Hello, hope this is the right place! I just started my first job and I’m excited but also a bit nervous. I just graduated uni and don’t have a whole lot of experience with interacting with people.

I’m not bragging but I’m considered quite attractive and sometimes men will talk to me.

I don’t know other than the general small talk with an employee when checking out. Naturally, I am usually nervous and anxious, especially being by myself or talking to people so feeling anxious isn’t unusual with me but this incident was a bit different.

Im 20 and I hate my body so much. I spend so many nights crying over how my natural body features are just so unattractive. I have small boobs (Im like a 34B).

Barely any cleavage if at all. Cant wear certain shirts. Cant wear certain bathing suits or else I just look stupid. I have hip dips and basically no waist so my frame is pretty narrow.

Hate that I don’t have an hourglass figure and that I look so slender. The only desirable parts of my body are that I’m fit since I played sports year-round for 12 years and I have a bigger than average backside.

Everything that I don’t have is what’s seen as most desirable and what signifies “fertility” biologically so I’m pretty screwed as I’m lacking in all the physical areas that matter most. And I’ve always wanted kids so it’s a disappointment to know guys internally think I’m unfit to be a mother.

Should I take the loan and do it?

Friend’s wife slept around with SG men to get PR status

He got married with a foreigner last year. Till now been around 9 months of marriage. Throughout the marriage, the wife does not attend any family’s gatherings on the husband side. And she did not move to her husband’s place after ROM.

After marriage, the wife’s true colours started to show. She will get angry at the slightest thing and will start cursing him and his family to death.

What’s worst she will bring up past relationship she had with married/attached men. Comparing how good in sex they were with the husband.

To make things worst, she has blocked the husband now on all forms of communication after attaining PR status.

Recently, she was seen by his friend with another guy. She has been staying with an older sister in SG – a PR too and someone who is enabling her behaviour.

So much so she can argue back with my friend when he went to their place to ask where the wife is ‘why can’t she go out with friend? She cannot have guy friend?’

So the intention and scheme of this woman is clear now, ever since she came to SG in 2017, she has been sleeping around with SG men with the hopes of attaining PR status. Married/attached/single. All in all, there has been about 5 men she was in a relationship with.

And now my friend want to divorce her but because the law says marriage less than 3 years cannot divorce. Plus he hopes to revoke her PR status and send her back to kampong.

Dear all, please advise what can my friend do now to stop this woman from breaking up families and relationships in SG. She is still enjoying her life here. Looking for guys with money and car. Looking to switch career with her newly given PR status for higher pay.

Thank you all for reading. Any advice given will be appreciated.

I accidentally farted on my boyfriend in the middle of the act

I’m riding him like Seabiscuit, we were being a little rough and I let out the loudest fart imaginable. I didn’t even feel it coming, it just slipped out.

He pulled a face like he was about to laugh, but then just grabbed my hips and made me keep going without acknowledging what just happened.

I thought maybe he didn’t hear it, but it was louder than Krakatoa and vibrated on his balls – he definitely knew it happened and apparently just didn’t care.

He didn’t even say anything about it after, just pretended it never happened. I thought to myself “Jesus, he’s never going to want to see me again after this.” but he stuck around for the rest of the day & was just as affectionate as always.

Maybe he just thought it was a queef, but I know it wasn’t.

Thank god it didn’t smell.

I’m an 18-year-old girl and my holiday job is at a restaurant.

I’m the only girl who works there, all my colleagues are men who are older than me. One of my colleagues who I think is around 25/26 has been making me very uncomfortable recently.

When I first started working there he would get very close to me physically and ask me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did, even though I do not because I thought it would make him leave me alone.

Every time I work he asks me if I and my boyfriend have broken up yet. Every time I tell him we have not. During my last shift, he snuck up on me from behind while I was chopping food and touched me. Later that day he started reaching toward my face, and I told him to stop then backed away.

