Yesterday we hung out with my friends and she decided to lie to her parent and come sleep at my place. Before we met with my friends at my place, she told me that she needed to go home, and she asked me to drive her home, by 8/9AM, the next morning; so i told her that it depended on when we were going to sleep.

We went to sleep at 4:30/5AM and she woke up at 8:30 PRETENDING that i drove her home after 4 hours of sleep. I refused because i don’t want to drive while I’m sleeping and i didn’t want to drink a ton of coffee to wake up (i also drank 2/3 beers yesterday night and was still vaguely dizzy from that too, other than beeing tired).

Let me make something clear before i continue, we live around a kilometre apart so it’s not that long of a trip but the road, for half of the trip, is really really bad and has some turns where, if you’re driving, you don’t really see what’s next so i really didnt want her to go home alone.

I told her that i could pay for a MRT ride that would have shorten the trip to a quarter of the length and made her avoid the turns part and she said no, i told her that if she waited a couple of hours i could have driven her home but apparently she “has to study” (by being on her phone texting me how mad she is) so she had to go home early.

So anyway she decided to walk home and her dad found her on the way home so she had to tell him everything and i think she’s mad also because her dad told her that she should be. And today is also kinda hot which makes it worste.

So, am i at fault for not driving her home?

I’ve been struggling with depression ever since I was 11 and one times when I was 17, my blood pressure when so high, I couldn’t feel my arm (it returned back to normal after a few days with the help of anxiety medication. the reason behind this was my deadbeat dad). I’ve been fine since then except for the occasional stress.

well, yesterday, my aunt was as usual angry without any reason and she seemed tired. she asked me to make dinner so I said sure and I went to find a recipe. evening rolled around and it was time I started making dinner so I went to the kitchen to find my aunt had already made most of dinner and was waiting for me to come and finish what she started. I got a bit mad because why would she ask me to make any dinner I wanted when she made dinner on her own and expect me to finish making it.

now there is this thing about me in the kitchen, I don’t like touching other people’s food until it’s finished and I don’t like them touching mine (this makes me sooo anxious, I don’t know why) so I just told her I’m not gonna make dinner anymore and I left the kitchen to avoid anymore conflicts.

when I agreed to make dinner, I thought she was tired and that she wound take a nap while I’m making it but she didn’t seem that tired anymore as she had finished most of dinner anyway.

she didn’t seem to like my response so she stopped talking to me for the rest of the evening and then by 10 she started talking to me so I though like there is nothing wrong anymore, well, wrong. by 1 AM, when everyone was going to sleep, she got angry at me again for apparently the same reason as before. no one reminded her of it or anything she just decided that she wanted to be angry at me.

she started yelling at me, threw my phone at me all the while I didn’t say anything. in bed, I stared stressing out, my chest started hurting and I had a feeling like there are needles in my right arm and I wanted to cry.

when I woke up this morning, she was making breakfast, she completely ignored and then slammed my plate on the table. I wanted to cry and the pain in my chest returned and I had a feeling like I was about to throw up. so I just left without eating anything.

Not sure if she is having menopause.

she followed me to my room yelling at me for disrespecting her by not eating anything (I just couldn’t, I felt like I would vomit). I chose not to say anything because I didn’t want to make her angrier. she kept yelling for sometime before she left and now she keeps telling everyone that I’m making her to be the bad guy in this whole situation and I’m an ahole.

I am about to marry my partner next week. We both have big families, so it’s going to be a big wedding. I have 3 siblings and more than a dozen cousins, and I wanted to invite them all.

One of my cousins who’s closest to me in age is Mike. He also lives closer to me than some of the rest of the family, so I’ve had the chance to see him more than the others, including meeting his girlfriend, Anna.

She’s nice, I guess, but she smells like eggs all the time. It makes her hard to be around, and that stress isn’t something I want to deal with at my wedding.

When I brought up my concerns with my partner and told him that I didn’t want her coming, he said it was my side of the family and I could do what I wanted with the invitations. So I did. She’s not coming. I sent my cousin an invite. No plush one.

Well, Mike just found out he’s the only close family member not getting a plus one, and he was upset. He asked if there was a mistake, and despite not wanting to deal with his drama, I told him the truth. It wasn’t a mistake. I just didn’t want Anna coming. When he pressed me on the issue, I told him that she smelled, was hard to be around, and I didn’t want her coming.

He yelled at me and called me some unpleasant things before saying if she wasn’t coming then neither was he.

I told him he had to come. It’s my wedding and he has to be there. He ignored me, and then he blocked me.

I understand why he might be upset, but he has to be able to see my side too. Am I really the one at fault for not wanting to add stress to my wedding?

My nephew’s mom, she’s an amazing mom and she does the best that she can, did not want to let this happen and no one in my family (my 19 y.o sisters, myself, and my stepdad) other than my mom and brother thought it was a good idea.

My mom already has 8 kids, half of which she’s not even on speaking terms with for plenty of reasons. She enjoys having babies but the second they start walking, talking, and getting into things, LIKE KIDS DO, she no longer wants anything to do with them.

She repeatedly tried to guilt and pressure my nephew’s mom into letting her adopt my nephew until she finally got to a breaking point and took my nephew out of state to stay with her family, I don’t exactly agree with the decision but I don’t blame her for it either.

Now onto the main thing, my brother, his baby mama, and my nephew all moved into my maternal grandmother’s house, and I moved out of my parent’s house, about a month before I moved out I got a call from my maternal grandmother screaming at me, demanding to know how I could do this to my mom.

I was so confused and asked her what she meant, she continued to scream at me demanding why I would try to ruin my mom and brothers relationship, again, still really confused I asked what she meant. She said that my brother told her he didn’t want to have my mom in his life any more because, apparently, I had sent him videos of her talking shit about him. I asked what the hell she was talking about, I didn’t even have his phone number. He said that I had sent him videos over Whatsapp but he didn’t have the videos or even the account name that sent them to him, I got chewed out by my entire family and despite my trying to defend myself they all believed that I would do that without any proof.

I got my brother’s number from our younger sibling and sent him a long text telling him that if he wanted an excuse to stop talking to our mom he should have grown a pair and told her himself, I then proceeded to call him a sorry excuse for a man and a father and demand to know why he felt the need to drag me into his issues with our mom.

I never got a response but I know that he read the message, I’ve had family members tell me that while what he did wasn’t cool, I went too far by calling him that.