Became a sugar daddy because I’m lonely and disabled.

With my level of disability and being social in person is nearly impossible.

I can’t really go to bars/hold a job/do anything socially, I run into people just walking down the street, and let alone being in a dark bar. Doesn’t work out well even with me trying several times. Nearly got into a fight once over it.

So I tried dating apps – those are a joke. Too few of women and too many guys. Hard to stand out.

So I found sugar dating sites – sifting through the undesirables is easy enough. I’m early 20s so I purely wanted women my age.

During all this I basically had a new girl every weekend, met some cool hippy chick, and eventually met a girl I really liked. Well 3 actually. Chose one and let the rest go.

Sure it cost me quite a bit but the pool of women was amazing. Ever since covid it’s been dead though and I’m lonely again.

Just thought I’d leave this here for any other guys with disabilities that there’s options out there if you can afford it.

Oh and there was lots of bed activities, if you know what I mean. Some quite good – some quite bad. It’s a box of chocolates.

i know i look good without makeup. i sometimes go makeup-free and i feel just as pretty when i wear makeup. but i have acne and i only do that when i dont have bulging bumps all over my face. he knows im insecure about that so i think he says this as a way to help, but he says this every single time he sees me with makeup. he likes to put his hand on my face and wipe it off and i freak out because he’s putting germs on my face and also making my cystic acne show. i really dont know how to make him stop without being rude.

ive told him that i dont like when he does this, but i know he thinks he’s helping so he does it again.

Here are what netizens think:

• Tell him you appreciate the compliment, but that you like how you look both ways and it’s not necessary to bring it up.

• This is a “doing bad by trying to be good” thing. Just be honest with him and tell him how you feel, just don’t do it in a way that might make him feel attacked for his past behavior, as I have an inkling he just doesn’t understand entirely. Make up to a man is often shown or advertised as “she’s trying to be beautiful” It took me quite a few years myself to begin to see it as an accessory, rather than whatever else I saw it as, for lack of a better word. He appreciates your natural beauty, he just doesn’t know you’re trying to accessorize or compliment that with some makeup.

• I had an ex try to get me to stop wearing make up, he turned out to be a huge control freak and jealous bordering on paranoia, he thought I wore make up to attract/impress other men (?). It then got to my clothes, he tries to control what I wore and make my style more ‚modest‘, while pretending to help me elevate my natural beauty. He got super mad when I told him to knock it off. It was all just controlling and abusive bullshit, which I think is happening here. Wiping off her make up because he doesn’t her to wear any is no different than ripping off her clothes because he doesn’t like them.

I have been dating my bf for a while but there are some points that I just cannot shrug off.

The expectation is that a guy should be at least a head taller than his girlfriend, but this is something that can only happen in my dream. The reason is he is only 2cm taller and not even 175cm, meaning that it feels like he is a sister/pal to me rather than an oppa. He is way too short for a guy and it doesnt give me a strong sense of security. I estimate he is in the lower tier of height range perhaps somewhere between 1.70-1.73m.

In fact, I would like to ask my fella ladies out there who are willing to date shorter guys or even marry them. What do you see in them? Dont you regret it after a while or will make this an issue whenever you start quarreling? There are plenty of bigger fishes out there and I am now starting to regret it.

Before you commentors start bashing me, I will be fair and point out some of his merits along with my concerns.

1. Yes, he is pretty good looking and has a nice heart. He often shows care for cats/dogs and feed them but I find this trait less manly and somewhat gross. A real man should be more aggressive, not like a beta gu niang that plays with small animals.

2. He often buys lunch for me and brings it to the secondary school where I am teaching. However, sometimes kaypoh students will come to me and ask  “Cher, your boyfriend ah? Legit? Why so short one?”- Not surprising since even my female students are taller than him. This is ridiculously embarassing. I even told my bf not to bring lunch to me but he doesnt get my point… He will just say ” If we are truly in love, we shouldnt care what others say”….. Yeah right you are not the teacher…

3. He will offer to carry the plastic bags whenever we go shopping. The problem is his legs are short so his hands are like in close proximity to the ground, resulting in some long plastic bags being dragged, even though I understand he doesnt mean it. This is pretty unsightly.

