So my mom and I went out for dinner at a restaurant and became Karen. She paid for both of our food. When she went to pay, she accidentally tipped 20% on the card machine ($5.62 tip).

The two guys working were younger and weren’t sure how to cancel the payment. My mom told them it was a mistake and requested the money back. When the employees said they didn’t know how to cancel the payment after it had gone through, she got visibly irritated. She never insulted or raised her voice but was condescending to the workers.

Ultimately they called a manager who wasn’t there and the manager told them to reimburse her out of the tip jar.

After we sat down with our food I told her that it was humiliating that she was so adamant about getting the money back since it was such a small amount and was a tip to the employees to who she was talking down to. She then got mad at me saying that I get mad at her for everything she does.

I never actually called her a “Karen” to her face. It was just the best way I could describe it.

2) Money isn’t tight at all in our house. My parents have shared finances.

Am I wong for telling my mom she humiliated herself and me after demanding the tip back?

Here are what netizens think:

• since the tip was her mistake. If it hadn’t been her error I could have gotten behind her on this, but it was on her so, imo, she just needed to live with it and take it as a reminder to be more careful next time.

• I think it is great that you told her. Growing up, I never would have said that to my father because I “respect your elders.” Well, now we know that respect goes both ways, no matter the age.

• I frequently enraged my family by telling them respect was earned not automatically given when I was in my teens and twenties (1970s-1980s). I would have definitely called a family member out on behavior like this. 

Guy I work with cheated on his wife with me. Do I tell her now or wait?

My (29F) co-worker (31M) hooked up with me for 3 months last year while he was engaged to someone. He never told me he was engaged. We worked in different departments for a huge company so I didn’t think our work paths would cross and that it’s just a hookup. He marries the woman a couple of months ago and tells me he was ‘on a break’ with her while we were hooking up but I then understand from mutual friends that that isn’t the case and that he’d actually cheated multiple times.

Since his marriage, he has unexpectedly been transferred to my work department. We work closely, need to send each other files, be on the same calls etc. I’ve been acting professional, just focusing on the work aspects. I might be transferring out of that department towards the end of the year anyway.

Should I tell the wife now that he’d cheated (potentially before they try conceiving if they’re thinking of that; she’s 33? I’d want to know if I was her) or do I wait until I move out of the team as I don’t want him to try to make it difficult for me to do my job?

Side note: I have proof of the hookups and dates that they’d occurred on, so she’d be able to track that I’m genuine.

I recently dated a Singaporean guy and eventually he become my bf. He did pay for the first date and all. But subsequently in the relationship, he did hint to split 50 50 and want me to take parts of my share. He send me home everytime initially , but after we get together, no more.

He say in Singapore, 80% of the relationship goes on dutch and 15% is guys pay all and 5% others. It is true? I wasnt from Singapore and he was the first Singaporean bf I have. From my understanding, guy do pay for dates. But when in relationship, is it normally dutch? One meal alternatively? He wants equal contribution to our relationship. We had a fight over this and he gave in.

When we talk about family, he say he expect his wife to continue work after pregnancy because he think women will become shallow and obsolete if they don’t. Is this a common beliefs among the Singaporean? I don’t intend to be a housewife but taking out the option is another thing.

I know each relationship is unique and we are all dealing with different things. The objective is this post is just to understand the social norms Singaporean guys have. I am just confused that is my bf the norm or not.

My bf still treated me very well and love me a lot. He did pay for most of the date and I pay for some dates. He pay for the food, I pay for the drinks.

Here are what netizens think:

• Welcome to dating reality.To be honest, I don’t think your guy is calculative. If he is, he would have insisted you pay for the meals instead of just drinks.What he really want isn’t you paying for the meals. What he really want is you NOT taking him for granted.Did you ever inititate paying for the meals? Or you just sit there and wait for him to pull out his credit card? If it’s the latter, then you are the problem.When he says he wants equal contribution in the r/s, he is saying: “hey, take some initiative and pay for our dates, however small”.You bf is giving you reasonable expectations, he is trying to tell you, “I can be in this tog with you, but you have to show me you are too”.Show him you care and don’t take him for granted. I think he is honest enough to let you know his expectations early, than pull out these issues during an argument.

• Not just in Singapore but especially in the West. Based on your story, you seem to hold traditional ideals. If you want to be treated as an equal in a relationship, you have to know how to give and not just to take. Unless you have no job or source of income as a woman then maybe that is an excuse..Do not expect men nowadays to treat you like a princess unless you come from wealthy family or is drop dead gorgeous, then maybe men will willingly spend for everything.Be more independent that is my advice and have less expectations from men , especially if you are already in a relationship. In marriage though , women sacrifice more, especially when she has to give up her career and even looks so if you do not want to be a doormat when you become a mom and a wife, you have to choose a guy who loves you more because in marriage, it is the woman who gives the ultimate sacrifices that money cannot pay. What men do not realize is that 9 months is just the pregnancy part, raising a child is years and decades of sacrifice so I say to women, be independent but be very very wise in choosing your partner. That marriage can make or break you. That is marriage benefits the men more so dear men please do not count what you give monetarily because you cannot even afford to pay what women will sacrifice.Financially independent women know their worth. Be very observant of your partners because they can lead to your downfall.

