This is a matter that got me very confused lately. My friend of mine recently expressed her frustration to me that she thought the men she dated were cheap and didn’t want to pay for her date.

She thought these men should be ashamed. However, other girls have told me that they wanted to pay their share, because “they could take care of themselves”.

There are many conflicting messages for me as a guy. On the one hand, we all want equality, and having the guy pay for dates is not equality. On the other hand, I do not mind playing the role of the guy who “sweeps a girl off her feet to take her on an adventure”, and paying for a date can be a simple act of kindness.

But once it is expected and becomes tradition, it becomes an obligation. The way I see it, the only obligation I have towards a girl I take on a date is respect and kindness. But is paying for a date part of that?

My Gf also have the same kind of mentality she always say “cause its tradition for man to pay”, I then answered her “Its tradition for woman stay at home shut up and do housework” and we got into a big argument.

Arguing equality and logic with a woman is like talking to a donkey.

Are you disappointed if I want to split the costs? And: If I say I want to split the costs, do you take it as a sign that I am disappointed in the date?

Here are what netizens think:

• For me, I think if you ask somebody out on a date, you should pay, regardless of gender. If it progresses past the first date, split the bill. I would never expect a guy to pay for dates because of some outdated rule of chivalry.

• But, on the other hand, asking someone on a date and not paying for them is like saying, ‘Hey, I like you, come and spend your money on food with me.’ You’re the one putting yourself out there, they’re taking the risk by accepting, I kind of feel that it’s bad manners for the asker not to pay. It’s not about the money, but more about the gesture. You could always just take them on a date doing something that’s free, as well

• As a female, I definitely don’t expect guys to do all the asking, and as I’ve said, I don’t expect them to pay if they don’t ask. If you’re attracted to the sort of girls that expect you to ask then expect them to think you would pay as well, or seek out different women.

Im 22 and I played sports in school and was relatively fit. I’m still fairly in shape, but once I hit 20 years old I just gained 20 kg like immediately. I’m 160cm and fluctuated between 40-50kg and now I’m about 50-60kg after joining the working society.

So, here’s the background, as short as I can make it. I spent the first decade of adulthood making decisions because they felt like what I was supposed to do.

Things that my partner, parents, peers, and society expect from me. Eventually, that caught up with me and I realized that I was extremely unfulfilled. So I quit my job in academic research and became a baker.

Huge pay cut, but overall I have felt more motivated and satisfied than I was previously – and there’s something special about it being something that I actively chose instead of feeling like the pre-ordained next step in my life.

Title basically says it all.

My mom and dad have been separated for years now, and only just got their divorce settled last December. My mom is dating this guy, who we’ll call Joe. Joe’s a nice guy, but there are aspects that me and my younger sister don’t like about him. He tries to not include us in things, and will straight up tell us our opinions don’t matter in certain subjects. He acts like he runs the house. He and my mom have been together for 2 years.

I am a manager at a company and my colleague and I are basically on the same managerial level and report to the same boss. We’re in the same division, but the way our work is set up is that I make purchase for the company and he organizes, processes, and ships out our orders to our customers.

Investing money is using the money you earned on a potential gain or loss. There are several types of investment opportunities and many places for advice but getting one from a disco worker might not be the best choice.

A man shared how he met a girl in a Thai disco who claims that she is well-versed in the subject of investment but yet working in a disco to support her family, the statement is quite contradicting.

Story of the Investment Siam Diu Girl:

I met this girl in a siam diu sometime back before the restriction period started and She eventually went back to Thailand after the restrictions and worked in Bangkok as an AXA insurance agent.

We communicated in LINE and she often tells me she sells savings insurance and investment insurance to the locals.

Later on, She showed me her personal investment portfolios and they showed mostly gains. Her portfolio consists of a number of financial instruments from stocks, cryptocurrency trading and investment with her own insurance company.

Trip to Bangkok

I visited her in Bangkok soon after the borders re-opened and we met in a disco/club-like place for a drink.

While I was waiting for her in the disco, a girl approached me and said she is a student from a university and asked if she could sit with me. Soon after, the girl asked if I wanted any “special”.

I told her no as my friend is coming, I started to wonder why the siam bu wanted to meet at a location like this.

After my friend arrived, she pushed me to open up a trading account on XT.com to get started on some investments, she told me to buy some weird crypto currency that I have not heard of and said that if I lose the money she will pay me.