4. He is a mathematician and I remembered once he drew me a heart using math equations. This seems romantic to others but lame in my eyes. If he is sincere, he would have drawn the heart by hand, not indulge in these kinds of boring stuff. After all, how can all these math help him in his future prospect? I knew of a few friends already earning big bucks without knowledge of maths.

I do not not wish to elaborate any further because for every merit that I can think of, it is diluted by the negative aspects. They cant even offset his midget stature.

Unfortunately, all the good quality tall guys are already taken by the short girls, otherwise I would have ended this relationship earlier. I do not want my female besties to find out that I broke up, so I will just bear with it for a while.

My message to my fella sisters out there who are currently attached to the shorter guys. It is never too late to back out! Think of your future!

Wondering if my bf actually wants to be with me.

First-year of dating was promised marriage, it did not happen and I was given excuses such as a lack of financial stability, our young age and according to him, 1 year is too short of a time for him to make a decision.

Second-year of dating, we had quite a few talks and sometimes arguments about the same issue, I managed to get him to promise a ring, nothing fancy, just a simple ring and ROM, so as to save the money for a grand wedding that does not need to happen now when he is still not yet financially stable, maybe years later?

Just for some background, the initial idea was to have a fancy wedding with him proposing to me with the rings being delivered by some cute dogs, but I have expressively told him that I am willing to lower my standards to a simple proposal and ROM.

Fast forward to the beginning of this year, nothing happened, no proposal, nothing, he seems to be avoiding the topic. I really want to keep this relationship going, I am happy with him, but I cannot help but feel that he just keeping me around as an option at this point of time.

I have been keeping quiet about this and hoping that he actually does something, but nothing, no wedding talks, everything that happens is just everyday life, no plans for the future being talked about, he seemingly seems to be trying to keep me distracted with games and stating that he is busy with work.

What does this mean guys? Are guys all so indecisive about the woman they want to be with? Does he not realize that he has broken a very important promise? Is the promise of marriage just something he is using to shut me up for some time? how do I make an ultimatum? At the same time, I really do not want to leave him, but this broken promise really makes me wonder if he really wants me, or is he just keeping me around as an option…

Here are what netizens think:

• I think most guys will be scare away if first year dating and you all already talking about marriage. Unless both of you all are like over 30 plus. From my point of view, i feel that he already not into you. Just that he still holding on cos he still can’t find someone else to replace you yet.

• Why are u in a hurry to marry. .marriage should not be forced. And now all the expectations of fanciful wants.Wait till the house, expenses n kids expenditure come.I see no end of arguments coming.

• You sound pushy and he doesn’t sound ready. 2 years of dating you talk as though you have been waiting for 10 years. You did not mention age so I can’t see what’s the rush to get married. Marriage is not the end you know? The real journey begins after marriage. He is wise to wait if he’s not ready.I don’t read anything very off about him from your posts. You spent too much time overthinking what kind of a future you want while he is still in the dating phrase. The mistake was to promise marriage very early in the beginning of the relationship. You were just getting to know each other as bf/gf and spoke based on your emotional state.Stop talking to him about what kind of wedding you want. That’s not the main point. Talk (not confront) about what kind of a life you want to have together 5,10 years down the road. If he can have a rough picture of his future and that includes you. That’s positive. If he can’t even imagine, it’s not a good sign.You also have to self reflect are you acting like a potential wife. Are you ready for the role? That’s different from wanting to hold a wedding.

Is anyone annoyed at the “male strong, female weak” mindset from so many Singaporeans?

First up, I acknowledge women face countless hurdles in life (male gaze, harder to get promoted etc)

I am here to rant about the “male strong, female weak” mindset. Recently, my poor wife got scalded when she dropped a bowl of hot soup at herself at the hawker center (We both went to buy different food).

When she was setting the tray down, her hand somehow slipped and she send the entire bowl splashing over her body. She’s fine now but her leg is scarred

My grandma and my Dad blamed me for the mishap, saying I shouldn’t let my wife carry the bowl of soup, saying stuff like “A man never lets his wife carry heavy stuff” etc

I told off my elders. I reminded them that my wife isn’t weak and I hate their old fashioned concept of “a man don’t let women carry heavy stuff”. My mindset is that I help whoever needs help, and I let women carry their own stuff if I judge that they can do it themselves

I am still angry though. My wife is okay emotionally (she doesn’t blame me) but I can tell how hurt she is by the scars, and my elders reminding me over and over that it’s my fault really isn’t helping!