i’m just another foreigner struggling to find a job in Singapore

So I recently graduated from Singapore Polytechnic with a diploma in Media & Communication and I’m a Burmese national. When I was on Student Pass, I worked a few jobs with ease, part-time then full-time until the expiration of my pass. Now I have applied to more jobs and went to interviews that went really well until I see the interviewer’s face drop when I told them I need a Work Pass. Instant no.

The obstacle is…well, very inescapable and I’m constantly disappointed at the fact I may have gotten a job if it wasn’t for my foreigner status. Not gonna cry about it, obviously, there will be a local preference and I don’t do anything that’s high in demand. And often the companies I apply to have no foreigner quota.

I come here to ask for advice. What do I do? I cannot go home to Myanmar. I don’t have the option. There is no possible way to advance a career there at the current state, let alone find a job. I had the option of going to university in the UK until I decided over 20,000 pounds a year was way too much for a path I wasn’t even terribly excited about. My goal is to literally just support myself in Singapore, to pay for rent, food, survive, yanno?

Is there anyone on the same boat? Would appreciate any advice. I keep on applying to jobs, aiming for bigger companies but there isn’t a lot I qualify for although I think I have a decent portfolio and amount of experience. Thanks everyone.

EDIT: Most of you guys were very helpful but there are one or two people who are…pissed? Claiming that I took advantage of Singapore. I don’t know if their fierce “love” for their country is a common thing but geez, calm down. I truly valued my time here and worked really hard in my course. If you’re just hopping on to say “boo hoo, it’s your fault”, move on. I am not asking for sympathy. I literally asked for advice, and received it, thankfully. I already explained myself in the comments below.

My husband’s best friend “Nate” got a new girlfriend “Camilla” about half a year ago. She moved to our city recently so she doesn’t really have any friends here, but she and I hung out a couple of times and started to get friendly.

For context: we are all in our twenties, my husband and I both have nice jobs, we own a small flat, play tennis as a hobby (Camilla thinks it a rich people sport) and we regularly travel by finding cheap plane tickets and staying at cheap hostels for ~3 nights at a time.

Now to the point: my husband and I were hosting a little get together. Nate, Camilla and a few of our other friends were invited. At one point, the conversation went to topics like the current level of inflation, how the lockdown affected people and jobs, the housing market, etc and I had something to say too, agreeing with Camilla.

Camilla cut me off and said something like “Haha, no offense, but you are way too much of a spoiled privileged girl to understand things like this. You would need a tragedy or two in your life to understand struggle. I love you, but you never experienced any hardship in your life, haha.”

The room went dead silent and nobody said anything. After some awkward silence, I stood up and said: “Well, is anybody hungry? Shall we eat?” and we never went back to that topic.

Camilla messaged me the next day asking me how could I do this to her. Nate told her afterwards that I had an abusive father and I fell ill as a teenager, spent months in the hospital, had to have multiple life-saving surgeries and it took me a month to learn to walk again. Camilla is mad at me for not telling these very personal things to her before and for making her look terrible to Nate’s friends. She said that even correcting her at the party would have been better because then she could’ve apologized to me in front of everyone, but I took that chance away from her and now she will never make friends here.

Honestly, this whole thing is ridiculous and I don’t really think I’m the bad person, but it never hurts to ask. Maybe I should have gently corrected her after she said that.

Or Maybe I should just flaunt my father’s wealth since everyone will assume that I am a rich spoiled brat.

I [25M] found a condom wrapper in my gf’s [23F] trash and don’t know whether to believe her explanation

I was at my girlfriend’s home in her bedroom. She asked me to throw away a piece of trash and I leaned over the side of the bed to throw it away in her almost empty trash can. I noticed a gold glimmer. I immediately thought “condom wrapper” but told myself I was being crazy.

She got up to pee and the temptation got the best of me and I picked it out. It was a condom wrapper. My heart immediately sunk and started racing because we don’t use protection. There was also the used rubber in there with it.

I showed her what I found and her eyes kinda widened and her face was like an “oh my god” type face. I didn’t say anything just grabbed my things and started leaving. She chased after me and explained why it was there.

