i (18f) am 5 months pregnant and i have to force my fiance (20m) to shower, brush his teeth, etc.

i am pregnant and my fiance won’t take care of basic hygiene etc tasks on his own. i’m really exhausted and i need to know where to go from here.

i am 5 months pregnant. my fiancé is an amazing man and i love him with all of my heart. we have been together about two years now. i truly intend to spend the rest of my life with him, but this is really affecting me and i don’t know what to do.

our entire relationship i have had to basically be a mother to him. i have to tell him to brush his teeth, to change his clothes, to shower, take his medicine, to do his schoolwork. i have to wake him up and tell him when to go to bed.

the worst thing is that i have to argue with him to get him to complete these tasks. if i don’t force him to do these things, he simply doesn’t.

once i didn’t remind him to do these things because frankly i was exhausted and i wanted to see if maybe he’d step up.

i think he went about 4 days without showering or changing his clothes before i finally couldn’t take the smell anymore and i made him shower. it’s so draining and i’ve just been keeping it bottled up for so long. i also have to beg him to help me clean.

i have been extremely patient and understanding. however, keep in mind he works a full time job and is well above average intelligence. i believe he is fully capable of doing these things on his own, maybe i’m wrong, i don’t know.

every once in a while i have asked him to try to work on it, to set reminders on his phone if that would help him. i have always held a calm tone and been nothing but supportive and kind. i have never shamed him.

but today i had enough. he was arguing with me about not wanting to brush his teeth. i told him that i was done being his mother, that he was an adult and that i feel he is fully capable of taking care of himself.

i told him i felt like when my son is born i was scared i’d be taking care of both him and the newborn all by myself. i told him i would no longer be reminding him because i was exhausted.

he said i couldn’t just suddenly leave him to fend for himself; i said i disagreed and that he should be able to perform basic tasks. i feel bad for it but i asked him if he would even be able to take care of our son when he couldn’t take care of himself. he got really quiet after that. i feel so bad.

i love him with everything in me but i just can’t do this anymore. i’m pregnant, i’m hormonal, i’ve been doing this for so long and i’m tired.

any advice is appreciated. don’t know where to go from here. thank you for taking the time to read this.

My blood boils right now. ( this post is about people who are always late)

I am generally very patient person ,

BUT

Today I had a very frustrating experience. I invited my acquaintance for Sunday lunch. Before setting up the time I gave her an option between 2 or 3 pm knowing that she’s been late before and I wanted to accommodate her with enough of time this time. She chose 2pm and I agreed.

The day we were supposed to meet I texted her to confirm if 2pm still works, she confirmed. At 2 pm I’m waiting for her and she doesn’t show up.

So about 15 minutes later I decided to call her to check if she is all right. The third time I called she picked up a phone and tells me that she will be leaving home in 30 min. ( just to be clear it takes her about 30 other minutes to get to the destination)

I let her know that I would be waiting for her but also let her know that I was not very happy with her being late.

So 30 min later after the original phone call she sends me a text in which she tells me that she is not sure now if she would come at all, since I’m upset with her, because she didn’t like that I expressed my dissatisfaction about her being late😳 and starts to blame me that I’m angry for no reason.

And tells me that I’m not waiting for her on the street under the heat, and that I’m in comforts or something like that… I was so shocked to read that.

And I asked her: are you OK? I literally lost my speech ability. And then she started going and going and going with the same exact argument.

At that point I felt like I’m going to get a heart attack or something, cause I felt my heartbeat in my throat.

End of story. I kindly asked her to stop texting me, she didn’t, so I blocked her phone number. And then I left.

What is wrong with you people that are always late? Don’t you get that being so late ( or late at all) is disrespectful?

At least have a courtesy to say: I’m sorry, I’m going to be late. But don’t you dare blame people for getting frustrated with you for your unpunctuality.

I feel so much better now getting this off my chest. Thank you for reading my rant.

A netizen shared how he is quiet and introverted, and girls found him boring because he thinks about what he says carefully.

However, after he started earning $200k per year, the same girls are now calling him “introspective” and “thoughtful”.

Here is what he said

A few years ago, alot of girls hiam me because they say I am quiet, introverted and boring person just because I think about what I will say carefully.

Now I am earning 200K per annum, those girls say I am introspective and thoughtful when I speak. Money talks

Netizens’ comments

• Those are not true friends..True friends will say the same thing regardless of your wealth
• That, and you elevate humble bragging. 
• Money is king in this world… People say money is not everything.. Honestly money is everything and money talks.. Money is evil too..
• Just wondering if you are a quiet person, how do people even know how much you earn. Is it the first thing you say is always “I earn 200k per annum”? Hmm…