Okay so I’m in a bit of a dilemma here.

I am currently 37 weeks pregnant so we are getting ready to receive our girl. The problem is my husband has recently told me he wants to teach her Chinese too. We are both Chinese but we don’t speak Chinese at all

The thing is, my family only speaks English! He was born here and lived in Singapore since he was 4 until he was 19. Now, if he had some sort of cultural or family connection to being Chinese then I might consider it. But his a Singaporean.

I told him what I told you guys above and that it would be hard for her because they are very different languages.

He started arguing that there are many kids that are raised bilingual and are very smart but I also feel like it might cut me from my child.

He is mad at me for not accepting and I can’t help but wonder if I was wrong here.

Here are what netizens think:

• Is not like the kid will not know English too, im sure if she continues the same path of arbitrarily making decisions like this the child will grow and cut themselves off from her even in English. Kids are innocent but they absolutely love when they grow and notice their parents negated them opportunities..I know I did, nothing like growing and discovering that your mom never let you achieve your full potential because they had some irrational fear just like

• You Chinese but don’t teach your child Chiniese language, so you gei ang moh ah

• Lao kui sia this mother.

My family favors the daughters more then their sons.

My parents had 4 children 2 sons and 2 daughters, they favored the women in the family, my oldest sister was taught how to drive.

But my brother and I were not the same as my sister, they forced the military mentality onto us, it was yes sir this and yes sir that.

And if we didn’t do what my father said he would get extremely angry and start throwing things and hitting us.

And when my brother and I hit the age of 16, we were neglected, my brother and I became dropouts later on.

I was 14 and my brother was 16 at the time and they just stopped we just basically became free labor for them and still are now.

My youngest sister is 12 years old and they treat her like she a angel even though she spoiled and disrespectful to her mother.

My brother and I have been through hell and back together and we plan on leaving together and never looking back.

I honestly feel jealous of other teenagers because their parents actually try for them.

A man posted on Facebook stating that his wife was fired on the 2nd day of her new job because she discussed her salary with her new colleagues.

Here is the story:

Salary is often a taboo topic in the office, but is it that big of a deal that people can’t talk about it?

My wife just got fired on her 2nd day on the job because she discussed wages with her coworkers

Yesterday at work my wife’s new coworkers asked her how much she made and when she told them they found out she made more than them. Fast forward to today when my wife gets to work she finds out that one of the new coworkers quit over the wages and they fired my wife on the spot for discussing wages.

What do we do?

Here are what netizens think:

• In most employment contracts, often states that the salary is a secret and most people won’t even talk about it.

• Sometimes, people get into trouble for talking too much. This is true.

• She probably deserves it cause her contract sure got state. If not they also won’t fire her on the 2nd day of work.

• Sometimes being honest might not be a good thing, better to keep you mouth shut and move on and find another job.

When I was around 12 I decided to be a rule-breaker and get discord.

I had no use of it until my favourite meme YouTuber at the time kept posting weird and sad threads on his YouTube community.

I decided on joining and made a lot of new friends until one day he messaged me (direct message) and sent a simple hug action.

The truth is, I said in general I wanted to jump through the doors and hug someone. But that message was for my other friend, not him.

He got confused but quickly started complimenting me and getting closer and I thought I had a really cool friend who made then hilarious content.

Soon however he started asking for good morning kisses and such. I said yes not thinking it was weird because he used the excuse he was foreign so I wouldn’t get it.

One day, when everything got bad personally he started asking me for pictures and more from me like ERP (role plays) which he got outta me. He liked my wordplay and said it was the best yank he’s ever had which made me feel gross.

Soon I got used to it, his weird schedule, getting up at lunch and staying up till 3 almost and more. he asked me to be his secret girlfriend (because he was very aware it was illegal) and I felt loved at the time because of how much we had in common. Since I moved around too quickly I never had friends.we both liked purple, cats, the same music, memes and enjoyed the park.

One day I got back online after school and noticed a strange amount of pings (the noise/ notification when someone types your tag in chat) from the server.

They were all… Congratulating me? For what?? I didn’t understand until he told me he told everyone. He also used me as a “secret” for his YouTube channel for when he reached a certain amount of subs.

I was a product, I was his doll and I couldn’t get away because he knew me. Where I lived and everything. He demanded more and more and more until my body felt too gross to go on.

12 year old me being told to shave and to dress a certain way. Our birthdays are close together, the same week. I told my mom but it’s only gotten me mocked and yelled at.

Despite the times I’ve cried, the times I’ve failed. My words finally have power against his when I got older.

I hate having old parents, I (21F) have both my parents still with me luckily (M69) and (63F) but I hate that they had me so old.

I’m finally growing into adulthood where I could enjoy their company but they’re old now too. It’s 3:39 am and I’m sobbing because my dad is going to turn 70 soon enough and I’m so scared.

Sometimes I purposely don’t pick up the phone so he will leave me a voice mail I can keep if he passes just in case.

I’m so scared of the future without them. I don’t want to lose my mommy and daddy. I’m just now healing from trauma I had when I was little and I spent years being bitter and wanting away from them but now I just want to hug them forever.

I’m so scared I can’t stop crying..they mean the world to me and they’re the only family I have besides my pets..

I’ve told my mom this before and she said she worried when she was 30 and her parents didn’t die until she was 50 but thats the thing..she had them until she was 50 YEARS OLD.

If I’m lucky mine will be around maybe until I’m 30-35 that’s too young. I want to take them on vacations with me, have dinners, have the life I want them to experience, everything but what if they get too old before that?

What if they see me not get married before then? I’m so scared why do parents have to die? I just want my parents to be in their 50s..I need more time..

So yeah I needed to get this off my chest. It’s thrown me for a loop. I was with my husband since I was 21. We got divorced two and a half years ago. We just grew apart and mutually agreed that the best thing for us was to go our separate ways. It was relatively amicable as these things go. We have three boys (22, 19, and 16).

My sister also is in the process of a divorce. Her soon to be ex was cheating on her with a coworker of his. My sister has two kids. (10 m and 6 f). Apparently one-night last year after my cousin’s birthday party the two of them ended up “doing it”. I remember the night because my sister showed up in a very revealing outfit and was turning heads all night. Little did I know one of the heads she turned belonged to my ex-husband!

They’ve been sleeping together off and on ever since. I know they’re both adults and neither is in a relationship but it still seems weird to me and I don’t understand why my sister would go there. For that matter, I don’t understand why my ex would do this. He’s a really attractive man, he always has been. He shouldn’t have much trouble finding a woman to date yet he chose my sister?!? Perhaps he’s more angry about our divorce than I thought?

My niece mentioned to me that he’s been around with mommy a lot. So I asked about it and he just flat out admitted what’s been going on. When I ask my sister she didn’t even try to deny it and said they’re both adults and they’re not hurting anyone. According to her it’s just physcial and there are no intentions of them being together as a couple.

I don’t know why this has bothered me this much. Maybe because when I met my husband when we were in uni and my sister was in primary school. Were they looking at each other while they were both married?

I asked both of them if they ever messed around while we were married and they both denied it. Maybe I’m foolish but I believed them.