My mom is 15 years younger than my dad. I’m starting to resent him so much for the age gap.

My mom was 19, my dad 34 when they got together. The had me when my dad was in his early forties and my mom was in her late twenties.

My dad was always too worn out to play with me when I was a kid, or do anything strenuous like camping. I got made fun of for having an older dad.

He’s got the beliefs of a grandpa, like he’s from an entire different generation from my mom.

And now that he’s in his mid sixties he’s having all these health problems, and my mom has become his 24/7 live in nurse.

And it’s like he doesn’t even see how much he’s leached off her over the years, or that it’s messed up that she’ll never even have a retirement, and has to stay home and take care of an elderly man when she isn’t even 50 yet.

And he’ll probably die like 2 decades before her, and leave her alone, and then who takes care of her?

I mean I will and I’ll be happy to, but it just makes me furious that he was happy to let his family suffer and leach off them just so he could have a younger wife.

I know she regrets marrying him but she’s too good of a person to leave, and it’s honestly heartbreaking and I kind of wish he’d just hurry up and die so she can actually live her life instead of having it siphoned away by an old vampire.

My friend lost her job as a masseuse and is now unemployed. She invited me over to her apartment to get massages from her. Being her friend, I’d figure I’d help her out. I’ve been going weekly now, and up until I told my wife it’s with her (I told her I’m going to get a massage) she never had an issue with it.

She told me she’s not comfortable with it, and to stop going. I don’t think I will. I’m supporting a friend in need, her services are way less than that at a commercial business, and massages help me destress and it’s good for my body. (My job is very physical.)

Here are what netizens think:

• If it was actually innocent, why isn’t your friend coming to your place (while your wife is home) and giving you the massage there?

• Yes, the massage wouldn’t be quite as de-stressing without his ‘happy ending’.

• We don’t know their dynamic and this would not be weird in my marriage or many others I know. It’d be weird to feel the need to get permission in fact. I could totally see him not sharing the name from just a perspective of it not feeling important to him, that’s what I would have assumed in his shoes. If there’s history of cheating or previously discussed boundaries he violated it’s of course another story, but OPs comments state that not to be the case.

• Hi, massage therapist here, who used to do outcalls all the time. It’s really not hard at all to move stuff around. You just need to be smart about how you pack up everything.

• It’s a lot of work to move equipment from place to place. Yeah sure go ahead and get a massage on the couch rather than a properly set up table where they have oils and other things to help relax? Not every post is about people cheating.

I (21M) am convinced my (20F) wife’s pet rabbit thinks my wife is his mate, it is ruining our marriage

It all started when I was dating my wife. I met her four years ago and we have been dating all 4 years. She has had the rabbit since before I met her.

The little bastard is old and saggy and partially blind. Some parts of his body is missing patches of fur because he pulls it out to make a nest for himself and my wife.

When we met the rabbit was not a major issue. It would scratch and bite at me but my wife assured me he was just nervous to have another person in her apartment as my wife and the rabbit lived alone since my wife was 18.

We have been married one year now and the rabbit is wreaking havoc on our marriage but my wife refuses to do anything because to her the rabbit is her baby and she loves it more than anything.

When I first moved in the rabbit did not do much to me or us other than the previously mentioned bites and scratches but he shows my wife too much affection for just a owner.

We will be doing anything and she will have the rabbit with her on top of her chest on her breasts licking them and her face. She will not put it down at all whenever she is home with it. We eat dinner, he is there, she goes to the bathroom, he comes with, she is showering? He waits outside for her, watching her nude in the shower. Wife does not even let me in the bathroom with her.

It has gone to the point where whenever I show my wife affection the rabbit seeks revenge on me. Sometimes not immediately but at times he does attack me on the spot when I kiss my wife. Sometimes I find little tiny brown balls, his poop in my closet.

Another thing is that she lets the little ugger roam free all day but nighttime and when we are making love. This was not previously the case but after an accident during lovemaking and much long conversations I convinced my wife to put the rabbit in its cage when we are making love.

But now whenever I am making love to my wife, like clockwork, the little bugger knows what we are doing and screams at the top of its lungs until my wife abandons what she is doing, even without clothes on and comes to the smug little fella’s rescue. He is doing this out of pure spite.

I am aware that rabbits only scream when very stressed or in danger but he is in his huge cage because my wife spoils him only during night and when we make love, I swear he is doing this to ruin our marriage. He thinks my wife is his mate and wants to get rid of me.

I have scars all over my body from bites and scratches and my life refuses to do anything about the rabbit or how much time she spends with it.

We are in couples therapy and our marriage is very rocky. What do I do?

So there’s a new cashier at a local grocery store, and she’s admittedly good looking and nice. I (m23) was shopping there with my (m24) friend a while ago and ever since then he’s been ecstatic about going there. He’s obviously into her, and he’s going on and on about how she’s into him too.

The thing is, she’s just being nice to him. She’s nice to me too and she smile. It’s her job, right?

My friend has been saying things like, he’s learning her schedule and that she always makes his day. He also wants to ask for her number. I tell him that the only reason she’s being nice to him is because it’s her job. He’s a customer. She’s nice to everyone. He needs to get over his obsession. He got really upset, called me an ah, said I’m jealous etc.

And so, I work at an adult shop, right? We get a looot of weird customers. I’ve experienced harassment at work and even more so have my female coworkers. So I know what it feels like, and I’ve seen real stalker behaviour. We can’t have our girls closing alone because some people wait outside just to be creeps. I tell this to my friend to explain my reasoning. He needs to respect this girls workplace.

He still doesn’t get it. Says he’d never be one of those and that he knows she’s into him too and I’m trying to steal her by being a “nice guy”. He basically stopped talking to me just because I told him to be respectful. I mean SURE, she could very well be into him. But let her take the lead then.

Am I an ah for saying all that? I really don’t think I am, but a couple of our friends said it’s none of my business and I should let him figure it out himself.

Here are what netizens think:

• your friend is stalking her. He needs to stop.

• Yeah, I have quite some experience with creeps. I don’t think my friend wouldn’t properly stalk her, but the way he mentioned her schedule makes me think of my work, it’s not a cool thing to do.