She said that it is a kind of investment yet savings at the same time.

I trusted her because of her strong investment portfolio and transferred $10,000 to my XT account and started buying the currency.

From Investment to “transaction”

Later she also asked If I wanted to go back to her place to “erhem” and she wanted 10,000 baht from me. I agreed as I was comfortable with her.

2 days later, the currency had a sharp fall and I lost over 90% of my investments. I immediately called her and she said that I should have sold it earlier. I told her it is only 2 days!

She said she sold the currency hours after we drank and made about $200.

She stopped responding and went MIA.

After contacting my friends back in SG, I realised that the place she work in was “freelancers” and the girl only wanted to make topics on investment to chat with me and her investment portfolio was probably not real.

I text her again after a few days and asked if she was working as a freelancer at the disco and she replied with a single word “ka”. That was the last message I got from her.

I returned to Singapore with my savings almost wiped out as I was clearly not making an informed investment decision and I was merely trusting the girl and thinking with my other head.

A netizen shared a story where he can’t find a home of his choice and seeks advice on buying a flat and taking bank loans.

Here is the story:

Today’s housing market is ridiculous.

Don’t get me wrong, the HDB scheme is amazing and through this scheme the housing authorities really do take care of those who are within that income band with various support measures for those who are struggling to make ends meet as well.

However, there is a group of people that have fallen through the cracks. With this economy in place, wages have been rising and our government has not been keeping up be evolving their income limits together with the growth in wages. What group is that? They are the ones who are early in their careers, hence having a low amount of capital, but holding a well-paying job that puts them just above the income ceiling for affordable housing.

I fall into this category, and even though my girlfriend and I are ready to take the next step to look to live together, we can’t find anything that we are able to afford. We don’t come from affluent families who are able to help us with the downpayment, but our combined income doesn’t allow us to apply for HDBs or ECs. The next level that is available to us would be resale HDB flats or condos.

But looking at the housing market today, Punggol resale flats going for 1 mil, new launch 2 BR condominiums going for 1.8 mil. Floating mortgage rates expected to hit 2+% by the end of 2022, how are we going to afford housing in this market? In addition to that, some basic renovations will at least cost 50-100k. This housing market right now is unattainable. Our governments policies of attracting the rich and wealthy from overseas are backfiring on their own people, with entire clans of mainland chinese moving to Singapore and keeping the bubble growing.

Just frustrated with the inability to move our lives forward, subsidies don’t work for us, affordable housing is not available for us and the next level of housing is getting more and more unattainable.

Financial advice for loans and housing by netizens:

• There are plenty of houses suitable for u. Just looking in the wrong direction.

• I think, if the market is not going to change for you, then maybe you should change your lifestyle like reducing the amount of cafe hoping, lesser overseas trip and impulsive purchase etc. make every penny count.If you have a “well-paying job” but “Low amount of capital”, that doesn’t sound like a government problem right?

• Hdb only checks past 3 months salary when applying for loan etc.One of you go be funemployed and do masters etc. Solved.

• Wonder where u got the facts. 1M for HDB? Unless u looking for EMs or EAs or prime location dont think u will hit 1M. 50-100k Reno is NOT basic, is extensive. Basic is within 20k, including floor and basic carpentry.U need to do more research, and judging from both of ur income exceeds EC ceiling, i bet u can do better research than this instead of only complaining and waiting for people to help u plan out everything.A couple with more than 16k monthly cannot save up captial? Dunno how u guys spend. Be more frugal, save and u can achieve ur downpayment.

• Eh, most 5 room at punggol resale at 600k+. What 1M are you talking about.I just shows you are the type of person who fabricate truth, or spin tales to suit your agenda. Sensationalize.

• Dude, no pun intended. HDB schemes are meant for majority. And clearly with your income, you dun fall into that. Income levels above IS MEANT TO FALL THROUGH THE CRACKS. Duh… Have you consider the feelings of others who are still waiting for BTOs before you post?And resale HDB at Punggol going at $1mil? Which agency u go to? They shld not be practising real estate. Last check, it is closer to $600k manz….

• Go sit down with a proper property consultant and work out the exact sums. Definitely there’s a solution for profiles like yours. It’s only when you don’t do a professional thorough calculation that your life planning get postponed indefinitely. A combined income of more than $14K can do a lot of things eh! You’re already luckier than many.

• A quick search on propertyguru will just prove that your statement dont hold water. Punggol HDB resale $1m?