A netizen shared how she is worried her daughter is going to lose her V to her boyfriend, after he booked a hotel stay for the two of them.

Here is the story:

“I as a mother of 2 daughters, am actually quite worried. My daughter’s boyfriend booked a hotel stay a few months ago for a staycation for her 18th birthday using rediscover vouchers.

Although we were invited to celebrate my daughters birthday together, my husband and I decided not to stay in the hotel as we have work the next day.

Her boyfriend is a nice and kind person, but I as a parent, have my fears that my daughter lost her v-card to him during their night stay ALONE TOGETHER.

After all, with the normalisation of local celebrities and influencers getting pregnant before marriage (which many were lucky that their partners did not leave them), I do not wish for this to happen to my daughter(s)!

Should I talk to my daughter about their hotel stay? Should I ban my daughters from going to a hotel? Set a daily 9pm curfew? What should I do?”

Editor’s note: I think you need to have a talk with your daughter before the staycay.

A little context, my boyfriend is still in BMT and we have been together for a little over 2 years.

[ decided to preface this by saying that I truly think it is an honour to be an NS gf, I’m honoured to get to learn about the ns reality and life through my bf and to be someone’s support system during such a tough period. Not everyone will have the experience of dating an NS guy, so I truly truly view it as an honour to have been given this chance to learn more and to better myself as a partner ]

Before my bf went into NS, I made him a care pack full of stuff from caps to mosquito repellent, KT tape, muscle relaxant patches and much more. I even prepared tons of letters for my bf which are colour coded by how his day went, so that the letters he reads everyday would be more contextualized towards his experience for that day and I think this is a super good gift for all NS gfs to prepare!! Plus I also bought a voice recording card on shopee to record a message for him, so that he can listen to my voice too before he sleeps.

When my bf enlisted, I made sure to be super super supportive. Till this day (3 months+ in), I still fetch him from every single bookout and drop him off for every single book-in, so long as it doesnt clash with my working hours (mon-fri, 9-6), as I’m currently working full time before entering uni. I kid you not, I’m there waiting at the mrt where the bus drops all the NS boys off, every single book-in and book-out that I can. By this point probably my bfs entire platoon recognises me lmao. And every time he books out, I do my best to buy a different drink for him ( diff brands of bbt, boost etc.) before rushing down from my workplace to pick him up from book-out. Girls, you dont know how badly your bf misses civillian food and his favourite bbt. But yeah, presence is key, always show your support for your NS bf every chance you get, I promise it means the world to him!

So what do I do when my boyfriend is busy in NS? Well, I do my research on different things about NS. Mostly I spend time on this NS thread, reading about the experiences of different NS guys and the kind of inside jokes yall have, or whatever complaints yall have about cookhouse food or field camp. In fact I’ve genuinely become insanely interested in NS life. I’ve watched all the mindef playlists (yep even the ones from >10 years ago with the stupid 240p resolution), because I want to better understand what my bf is going through as well as his experience. Tbh I dont understand why NS bfs always complain that their gfs aren’t interested in what they have to say about the army. I literally ask my bf so many questions about the army, to the point he’s sick of talking about it already HAHA. But in all honestly, mindefs youtube is a hugely helpful resource for NS gfs to understand how NS works. I’m so fascinated by the different types of trainings they undergo, how to use the SAR-21 and before this, I never even knew the grenade had a lever! Now I better understand the military rankings and different vocations and all this I’ve learnt from mindefs youtube, without having to ask my bf. And in fact it’s so cool to really see that the NS facilities look like, because we girls will otherwise never be able to relate. Watching the videos gave me such a better picture of how the SOC looks, how the dismantled SAR-21 looks, how the BCCT premises look and so much more. And I’ve learnt so many cool things from asking my bf questions as well! How else would I know there’s such a thing as a tracer bullet or the different shooting positions or the different things you guys carry during FBO. It’s literally so interesting, you can learn the head knowledge about the NS process and go ask your bf for the practical knowledge and experience. I know from a macro-view that guns, grenades, marching and shooting sound incredibly boring, but I promise you it’s not! I never saw myself as someone who would be interested in these things, but boy was I wrong. It’s really fascinating and Im sure your bf will really appreciate you taking your time to deepen your knowledge in what is his everyday reality!

In terms of keeping an NS relationship strong, it takes 2 hands to clap. Ive been so so fortune to have the best bf in the universe because idk how he even makes time to text me everyday during his limited admin time. Not only do I ask about his day, he also puts in the effort to ask about how my work went and we always talk about what we had for lunch. Always communicate with your partner, even on the most mundane of things! I’ve honestly never felt happier in my relationship than now, it is the easiest because Im so touched by how my bf makes time for me out of his busy NS schedule. But dont expect too much, some days your bf will be too exhausted to text. Instead, just be understanding snd wish him goodnight immediately when he expresses exhaustion. You will never be able to understand just how exhausted he is from getting scolded by sergeants all day and having to do intense physical workouts. Just support him and remind him that you’re always there! Don’t be quick to get angry with him, always empathise, his NS life is tougher than you can imagine. Always reassure him that you love him and only him, your loyalty will motivate him through the toughest of trainings!

