How do you deal with an overly needy gf?

My GF has been pestering me to be with her or game with her all the time.

We used to go on dates and game often because I was jobless.

But I found a job and she seems to still want to keep up the previous gaming lifestyle.

She keeps pestering me to game with her the entire day, making a big deal out of it if i say i am busy.

I had to resort to telling her a white lie that I am busy at work sometimes, just to catch a breather.

To put things in perspective, it is something along the line of gaming before work, gaming during my work breaks, gaming after my work till late at night, gaming the entire day during weekends, gaming with her when she is bored at her relative’s home.

She has depression, and the jobs she was in did not last long, and she is mostly a stay home person, I already do all her chores, go to work to support our living and now i am also expected to entertain her the entire day?

To make it worst, she even invaded my personal gaming space by joining my 5-man team with my kakis, thanks to that, we had to exclude one of us so that she can join my games, even had my bro bitching to me that she is causing our ranking to drop because of her low skill level. I did not tell her this because I do not want to create drama.

What do I do? Sometimes she even resort to coming over to my place during my work at home just to squeeze out every last drop of time i have left, or straight up ask me to game with her when i am offline from the meetings etc

Here are what netizens think:

• Establish boundaries. Tell her your availability and stick to it. Don’t allow unauthorised home visits and don’t eject your teammate because of her. Manage and talk.Most importantly, it was mentioned in passing but it could be the real problem: you said she had depression. it might be worth encouraging her to see a psychiatrist as that could be the root of some of the issues

• Do you think the world has only one girl to be your girlfriend? Even if so, you don’t need this girl in your life. Take care.

• Mobile legend is it? Or pubg? She have to find a job n cut gaming time. If she dont want to then u both are on different path. Talk to her

I have a lot of resentment towards my mother-in-law

She is not a bad person, in fact she is very kind and helpful from her heart. She is the type of friend who will go all out to help you no matter what problem you have.

However, her dynamic with my husband is bad… really bad. She was a single mom since he was 7 and she was probably too young to manage a child so he was on his own a lot. Then she was absent during his growing up years leaving him with relatives while she worked and also fall out with the relatives due to her easily offended behavior.

When he got into adulthood, he had to in turn take care of her like a parent which included managing her finances, taxes, her rental property, her medical appointments, basically she doesnt learn/know anything and depended on him a lot and sometimes I see how that stresses him out. They argue a lot when they talk too which is where all my resentment is arising from.

My husband is one of the sweetest man I have ever met until it comes to his mom. But being her only son, he cannot shun the responsibility so all the interactions stresses him and out and in turn stresses me out.

Next, I know she is easily offended so I am always cordial to her to keep the boundary. Means I give her respect but I can never give her love. I know she wants to love me like a daughter because that is in her nature, she has a lot of love and a lot of strong feelings.. but I just can’t because of resentment and boundary. I keep the boundary so that we will not have a relationship so we will not have a chance for conflict. In other words, I do not have any desire to be personal with her on any level and I think she can sense it.

Lately, the resentment got stronger because she said she is having anxiety and that also worried my husband. I have no sympathy towards her, I feel that she is weak and useless and burdening my husband. Additionally, I feel like a horrible monster because I have so much sympathy for even people on the streets, the homeless but I have no sympathy for her. I feel horrible and angry when I think of her. I dont like this version of myself.. Just ranting.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. We recently successfully applied for a BTO. We are both 25 years old and work in the civil service ( we are in difference sectors).

Recently, we have been talking and he did randomly mention that in the future, probably he could be the one at home looking after the children and house, doing some trading as a source of income, while I would go out and work.

I am not sure if this is feasible as I am doubtful if he stays home all the time, he would become a lazy person (he is a pretty nua person, even during weekends on our dates we would just stay home and lie on the sofa watching shows) and would not be someone who is motivated or have a goal if he does not have a job. I am also unsure if the kind of trading he is talking about is able to help contribute to the family and am concerned about me as a female being the sole breadwinner and providing for the family.

I am not sure if this is a red flag in the relationship, showing that my bf is an unmotivated and lazy guy? Any one out there has similar experiences please do share with me and also all your perspectives.

