I hate my wife for refusing to do anything about her weight.

There, I said it. I have so much disgust, rage, and despair inside me as I’m sitting here looking at the reality of the divorce ahead of me.

I hate that she did this to our previously wonderful relationship.

I hate her selfishness. I hate her utter lack of care and the childish glee she takes in refusing to change anything purely to spite me. Because how dare I want to be attracted to the person I love.

I hate her snubbing of every single offer of support I’ve extended.

I hate that she decided I was no longer worth being her best self for. I hate that she stopped wanting me to be attracted to her, to find her as beautiful on the outside as she is (was?) on the inside.

I hate that she waited until she had me in the legal trappings of marriage before letting herself go.

I hate her fat disgusting dumpster of a body. All of it. I hate seeing it taking up nearly the entire bed we used to share.

I hate that she decided our relationship no longer mattered. Not as much as eating whatever, whenever, at least.

I hate how she has the gall to act like I should be happy to be with her no matter what she looks like. How she pretends you either love someone no matter what or you’re a liar and don’t love them at all. Either/or. That’s all love is to her – yeah, I hate what she’s done to herself so therefore I must have never really loved her throughout the entire 15 years we’ve been together, totally makes sense.

I hate myself for thinking what if she’s right. Maybe real love IS unconditional. I hate myself for not being capable of that.

But I’m not Jesus. No, my love DOES come with conditions. Be a good person. Have stuff in common with me and be reasonably intelligent. Grow and experience and share your thoughts with me.

I hate her for not thinking I’m worth that anymore – I hate myself for not being worth it.

I hate her for forcing me to be the bad guy by being the one to initiate the divorce. But how else will I ever possibly have a chance of being happy again if she won’t change which she has made crystal clear she never will.

More than anything I hate her for throwing away 15 years for nothing but the Hell of it. She didn’t need to gain 150lbs, it’s not like she developed a medical condition or had a baby. She could NOT “not help it.” She chose at every step of the way to pig out on junk. This didn’t have to happen. THERE WAS NO GODDAMNED REASON.

We were supposed to be on a journey together for the rest of our lives.

And now I hate her.

And if anyone reading this is wondering if their partner feels the same: I can’t answer that, but my advice is to acknowledge the truth of what you’ve done, tell your partner you care about being healthy because you love them and want to be with them for a long time, and then lose weight. If she had at any point done any one of those things, I would not be writing this. I would have compassion and appreciation, instead of anger and hopelessness

Last weekend my girlfriend and I went out to breakfast around 9:00 am with my family and as they always do, made a snarky comment about how shocked they are that we got up so early.

I was kind of miffed at first because they always say it but just let it go, and then my uncle proceeded to twist the knife and talk about how people who don’t get up early are beyond lazy and how proud he is that 9:00am is practically lunch time for him and the rest of my family agreed and laughed it off and whatever.

But it’s really bugging me and I won’t start something with my family over something as trivial as this, but my goodness it’s annoying.

I can get more things done in the four hours after you go to bed at 7:00pm than in the 4 hours before 9:00am when I wake up.

You gain nothing by waking up at 4:00am that I don’t gain by being up past 7:00pm. Quit thinking you morning folk are some superior humans. We’re the same.

Netizens’ comments

most people never understand the reality, which is that whatever time of day is best for you, is best for you. that’s it. i’m a DIE HARD morning person. i like to see the sunrise, take a shower, drink coffee, do my morning journaling. i like to see the clock hit 8:30 am and think “wow, it’s so early and i’ve already done this, and this, and this. i feel so productive!”

my husband, complete opposite. some days he won’t wake up until 1pm. most days it’s around 10am. he also enjoys staying up very late, while i do not. but what i’ve noticed, is that we both tend to accomplish equal amounts of “productive” things. i just get most of mine done early, and have a peaceful rest of day. he likes to wake up and relax, and get busy once he feels ready. and neither option is superior to the other, just superior to each individual. Wake up whenever you want, as long as you’re still being a productive person in general, there’s no problems

[M23] Just realized that I’m more unattractive than I thought

So after spending 3 years on tinder and never getting a single match that must mean that I’m more unattractive than I thought.

I have never had a woman approach me and even online when I talk to girls they always ghost me and disappear as soon as I share my face pictures.

I do try my hardest to look good, Im tall and athletic but my face is just ugly. I feel as if I’ll have to use money in order to get laid or get a wife.

By the way don’t say “but women don’t go for looks” its nonsense because they do and if a woman doesn’t care about looks then I wouldn’t want to be with her anyway.

Netizens’ comments

• That means you’re under the 10-20% of men, women are focusing on.. yes.. that still leaves 80-90% of men that you may be more attractive than.. perspective dude. Glass half full?

