My BF and I keep running into each other and people are freaked out

I(23F) spend 5days out of the week at my BF(24M) place. We are both working and studying and our brains are fried most days. We watch TV or go out for dinner like once a week, but mostly spend time either discussing HW because we are majoring in the same thing or making cool plans for when we have more free time to travel. Plans we do end up realising btw.

Sometimes we go out with friends, especially on the days we are not together. We never really ‘inform’ each other. One of us might send a text ‘I’m out, will call in 2-3h’ but that’s it. I really don’t need to know, I trust him.

Well, as luck would have it, I ran in my BF at a bar. I was out with one of my girl friends and he was out with his best friend. We laughed and just sat a little off from each other so we do not have to keep shooting awkward glances around. A month later, it happened again. I wasn’t even ‘out out’, my sister and I were picking an order at a burger place and my BF was there with another friend. Big deal, I don’t see the issue.

I told some of my friends because I thought it was mildly amusing but they all said this was dysfunctional and kinda wrong. My BF and I have been together for 2 years, own a dog together, my friends found it freakish that we run into each other randomly.

I asked my BF what he thought and he said his friend said the same thing. Now it got me thinking, should we start texting each other what we are up to? Idk, I honestly suck at things like these. Any advice welcome.

nO one is intentionally running into the other, honest coincidences. There are a few more which might be why people freak.

We have 5 days we stay side by side working, then two days when I go home and maybe go out as well as I am busy during the week. We only tell each other after the fact, you know share and stuff.

People seem to be really freaked how we just don’t check in with one another.

One day someone asked my BF where I was, he said if he had to guess I was home. I wasn’t, I was at a bar. Or someone was asking for board game night, called me I agreed, then called my BF later and he asked if I can join. Ensue confusion because I already agreed and he didn’t know.

I hope this makes sense.

At present, more and more young Malaysians choose to work hard in Singapore, thinking that they can earn more here. Is this really the case?

Recently, a female netizen asked on a social account, “Can Singapore really make a lot of money in a short period of time? Is it too late for me to go at the age of 29?” The news immediately aroused heated discussions among netizens.

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She said, “I feel that it is very slow to make money in Malaysia. Many friends have gone to the other side. They can earn RM9350-RM15580 a month. I am so envious…”

“Although every time they come back, they say that the work there is very tiring, but they came back after a few years of work and bought a house, a car, and various luxuries… Now I also want to go to Singapore to work. I am 29 years old, is it too late? ?”

After the post was published, many netizens commented, and their opinions can be divided into positive and negative.

Positive netizens said:

“Working in Singapore is an important way out for young Malaysians. Although the pressure is relatively high, they can indeed make a lot of money in a short period of time.”

“Although the pressure is relatively high, it can make you better. 29 is not too late. I only came after graduation. As long as you work hard, you will be rewarded!”

Netizens with negative views said:

“Singapore is not as good as you think. When you come, you will know that every day is very hard and living expenses are high. If you don’t have technical skills, let alone making money to buy a house, life is a problem!”

“Singapore’s work is so stressful and overwhelming, I repeat the same life every day.”

Some netizens said in surprise, “How does one with a 3-5k salary buy cars and luxury goods?”

What suits you is the best

Of course, some netizens hold a neutral attitude towards this, saying that no matter where they are, as long as they work hard, they can achieve their goals.

At the same time, someone warned the netizen, “Don’t let your thoughts be controlled by others, it’s best to find what suits you!”

I started working at a company recently. I get along with most of my coworkers but been having some issues with this guy “Morgan”. Morgan from what I understand is what everyone call “the handsome” guy in the office. He dated 2 of our colleague and hit on several others. He seemed friendly when we talked, he seemed respectable and never asked questions outside of work.

He offered to buy me lunch and he kept sending me funny memes and stuff. It was nice but felt a bit too much so I asked that he stop and he did.

He started sending me pics of him that were inappropriate. I texted him saying that I’m married and he was being inappropriate.

Man refused to believe she is married

He texted saying I was lying about being married to get him off my back, then went on about how nice and attractive he is, and how I’m trying to act like I don’t like him to get him to try harder. I felt frustrated especially after he kept sendig me pics. Days ago he sent me a pic of his “beam” and told me to “eat”.

I decided to let my husband deal with it. He sent him a text back saying “sorry bud, small objects are a choking hazard for her”. Then blocked him.

The other day he came into the office looking furious and “confronted” me about being misled by not having a wedding ring on when I’m married. I said I didn’t need to prove anything to anybody and didn’t lead anyone on. He said he was trying to get close to me and I should’ve told him I’m married from the get-go.

I said I was sorry but maybe he shouldn’t have basically tried to enforce a relationship with anyone regardless if they’re in a relationship or not. He said that my husband and I were rude and offensive then rushed out. Other coworkers said Morgan was an playboy that always get into problems like this but I too bear the blame for having my wedding ring on and being somewhat misleading. I said I don’t think I owe anyone an explanation and refused to apologize for what happened just to keep the peace in the office.

Screw adulthood lol it’s so tiring

Is it just me or there’s just seems to be countless issues to deal with? Firstly there seem to be not enough time for everything, I’m like always planning when to study, when to submit my assignments and get stressed easily.

Work can be stressful for those who are working. Financial issues, everything is so expensive now due to inflation. Social issues, am grappling with some friendship issues rn as well. Family stuffs here and there that everyone got to handle.

Some of us may have other issues like relationship issues? Used to be in a bad rs and was plagued with issues lol. And I guess though lesser now, pandemic woes can be a concern for some.

How do y’all deal with it when stress gets overwhelming? I’ve tried doing things I like to do which are stress relievers, but they always seem to be just a temporary distraction, and when I’m done all the thoughts come back again.

Trying to be positive but been feeling like this for days

Netizens’ comments

Figure out what matters to you most, focus on those things. When those things get tiring, focus on some other things, maybe your hobbies.

Learn to take things as they come, no point to worry about things too much if they are just a possibility. Not everything has to be a big issue to you, you can think about it but don’t let it be something that you have to worry about, such as international happenings.