I’m having some problems with intimacy in my marriage. 

We’ve been married for 6 years and they’ve been some of the happiest years of my life. My wife had 3 children before we got together and we have a child together. All I’ve ever wanted was a family and I’ve been so lucky to have been blessed with that.

But we had a break up 3 years ago due to me not listening to her enough and getting in arguments, but we got back together. 

We’ve always been very affectionate towards each other since the start of our relationship, but lately we’ve been less so. I’m a massive worrier and have found myself under a lot of pressure and stress lately due to work and money. We hardly have any time together on our own as it’s a busy household, but we make time to go on date nights/days. 

A few weeks ago my wife said that we need to work on our relationship and be more intimate which I agreed with. A few days ago, she suggested that we have more S and whilst I wanted to, our son was still awake at the time. After we put him to bed, I was very tired as I have not been sleeping well for the last few weeks due to stress and anxiety. She then got upset and slept downstairs on the sofa. In the morning she said that she’s no longer attracted to me, doesn’t want to have S with me anymore.

After our last break up and how much it upset our children, she said that she wanted an open relationship as she needs to intimate with someone. I suggested talking about it which she said she doesn’t want to do as her points still stand. 

I’m really upset and struggling today to understand why she doesn’t want to talk about it to see if we can work on the intimacy side of our marriage. I don’t see how an open relationship is going to work out for us as we have never been unfaithful to each other. 

Thank you for taking the time to read my post. 

A man recently posted on a forum stating that he is still unable to stop going to Thai Discos even after the two-year restrictive period.

He said that he is trying to identify the root cause of why he is still going there, which attracted the comments of many netizens who blasted him.

Here is his story:

Even after two years of not going to pubs and clubs, It has made my addiction even worse.

It’s like holding on to all the air in a balloon and releasing it at one go.

I was introduced to Thai Discos in my early 20s by my Poly classmates, I went enjoyed “got” a few and “lose” a few. When I was young, I was very hardworking and earned a good sum of money but I could not stop spending either.

Before the lockdown came, In a period of 1 year, I spend almost $150,000 on drinking, hanging flowers and other entertainment expenses. When the lockdown came, it was like a wake-up call for me. I managed to accumulate a small amount of savings but nothing compared to the amount I spend back then.

I switch from drinking outside with friends to drinking at home or not drinking at all.

Return of pubs and clubs

When the government finally unrestricted entertainment premises, I started my nonsense again.

My friend asked me out and I reluctantly agreed, He brought me to this pub with Thai girls inside. I started my crappy lifestyle once again and my monthly expenses have increased once again.

During the lockdown, I was single and now I’m back out to hunt for potential partners.

I feel that it is not healthy to find girls on such premises, I am considered a hardcore drinker but deep down I don’t want to meet any girls from pubs.

However, I do not have a choice as I do not have a chance to meet other people. I am self-employed and I work almost at home all the time.

Meeting new people is almost impossible.

I am afraid of going back to my lifestyle of finding girls in siam diu which I do not see the light at the end of the tunnel.

I only see myself going broke.

Can anyone give me ideas…

I received a call from a scammer with strong Malaysian accent on 17 May 8:12pm pretending to be someone I know. the caller claimed that his handphone and wallet got stolen by the workers renovating his house and this was his new number.

His mobile number is ********. i asked him who he was and he said he was someone that talked to me often, how could i forget. instead i blurted out my colleague’s name which he said he was.

Next day, still thinking he was my colleague he called for help to transfer money to his contractor because he has fired them for the stolen incident but he needed to pay them for the works already done and his bank account is not activated yet. he mentioned he would pay me back the next day once his account is activated.

Thinking he needed it urgently, I transferred 3600 to his contractor. then he requested for another 6000 because his friend mistakenly transferred to his account instead of the contractor. but i only decided to transfer 1400, saying my limit was 5000. he kept asking me to check if my limit could be changed.

So, I said i was out for lunch and will do so when i’m back in office. back in office, i suddenly thought to message my colleague on microsoft teams, and asked him about it. he said he did not call me at all, and then I realized it was all a scam!

Should have checked with my colleague before doing any transfers! i hope police can nab this scammer!