• You sound like you deserve someone as superficial as you are.

• Marylin Monroe once said: there are no ugly girls, just girls who are not trying. The same but double goes for men. You are doing a good job by going to the gym.
  How much effort do you put in your grooming? Clothing, haircut, accessories, light make-up.
  Get professional pictures done. It will make a world of difference.
  And lastly change your mindset, it will make you and your future gf happier. It’s not all about looks. Be successful and respectable, kind and caring and self-sufficient. You can be a great partner also with a fugly face.

The Immigration and Checkpoints Authority (ICA) issued a travel advisory yesterday for the Labour Day and Hari Raya Puasa holidays.

Heavy traffic is expected during the long holiday weekend at the Woodlands and Tuas checkpoints.

Here is what they said

Travel Advisory for Labour Day and Hari Raya Puasa Holidays

            Traffic flow through the land checkpoints at Woodlands and Tuas is expected to be heavy during the upcoming long holiday weekend where Labour Day and Hari Raya Puasa are back-to-back. Departing traffic is expected to be heavy between Friday, 29 April and Saturday, 30 April 2022. Arrival traffic is expected to be heavy between Tuesday, 3 May and Wednesday, 4 May 2022.

2.          About 436,800 travellers used the land checkpoints during the Good Friday long weekend. This number is expected to be even higher for the upcoming Labour Day and Hari Raya Puasa holidays.

Advice to travellers using the land checkpoints

3.          At the peak of the National Day and Hari Raya Haji long weekend holidays in 2019, travellers departing Singapore via the land checkpoints had to wait up to 4 hours. Those arriving by car had to wait up to 1 hour during the same period.

4.          Travellers are thus advised to factor in additional time for immigration clearance, and to check the traffic situation before embarking on their journey. Travellers should plan ahead and avoid the following peak hours:

5.          Before embarking on the journey, motorists are also advised to check the traffic situation at the land checkpoints through the One Motoring website or via the Expressway Monitoring & Advisory System (EMAS) installed along the BKE and AYE respectively. Motorists can also check ICA’s Facebook and Twitter accounts for updates on the traffic situation at both land checkpoints.

6.          As of 1 May 2022, cross-border bus services plying across the Causeway and Second Link will resume operations. Travellers can take these cross-border bus services^[1] instead of driving into Malaysia via private vehicles to avoid getting caught in vehicular congestion.

Things to note before embarking on your journey

7.          To avoid undue delays or issues during immigration clearance, travellers are reminded to note the following:

i) They should ensure their passport has a remaining validity of six months or more;

ii) Singapore permanent residents who have renewed their passport will have to transfer their Re-Entry Permit (REP) to the new passport. LTP holders will need to notify ICA or the Ministry of Manpower (MOM) of any change in their passport particulars.

iii) Drivers of foreign-registered vehicles entering Singapore to hold a valid Vehicle Entry Permit (VEP), LTA approval email and Autopass card

iv) All short-term visitors including In-Principal Approval holders are required to submit Singapore Arrival Card (SGAC)^[2] with health declaration within three days prior to their arrival in Singapore^[3].

Comply with other requirements

8.          Travellers are also reminded not to bring in prohibited items. Those bringing in dutiable or controlled items must proactively make declarations to our officers prior to being checked.

9.          Departing travellers driving Singapore-registered cars are reminded to observe the “three-quarter tank” rule. Offenders may be issued with a composition sum of up to $500 or prosecuted in court. They will be turned back at the land checkpoints, and not allowed to proceed with their journey into Malaysia.

10.         Travellers can visit safetravel.ica.gov.sg for the latest entry requirements into Singapore.

Clearance efficiency without compromising security

11.         ICA will take the necessary measures to facilitate immigration clearance without compromising security. Our checkpoint officers monitor traffic conditions in real-time, to ensure optimal deployment of resources. We will also work with the Traffic Police to ensure road discipline at the critical junctions leading to the land checkpoints. We seek travellers’ understanding and cooperation to observe traffic rules, maintain lane discipline and cooperate with officers on-site when using the land checkpoints.

IMMIGRATION & CHECKPOINTS AUTHORITY
27 APRIL 2022

[1] Commuters can check LTA’s MyTransport.SG app or operator’s website for bus operating hours and arrival timings.

[2] Available on ICA’s website (https://eservices.ica.gov.sg/sgarrivalcard) or through the MyICA Mobile which can be downloaded for from either the App store (iOS) or Google Play (Android). Submissions to the ICA through these platforms are free of charge.

[3] The includes non-fully vaccinated Singapore residents and LTP holders, all short-term visitors, as well as all travellers who have travel history to any country/region in the Restricted Category in the past seven days. There are currently no countries/regions in the Restricted Category.