My retired uncle have been caught thrice for shoplifting in 2 years but since he is an elder, the police decided to just let him go with a warning.

On his third time he was arrested, he called my dad to bail him out instead. His family is sick of him repeating the mistake is had clearly state they won’t bail him for a third time. And they didn’t show up at all even after my dad called them. My dad made him promise not to shoplift again or he also won’t bail him out.

Fast forward, a year, nothing happened and we thought he is finally over the bad habit. But we are so wrong, the other day, we went out with my uncle and cousin for dinner. Before dinner, we did some grocery shopping when I saw he had hid a bar of soap in his pocket. I went over and gently remind him that there are cameras around and that someone was caught shoplifting a week ago (I made it up). I also make it clear that he can get anything and I’ll pay, since it a value shop.

I then walked away and do my own shopping. When we’re paying, I realized he didn’t have the soap in his basket. I assumed that he had put it back. But I was surprised when I saw him sneaked the bar of soap into his bag after we walked out of the shop.

When we’re done with dinner, I managed to find a time and speak with him, one on one. I told him I saw the bar of soap which he didn’t pay for. It’s not on the receipt. He admitted to ‘accidentally dropped’ it in his pocket which I told him that’s impossible. I reminded him that if he continues, the police will eventually charge him one day, it’ll be his 4th times already. He calimed that the police told him that they hate merchants who make a report over small things like these (because he usually steal small and cheap items like candies, soap, spoons, pens.. which can easily go into his pocket), so they won’t charge him. I don’t feel he wants to stop!

I know it might be a psychology thingy but is there a way to help him stop? What happen if no one bails him out? What is the punishment for repeated shoplifting?

So yeah, the night before my wedding my ex-husband (you can already see where this is going I’m sure) told me he had never actually wanted to get married, and since we had lost our virginity to each other a year into dating, he wanted more experiences and had cheated on me with his coworker.

You know, the one he had told me not to worry about a couple months earlier. He then said that the only way he wanted to still get married was if we opened our new marriage and he could sleep with other people.

At first I was in disbelief, and I was so terrified about what would happen if my parents found out that the guy they had warned me about (go figure) turned out to be a cheater. I spent most of the night crying and in shock, but I eventually agreed, and the wedding was back on. Hooray…

So the next morning, I’m terrified the whole time that he is going to back out and not show up to the wedding. But he does! We get married, go home, and don’t talk about the cheating/open relationship for a couple days.

Eventually, he reminds me of our deal, and asks when he can start seeing other people again. I ask him if he would wait a couple months to give me time to settle in to our marriage and recover from his confession of cheating. It was only a couple weeks later that he “let me know” he was going to “visit” his coworker that next weekend.

After about 1.5 months, I decide to try sleeping with an old friend/crush who I trusted to tell about my situation. It was great! And much needed to boost my confidence.

I ended up having one night stands with about 10 people during the next year, while my ex husband saw about 3 women consistently. Everything changed when I met Danny (fake name). I met him in class at uni, and we both were instantly attracted to each other.

I got his number, and we slept together once. Then twice. Normally I would stop at one or two times, but I liked his energy in bed so much that I wanted to keep seeing him.

Now this is where I’m at fault. I fell in love with Danny. HARD. I told Danny about my open relationship, and how the openness came about. He later told me that he didn’t expect me to be with HIM, but he didn’t think my ex was good for me. Danny pointed out all the times my ex had broken boundaries: staying out all night without telling me he wasn’t coming home, and telling his coworker that he LOVED her, although my ex told me he was just lying to his coworker to appease her.

Long story short, after realizing the kind of loving, trusting relationship I could have with Danny, and that things would never be the same with my ex, I broke things off. My ex obviously asked if there was someone else, and I told him yes. My ex wasn’t surprised or angry. He seemed to expect that this might happen, and didn’t blame me for being “unfaithful” and wanting to be with someone else. Long story short, I’m now over a year divorced, and engaged to Danny. Both of us are so excited to be getting married next year, and Danny can’t tell me enough how excited he is to have me as his wife. Im the happiest I’ve ever been, full of confidence and excitement for the future.

Just goes to show that divorce is definitely the right option for some, and some people should never get married in the first place. And never let fear of what others will think push you accepting terms you don’t 100% agree with.

So my son and daughter in law got engaged about 2yrs ago and a year ago I found out my husband has been cheating on me.

I filed for divorce and since then my son and my DIL started supporting his father more and i found out the reason was that he’s funding the wedding.

I was a SAHM but in the divorce, i got about 80% of his everything and my son was extremely against it and tried to get me to back down, when i refused he called me a horrible mom and a wife, and the reason my father cheated was that nobody can live with me.