• As a married woman. I honestly think you must work no matter what. Unless your husband can make you a tai tai. Tai tai and stay at home mum is different. Stay at home still must do housework, tai tai is go shopping and waste money everyday.

• Here’s a wild thought:How about not being hung up on whether the guy pays for the date or not (at least not only that);But being laser sharp on whether that man is both generous and wise in finances OVERALL. Just like whether guys discern whether their woman is a kind and gracious, indeed even generous, lady?Long-term stable couples would know what I mean.

A man seeks serious advice for his relationship after his girlfriend has a problem with his hobbies.

He states that Pokemon cards are a big part of his life but his girlfriend thinks otherwise.

Here is the story:

I need some serious relationship advice here.

I finally got myself a girlfriend. She’s pretty, and has a great figure, but the only downside is she hates my hobby with Pokémon cards.

I had emphasized many times to her that Pokémon cards are a form of investment just like how people are crazy over NFTs.

She just can’t seem to accept it.

To provide some context, I was previously a loner with no friends. I had only my Pokémon cards to provide me with accompany.

She complains that I am always going back to the mall, spending hours at the card shop looking at Pokémon cards and spending an excessive amount of time online.

She calls it a fetish.

After 1 month of us being together, she decided to give me the ultimatum. Give up my Pokémon cards or her.

I am in a serious dilemma now.

Should I get the dark Charizard next or the dark Dragonite next?

Here are what netizens think:

• Better than spending money drinking, at least your cards might have some value one day

• Tell her relationship or marriage is not everything. Be honest with her with your inner thoughts and communication is vital to keep any relationship gtg. Let say even if you give up Pokemon card hobbies and chose her, in future if you have any other hobbies she will make a big fuss of it and ask you to prioritize her over everything. Better think wisely and good luck to you.

• A lot of hobbies and collections come and go specially when you are older and has other priorities in life.

• On the path to be the best, sacrifices are necessary. Drive on, my brave warrior!

During this market downturn, I lost 1million+ US dollars due to the UST depeg and other tokens going down 80-90%. And I’m back to my net worth 2 years+ ago. I took a really long time building that portfolio, from farming defi governance utility/tokens, meme coins, your blue chip stocks. I thought I was smart, but I was merely early in the mania phase.

It felt…. Nothing. I know it can’t be compared to people who are worst off than me.

I feel so desensitized until I blew it all away. I was arrogant at the point to not have diversified properly especially with super high risk on assets like crypto.

I thought anchor protocol has a yield that was unsustainable but still decided to go for it and held it all the way down because ultimately there’s so many smart/VC people backing it. Nothing can go wrong right? And here I’m selling it at 10cents on the dollar.

I’m a really frugal person and even when I had that million + dollars I scrimped like someone who only had 100 bucks in the bank. Because I don’t cash it out at all. No one even knew I was worth that much. When I reached a million, I aimed higher with the same risk taking strategies but I didn’t know that it would be way harder. I would definitely work on my allocation strategies next time.

Anyone who had lost majority of their wealth >90%? How did you guys pick yourself up again?

I probably am able to make it through this phase and 2 more years of uni but I’m not sure if I’m ever going back to my peak net worth again. On the bright side, I still have my family, lifelong friends that see me for who I am and a healthy life. And that to me is more important than numbers on a screen.

Here are what netizens think:

• If it is just paper loss, you never really own it in the first place. Avoid putting all your eggs into the same basket next time specially in very speculative yet unproductive investments.

• Sigh I can empathise your situation cos I’m in a worse shit. But just bite the bullet and move on, believe market will go back up and believe the money can be earned again. Chin up and move on

• What you have lost is only 2 years of time. Take it as a learning opportunity. You are still young, with many years ahead to rebuild it.

Back then when COVID hit the world, the travel industry was greatly disrupted and many cabin crews lost their jobs or had too few flights to sustain their monthly salary.

With the border reopening worldwide except for a few countries, the travel industry is almost back in full force.

2,000 Cabin Crew Positions with SIA

According to the Straits Times (ST), the airline is looking to increase its cabin crew positions by 2,000 and already 800 of the positions have been filled up.

The company has been hiring since early March and the company told ST that they are looking to hire in response to the increasing demand for flights.

Here are some of the requirements for the cabin crew position with SIA:

• Minimum age of 18 years old due to legislative requirements
• Pleasant personality and service-oriented
• Fluent in English with good communication skills
• Minimum height requirement of at least 1.58m for females and 1.65m for males in order to carry out safety and emergency procedures onboard
• Minimum qualification of 5 GCE ‘O’ Level credits (including English) or Higher Nitec and above
• Former SIA Cabin Crew are welcome to apply

Source: Singapore Airlines