Had my first hookup since losing my wife

It’s been over 2 years since I lost her. And tbh I (29M) didn’t think I’d ever have it in myself to be with another person. For the last month I’ve tried putting myself out there.

Last night I was at the bar with some friends. He introduced me to his friend Addy. She was really nice, very pretty too. We hit it off. Like while most of our friends decided to go smoke for a little bit we stayed in the bar area just talking about everything.

It was so nice. Honestly I just wanted us to keep talking once we were all about to leave so that’s when me and her decided to go eat something. But after I really wanted her so I decided to shoot my shot and asked if she wanted to come over to my place. She said yes

We ate some breakfast earlier when we woke up before she left. But she also left me her number so we can hang out again if I want to.

The whole experience has me feeling like I’m young and falling in love again and just got my first kiss, it’s crazy. It does feel like a long time since I’ve felt this excited about someone. Can’t stop looking at her number in my contacts and smiling.

Netizen’s comments

And it’s now, I am again reminded that I’m happy that life is made of chapters.

I’m glad for you man.

Hello all:

I will like to seek advice about how to deal with my in law here, especially from those whom are married.

My brother recently got married, as his girlfriend was pregnant.  Our family is a normal Singaporean family. Unfortunately I can’t get along with his girlfriend, aka wife now. She keep comparing and gossiping about me behind my back.  She’s 23 years old by the way, my brother is 24.

She loved to tell our parents how poor I am, she say these things weekly at our family dinner gathering. She said I am earning SGD1.4K where else she’s earning RM2500 in Malaysia. she’s a vietnamese working in Malaysia and she come from a rich family background which her father is a businessman. Recently she brought a car using her dad’s money and she mentioned that I have no money to buy a car. I was thinking, what the heck do I need a car for? SG is so small. She also like to mentioned that I do not have a husband and kid.

I simply don’t understand what’s the fun in comparing. I mean, we are all individuals, no one is the same.

I feel like blocking her on my social media accounts and after the baby is born, I will not give him/her any present on his/her birthday, which I knew, this thinking of mine is childish. They are organising their wedding dinner in July, which I am totally not keen in attending.

How do you all normally deal with an in law like that, and do you all have any siblings just like her, whom like to compare?

I have a super unreasonable and control freak husband.

He expects me and the kids to do things his way all the time (eg. the way we do/keep our things, how i hang the laundry, how we fold/hang our clothes, what time to do what, when to eat, etc etc). Sometimes we have tummyache just before we head out and needs to use the toilet, he will not be happy. He will lash out at us with unkind and impatient remarks making us feel lousy for having tummyache. When tummyache comes especially for kids, they also cannot control.

He is one who will always complain about everything except himself and gets impatient when things dont flow his way. He expects things to be ready or laid out ready for him when he returns from work, if we are home before him. Eg heater to be on, lights to be on Basically, he acts like a spoilt brat, worse than the behaviour of any kids. When cars road hog or get in his way, he will filter out and accelerate as if to show those cars he is unhappy. Seriously, like they will care? Why does he need to be impatient? If he is unhappy with us, he will drive recklessly and revs his car to show us he is unhappy with us and putting our lives at risk. For a man who will be half a century old in a few year’s time, still so immature?

Kids are not allowed to play happily or laugh too loud else he will shout at them to tone down. If he sees me sit down and rest before he does, he will be unhappy with me. But if i’m up on my feet and busy with things while he relaxes and surfs the phone, that is ok. Often he insults us with really hurtful words. It’s causing me and the kids a lot of pain and unhappiness all these years.

All these years, I keep forgiving him and giving in to him until I am very tired and it feels stressful living with him. I think its eating and rotting me and the kids up. Year on year, he just becomes worse and doesnt change no matter how i tell him his actions make us feel. Every few days our home will not have peace and i really hate it. He is also very petty and bear grudges for days. When this happens, he washes his hands off the household and doesnt care about the kids. HELP!!!!

Advice regarding correcting a blunder

In a recent job interview I did well in technical interviews. However, in HR interview while discussing salary, I came up with a number lower to company’s standards.

HR agreed and we signed the official contract. 

Later I came to knoe that salary is on quite low for that job role in that international company. Although that salary is quite good but still it is very low compared to other people with same job role in that company.

I need serious advice from people who are working in corporate sector that how should I correct this mistake?

Should I join this company and ask for increment after one year?

Admin please don’t filter this post, I need serious help.

Editor’s note: If you have better offers from other companies, accept those. But if you don’t, then take this job and perform well before asking for pay increment.