I was genuinely shocked when I saw NS guys in this thread saying that their gf expects them to pay for both parties on weekend dates. I think it’s horribly insensitive and selfish on a gfs part to expect that. In fact, I do the complete opposite. I’ve asked my bf if he would allow me to pay for our meals whenever we go out, seeing as I know he wants to save as much as he can out of the peanut pay that NS gives. I’ve told my bf that everything is about proportionality, I’m earning more now, due to my full time job, hence I should pay for the dates and his food. However, he didnt want me to fully pay either, since he says my money from work belongs to me. So we’ve decided that whenever we go out, we eat simple and if I decide I want to eat something more expensive that day, I would pay for 80% of the total meal. For dates and outings to movies or places like USS, I’ll pay 100% for both of us. It’s only fair to do so. So ladies please dont expect your bf to pay for you ya, he barely earns enough for himself, be the generous one! I’m sure it’ll relieve his financial burdens too.

And for weekend dates, try to plan chill stuff if you must! Keep in mind that your bf has been walking, marching, jogging, running, swimming, climbing and so much more, all day every day. He’s probably already so exhausted and just wants a break to rest, so do indulge him in that. Try to plan more home dates, just grab snacks or order in food and watch some movies together. Better yet, just take a nap together. If you wanna go out, pick a close mall or one with a direct bus route, so your bf can rest more. Please dont plan full day outings, you dont want to torture him. Also, on weekend dates, be the bigger person and let him choose what to eat most of the time. After all, he only has those 2 bookout days to indulge in civilian food. If you want to eat smth badly but he doesnt like it, just eat it yourself during the weekdays HAHA. He has less freedom than you, so let him enjoy those little moments of freedom and I’m sure he will appreciate you for it.

Remember to let your bf spend time with his family and friends too. Give him bro-time to game, gamble, drink or just catch up with his guy friends too. After all, he’s only human and as much as he loves you, he has a life outside of your relationship as well, so let him enjoy that. Dont cut him off from his family or friends, things in NS are already hard for him as they are.

Andddd words of affirmation! I always remind my bf that I’m very proud of him and that I believe in him, every time he completes an exercise, whether it be a run or a strength training or something else. Hearing that you’re proud of him will really brighten his gruelling days.

All in all, the NS relationship experience really is what you make of it! I live an hour away from my bfs book in/drop off point, while he only lives about 20mins away from it. But some days I will still wake up at 7am and travel all the way down to his house, just to accompany him in the bus for those last 20mins before he books in. Quality time is everything to a man with such limited time, always show him how important he is to you by making sacrifices for him, your little sacrifices will eventually go a long way in his heart. Jiayou to all the NS gfs and bfs out there!!

( just wanted to add that my bf is going for his field camp soon and I’m filled with worry and excitement, I’m so proud of him and I know he will do amazing, I can’t wait to surprise him at his post-fieldcamp bookout and treat him to good food and hear all the stories he’ll have to tell me about his field camp experience!! )

A netizen shared how she had a fight with her boyfriend because she felt they weren’t spending enough time together, and she cries at night because of it.

Here is the story:

“Me and my bf had this fight two years in. Mainly because I felt like we aren’t spending enough time together and when I brought up that topic he went all mad.

He would choose to cancel our plans last min to meet with his friends instead, gave me promises but broke them anyway, and I’ve found his habit of blaming ppl (sth like gaslighting) when something goes wrong.

I’m not sure when he developed all those traits & habits but I didn’t notice them when we were friends or at the beginning of dating….

So… when I tried to talk about those He’s like “What do you want me to do?” It seems like he couldn’t change for the better and I also felt that maybe I was pushing too hard to spend more time with me.

Stupid of me to think that only if I could change my perspectives and be more understanding, we could fix this again.

Tried to be accommodating

I tried to adjust myself to his plans. Our meet-ups become unplanned ones and even if they got canceled, I tried not to feel hurt. I would pretend to enjoy every little time we have together but at the back of my mind, it was like, this man would ditch me any min for something else.

This man will shout at me for every little thing that goes wrong when it’s not even my fault…TBH, when I adjusted myself, our relationship overall improved but I’m always in a terrified state.

Some days, it gets really exhausting and I will burst out crying at night. I don’t even know why am I trying anymore…. doubting whether I can continue like this…”

Editor’s note: He doesn’t deserve you, it’s time to move on…

A netizen shared a story about how he owes Ah Long money and was on the run from the loanshark when he bumped into the loanshark that he owed money to.

Here is the story:

“Suay until laosai ah, really.

I borrowed about $10k from an Ah Long and had no money to return, so I was hiding from them.

I was heavily in debt at the time and out of desperation, I went to borrow money from them.

They are really bloodsuckers, the interest rates were sky high and it ballooned until the interest became more than the initial loan.

I had no way of returning the money so I hid from them.

Then one day I was at Geylang visiting some “chickens” at a house.

I was very excited and wanted to destress, but as soon as I walked in, I saw a familiar face.