He kept reaching until I was backed into a wall and touched my face and started messing with my hair then told me I was so pretty. I was clearly uncomfortable and trying to get away from him. He asked me how old I was a few days ago, and when I told him I was 18, he said there’s no way I’m 18, that I look 15, which made me very uncomfortable since he clearly likes me so the fact that he thinks I look like a 15-year-old child and likes me anyway is really gross.

He texts me sometimes when I’m not working asking me to come by the restaurant, and I always just say no I’m busy so I will see you during my next shift, and then he will say something along the lines of “I’m counting the minutes until then”.

The reason I would like some opinions on if this is sexual harassment is that I worry I am overreacting due to my past experiences. When I was 15 I was groomed and almost “taken” by a man in his 20s who also worked at a restaurant.

He used to bring me by the restaurant a lot and the way my colleagues behaves honestly reminds me a lot of what happened when I was younger and is bringing up a lot of past memories.

I really don’t know what to do in this situation. I don’t want to report my colleague if it is sexual harassment because I already have to go to court against the man who did it to me when i was 15 and am dealing with that, so i cant handle another report right now.

Would really appreciate some opinions on this. Thanks.

My Spouse and me been married for 2.5 years. Planning to take our wedding shoot overseas. Out of the blue on one fine day, a random stranger text me with 2 photos of my spouse having affair with a man.

I was shocked. I asked for more photos and where the photo she gets it from. But she can’t prove otherwise the photos is from Facebook and other social media and giving all sort of excuses that the account is locked and the photos all removed.

The stranger addressed herself as the gf of the man, saying my wife has been having affair with his man for around 1.5 years+ and claiming the photos is my spouse posted on his man’s Facebook.

So I raise this issue and the screenshot to my wife. She was also shocked and denied it having affair that the photo was photoshopped saying cause her friends all know she going to plan to have a wedding so her friends now all sabotage us and break us up.

As in Vietnam, their culture is like this from what I’ve known. Jealousy of other people can get happiness while they don’t. So they will try to bad-mouth you as much as possible.

My wife now told me she is very stressed at the moment, scare I worry and keep think of her having the affair with that guy. and worry next time who will send photo or what to disturb us again.

That guy I knew before, last time my wife video chat with him quite often and told me is just friend. And got a period of time I can see this guy keep appearing beside my wife back in her country.

To a certain limit I go confronted her and she was stress and prove to me they have no relationship and were just friend. So she deleted his fb blocked him and cut down the contact with him.

That period was during Covid lockdown for about 2 years. So what happened during that time while she not in sg i couldnt know. But i choose to believe her since known her 5 years ago.

Is she getting defensive here when she denied the photos of having affair. I looked through the photo and examine. Hard to tell if really is photoshopped.

My sixth sense tell me the photos is real? but if is so why now when we are planning for photo shoot, then the person come show me this photos and is not right from the start?

Should I believe my wife or believe that girl? Been very stress and depressed about my Job and income already and yet this issue surfaced out of the blue. Should just closed one eyes and believe her and proceed with the wedding shoot?

That girl see I not entertain her much, she no more come and pester me and the account photo was removed.

In the event if is real, what are the consequences of divorcing her? Do I still by law need to split half of my assets to her? even though i’m earning peanuts and doesn’t own any property yet.

Right now it’s really affecting my sleep and my work. Been thinking about if my spouse really cheated me during my absence for that covid lockdown period globally. But I really love my spouse.

What shld I do? Fear of myself couldn’t face the reality.

So it’s been a week since my ex and parted ways. It was not amicable, but it was necessary!

The relationship had started going south due to her mental health issues (literally siao lang). She had a diagnosis that wasn’t helpful after a biopsy due to her chronic health issues. All I wanted to do is help her and try to support her as best as I could.

She had been the most supportive and empathic person in my life and all I wanted to do was try to help her. She would not accept my help with small tasks or small gestures to help her out. Instead, she said it made her feel incompetent.