Here are what netizens think:

If you are not comfortable with this then it’s a red flag. He has already verbalized his potential intentions. Better clear this topic in greater detail with him soon as you can.

If your daughter is seeing such a man and is about to marry him, would you give her your blessing?

He can stay home and care for kids and even nua (if the children needs an wants are all met, which is impossible one) provided, he can bring in around $4k every month through trading. If he can, then just let him stay at home and do trading.

I just found out that my wife has an OnlyFans page! and that is not the problem!!

So, I am simply here because I want to talk, I want to feel like I am talking to the abyss. It is more of me talking out loud.

I met my wife back in June 2020, she is a therapist and she comes from a conservative family with a very traditional background. I was the one who is crazy and always outgoing and she loved that about me. In a way, I was her window toward another world. I enjoyed that! It felt like I am bringing something new to the table.

We embarked on a journey of true living without limits or restrictions. I still remember the day she farted (she couldn’t help it) and I kissed her and hugged her and told her, Yeah, I want you to be yourself. I don’t want you to feel ashamed or embarrassed. I know it is stupid but it meant a lot to me! in a way it was an indication that she is becoming more outgoing and more relaxed with herself around me.

We had so many interesting discussions about the definition of love, religion, healthy relationships & everything you could ever think of. OnlyFans models (workers) was one of those topics…you know the why’s, the how’s, and the what’s. I remember making a joke and I said if you start your OnlyFans page, you will make a fortune because you got it all… the beauty, the body, the intelligence, and kindness. She really did not take it well despite my attempts in explaining that it was a joke, a bad joke if I may add.

Almost 2 weeks ago she sat next to me and revealed her chest to me. I started putting my mouth on it… at that time, I noticed that her phone was recording, it was like a voice memo… I did not mind and I did not ask… we are both out there and we both enjoy our intimate lives a lot, it was strange that she did not tell me about it but I did not think much of it.

4 days ago, I came across a post for an OnlyFans page, it was hers! I recognized the background and what she was wearing. I am not gonna lie, My heart was beating so fast while I was going through subscribing to her page of excitement! It was such a turn on (the idea this could be my wife).

There she was, looking beautiful & hot. I watched every post, I read every word, & I even liked every single post of hers.

Fast forward an hour or so, I started freaking out, I never thought I would act like this finding out my wife has an OnlyFans page! then my brain started wondering about the idea that this might be considered cheating?! not because she offered herself and her body but because she kept it hidden from me! is there anything missing in our life? am I not enough? is it an experiment?

Then, I decided to go back to the page again and pay more attention to anything I might have missed. apparently, there is something called a tips menu (it is like a menu of services with prices next to each service) and I saw audio recording is one of the services! which reminded me of that time when I noticed she was recording the time we had.

Again, I felt excited about it, so excited that I even paid to see the video and texted her on OnlyFans that I am a new fan and I like what she has on her page.

This is my problem!! Why am I excited? should I be anything else other than feeling excited about this?!!

I am not really looking for an answer! I am just here speaking my mind and loud.

I’m tired of smelling my boyfriend’s farts/ass all day, everyday

I sniff his laundry to check if it’s dirty or not, chances are that any bottoms smell like ripe butt. I’ve gotten to a point where I don’t sniff anymore–if it’s on the floor, it’s dirty.

He eats curry or pizza? Well, I’m screwed for 24 hours. Constant fart odors in our room all day. I leave and come back, walk into fart zone. There’s a literal scent threshold that I cross in the door frame.

He hasn’t showered for more than 1 day? Swass through and through. Sitting down, standing up… even during intercourse if his cheeks are spread, I smell it.

I’m so tired of smelling this smell. I don’t know what to do. Is this normal for men? I’ve been with him for almost 7 years. I don’t know if it’s the fact that I never noticed until now or if he just stopped caring!!! Does this mean I don’t love him anymore? Help!!!!!!!!!

Oh and sometimes he doesn’t brush his teeth for a couple days.

Someone please save me.

Guess I should point out that when I say “bottoms” that doesn’t just mean underwear. I won’t sniff underwear. I mean jeans, sweatpants, other pants that don’t have stains on them so they look wearable again, but somehow they sometimes carry the butt smell. And tbh I didn’t think that was possible but it’s something Ive been noticing more and more lately so it’s weird.