There he was, the ah long that I owe money to.

He shouted at me and I immediately bolted out and ran for my life, and he was hot on my heels chasing after me.

I ran across traffic and through shophouses and purposely ran through crowded places and eventually I got rid of him.

Suay right?”

A former Geylang prostitute shared a story about how her life changed after she stopped having s*x for money and took a private degree instead.

Here is the story:

“Admin please keep my identity a secret.

I used to work as a prostitute along Geylang, my family was poor and I wanted to make quick money.

It was not the easiest of jobs because there were many risks involved.

Some of the risks include clients refusing to pay after fking, so I made it a point to collect payment first before service start.

There is also the risk of police raids and I have seen a few close shaves.

Of course, there is always the risk of contracting an STD because of the number of men that we fk.

Life hasn’t been very easy with the whole pandemic, business has been slow and I could make more money working in a proper job.

With the money that I earned and saved up over the years, I enrolled into *school name withheld* and am currently studying a private business degree.

My life is so much better and I don’t need to be at the mercy of men touching and groping me.

I’ve had so much s* over the years that I am sick and tired of it.

Thankfully I never caught any STDs as well.

Now I am living a much more peaceful life and my only focus is on my studies.

I spend my free time studying and working part time jobs to earn some extra money and kill time.

Nobody at work knows I used to be a prostitute.

Even my own family also doesn’t know, god.. Those were some chaotic times.

My family is also in a much better place.

Honestly this pandemic is like a blessing in disguise for me and I’m just glad that I don’t have to sleep with strangers anymore.

To all those s*x workers out there, be brave and take a leap of faith, stop degrading yourselves and do something worthwhile with your lives.”

Editor’s note: There’s a silver lining after all, really happy for you and hope you’re doing well in school.

A netizen shared how she lost all her guy friends because their wives see as her a threat as she is “hot”.

Here is the story:

“All my guy friends’ wives see me as a threat. I know because they expressed their displeasure and these guys told me about it.

These wives do not like it when my friends hang out with me but are ok if they hang out with other girls in our clique.

I asked myself honestly if I did anything to make them uncomfortable but the answer is no. I even tried to befriend the wives but they still see me as a threat.

I have zero interest in all my guy friends so there’s no way my actions would have suggested otherwise.

Frankly speaking, I think I am just average looking though most people say I am hot.

Really upset because I have lost these friends due to their wives’ insecurity.”

A netizen shared how he/she was hired as a marketing staff for 6 to 7 months before her department was removed and she was made to do telesales instead.

Here is the story:

“I was working as a marketing staff for about 6-7 months before the boss suddenly wants to remove the marketing department and make everyone do telesales instead.

I’m not sure if I should even stay, because cold calling is not one of the things I signed up for, and it’s definitely not anything that I want to do as a career.

Before anyone says, just try doing telesales, I did try doing telesales. I can’t hit the target because

1. I am the one who has to do the deliverables for the service that we are selling, this leads me to not have enough time to even call, and

2. I still have other duties to do. I feel tired and stuck :’)

any advice for me?”

Editor’s note: I’ll let Mr. Bear Grylls give you some advice, Bear?

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A netizen shared how his/her brother has been posting explicit images of himself online and found contraceptives inside his bag.

Here is the story:

“Seeking sincere advice… what to do when your sibling goes engages in “wild” activities?

It was pure coincidence that I found out but at the age of 20, he was posting explicit photos of himself on Twitter and had condoms in his bag.

I was so shocked because it felt like I had been living with an entirely different person all these while as the usual behavior at home was a goody-two-shoes to our mum.

We had a big quarrel between us about him asking me to not control and just let him be and have not spoken much since 1 year ago, but I didn’t expect to uncover that he seemed to have gone even wilder after being given free reins.

Yet, he still remains the goody two shoes in front of the mum and every time I see it, it just feels so hypocritical to me.

I know technically I have no rights to care since he is no longer a child. But is it really right to not care?

Though he would probably not even care for whatever I say anyway (his personality has been that he is always deemed right and would never stop at getting what he wants; fun fact: he has also never apologized for anything before for as long as I can rmb)

so I’m also at my wit’s end on how to stop him even if I want to… this dilemma on what is the right thing to do in such circumstance has been eating into me and troubling terribly…”

A man shared how he had a vivid dream about himself drowning, and how it felt so real.

But when he woke up, he saw his drunk friend peeing on his bed right beside his face.

Here is the story:

“You know how in dreams, the things that you dream about is sometimes influenced by the things happening around you.

Like if a leaking aircon was dripping onto you, you would dream that it’s raining or something like that.

I had a dream once where I dreamed that I was drowning and I couldn’t breathe.

it felt damn real and I really thought I was going to die, gasping for air.

But then I woke up and saw my friend peeing on my bed, right beside my pillow where my face is.

The whole room smelled like vomit, alcohol and urine, and I knew this guy was drunk.

We had drank the night before and I was the first to KO.

I think I was dreaming of myself drowning because of his urine hitting me on the bed, cb”

Editor’s note: Please throw away your mattress, or burn it.

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