

Email to the students

“Dear Sec 4 Students,

Thank you for your feedback and concerns with regard to Wednesdays assembly session. We appreciate your comments and reflections, and for reaching out to us directly.

The school takes a serious view of the matter. Principal Mr Pang and the school leaders will be addressing the entire Sec 4 cohort next Monday (18 Jul).

Please report to the the High School Auditorium at 7.30am for the morning flag-raising, followed by the session. You need not report to the school terraces.

Should you have any queries, please feel free to reach out to the School Leaders or your Consortium Director directly. We look forward to the engagement session on Monday. Have a good weekend ahead.

Best regards, Mr Pang, Ms Lim and Mrs Chin”