After he said that my parents stopped supporting him. He blamed it on me. Divorce was finalised about 4mnths ago and one more thing was that for tax reasons his parents that my inlaws inherited all their properties to me.

Now the value is in millions. Although it was disclosed in the divorce documents my ex didn’t check it and i didn’t knew its current value either. But now my son wants me to come to the wedding and help them as his father couldn’t afford to anymore.

I refused and told them to leave my property and never come back. Both of them yelled about how I’m the worst mother and has no right to be a mother for abandoning my own son.

I seriously hate them and the way they treated me at my lowest. But now my mother is saying being a mother is all about forgiveness and that i should be the bigger person. And she also told me if i dont go to the wedding she wouldn’t either and if she doesn’t lots of other relatives won’t. Which is making me wonder if I’m not in the right?

I’m a 45 yr old male, and I have two sons my biological son Adam 21 and my stepson John 18.

When Adam’s mother died 5 years ago. He entered into depression we both went to therapy and we both started communicating better. I ended up buying him a car as I thought he’ll need it,it’ll cheer him up, and I had enough savings at the time.

I met my new wife Jade 40 yr old, 3 years ago. We got married one year after dating.

Now, Jade wants me to buy John a new car. I told her that I don’t really see why he needs a car and that cars are waaaaayyyy too expensive this year thanks to the certificate of entitlement. Jane is mad at me. She asked me if I actually liked her son. I told ger that I see him as my own. She denied that saying that if that’s true I would’ve bought him a new car just like I bought Adam’s.

I’m not sure how to approach her. I see that the situation is very different now. Jade is a housewife. She can drive John to his school and the area has improved a lot we have a good public transport system.

Jade doesn’t want to engage with me until I buy John a new car. I’m not sure what to do. I have enough money for a car but it’ll leave us in a hard financial situation for quite some time.

The worse part, she is not working and has no savings.

I can tell she is trying very hard to make sure her stepson likes her but it does not mean I have to burn more money and make myself bankrupt. I might have the money to buy a car for Adam then, but it does not mean I have the money now.

Here are what netizens think:

• Honestly, after reading your post and comments, your wife sounds like a pretty poor partner. As others have said, I don’t see what you’re getting out of this relationship. Were you just really lonely? Her reaction is terrible, her refusal to work is unacceptable, and frankly, I think you’re screwed. I wouldn’t personally want to stay married to someone like that.

• Sounds like they moved extremely fast. Got married after only a year, it sounds like he doesn’t really know who she is. Now she’s showing her true colors. I hope OP wises up and divorces this woman because this is a HUGE red flag.

• o how was your wife supporting herself and her son before she married your wallet?

• This makes me uncomfortable. They don’t seem like their in a financial place to be a one-income family and yet she’s making this kind of demand. Where is the stepson’s bio? Does he pay child support? And stepson is a teenager, so it’s not like she’s home taking care of a baby all day (although I’m sure she has work to do in the home).

i’m just another foreigner struggling to find a job in Singapore

So I recently graduated from Singapore Polytechnic with a diploma in Media & Communication and I’m a Burmese national. When I was on Student Pass, I worked a few jobs with ease, part-time then full-time until the expiration of my pass. Now I have applied to more jobs and went to interviews that went really well until I see the interviewer’s face drop when I told them I need a Work Pass. Instant no.

The obstacle is…well, very inescapable and I’m constantly disappointed at the fact I may have gotten a job if it wasn’t for my foreigner status. Not gonna cry about it, obviously, there will be a local preference and I don’t do anything that’s high in demand. And often the companies I apply to have no foreigner quota.

I come here to ask for advice. What do I do? I cannot go home to Myanmar. I don’t have the option. There is no possible way to advance a career there at the current state, let alone find a job. I had the option of going to university in the UK until I decided over 20,000 pounds a year was way too much for a path I wasn’t even terribly excited about. My goal is to literally just support myself in Singapore, to pay for rent, food, survive, yanno?

Is there anyone on the same boat? Would appreciate any advice. I keep on applying to jobs, aiming for bigger companies but there isn’t a lot I qualify for although I think I have a decent portfolio and amount of experience. Thanks everyone.

EDIT: Most of you guys were very helpful but there are one or two people who are…pissed? Claiming that I took advantage of Singapore. I don’t know if their fierce “love” for their country is a common thing but geez, calm down. I truly valued my time here and worked really hard in my course. If you’re just hopping on to say “boo hoo, it’s your fault”, move on. I am not asking for sympathy. I literally asked for advice, and received it, thankfully. I already explained myself in the comments below.