She said her roommate who borrowed her “adult toy” to attach it to the strap on mechanism. My girl then says after she washed it she used a rubber on it because she did not want to cross contaminate. She explained this without hesitation so it almost seems believable.

My only question is if someone is worried about someone else’s bacteria? Idk what to think. She claims evidence for her explanation is the fact the condom had no human fluids in it but I didn’t touch it or examine it so I’m not sure if that’s true.

Ok I’m about to give you all a ton of red flags. So basically for context my ex and I were together for years and lived together and we had a pretty messy breakup where we have been on and off since.

He wasn’t totally loyal (but it was a grey area on loyalty like crossed my personal boundaries but maybe wouldn’t cross everyone’s. Definitely disrespected the relationship ). We have been somewhat trying to make it work but we fight so much that it’s been quite difficult. I don’t trust him, we have a lot of issues, mostly in terms of him being horny on social media. He also has a lot of girl friends now which he never had when we were together which is weird because he became friends with them in the last few months and some things are sus.

I recently got Covid so I’ve been quarantined for two weeks. Also before that we were fighting so we really haven’t seen each other in 2 months. Still through this we text everyday and tend to fight a lot. I definitely cry alot. It’s something I accepted it doesn’t affect my day to day but if I get mad or sad or I see weddings I cry. I’m also sarcastic. once in our relationship at the beginning I made a joke that I can cry on queue to get us in somewhere. One time when we were fighting I cried and he made a comment “oh you’re probably fake crying and lying to me to make me feel bad” and he left. It bothered me alot but we had so many other issues I didn’t want to get to that one then.

Fast forward now, in this toxic mess where I’m still talking to him.

Today in particular, I had a bad day for numerous reasons that aren’t really relevant but I told him. He didn’t acknowledge it at first ( we were on the phone I don’t think he heard me) but then we were texting and he brought up my friend (let’s call her Jane). Jane’s mom has been very sick and in a bad situation for months where she likely won’t make it. I was really close with janes mom and Jane so I’ve taken this really hard and tried to be there for her. About a month ago my ex wouldn’t stop texting me and questioning me about what was going on . I had received a call from one of janes family members saying Janes mom had died. My ex kept calling and calling when I was trying to get ahold of Jane (not weird – I’m her only true support) and eventually I answered and said “I’m dealing with a loss right now please stop calling me” turns out janes mom was literally unresponsive in coma but made a somewhat drastic recovery where she was given another month to live in the hospital. Today,janes moms in bad condition but we’re grateful she’s still here .

Today my ex started questioning me about janes mom because he doesn’t believe that when I waS visiting her that she was really sick.

He thinks I was cheating. So he kept asking when’s the funeral, and I kept saying call me so I can tell you the full story because we don’t talk deeply anymore. He kept saying he wouldnt call me and to tell him when the funeral happened. Eventually, I said that I would tell him later what was happening and I’m sad he kept questioning me and hasn’t even asked about my day or talked to me about anything today just “when was the funeral “ accusing me also of making excuses to not see him because I was lying about Jane. So then I say “well I had a horrible day and you don’t even ask me what’s wrong just questioning” he ended up calling and I was crying to different reasons and the first thing he said “are you fake crying again right now”

I cried even more and yelled at him and told him this is why we won’t work. I know I shouldn’t yell but I just said that he was being an a-hole and i am upset that i cant come to him when I’m sad anymore so what’s the point. We kept contact because we were best friends and on my end I held on because he was always there I guess I feeel like idk if I’m the a-hole because I’ve given him a hard time bu yelling but I also feel like he’s kind of an a-hole. He wasn’t fully loyal to me (questionable) and he broke up with me in the end when I tried to make it work. He came back and I said no because he hurt me so much, like I did everything and still gave him a chance I just started to trust less so I went crazy/

Basically in the end I yelled at him and blocked him. We’ve been doing this toxic situation for months and he’s really not showing me he’s a caring or kind partner. But I guess through this I’ve felt crazy because I don’t trust him after what he did so I expected him to communicate with me more or make an effort. I know I’ve been hard on him, like some new girl kept commenting on his pics/he commented on hers and I got mad at him. But idk if I overreacted. He literally asked me “are you fake crying” and I blew up and blocked him.

I don’t want to go back on my word/ am I in the wrong?