My fiancé is ugly without a bear

I’ve been with my fiancé (m24) for almost two years now. When I met him he had facial hair and was immediately attracted to him. If I was to rate him it’d probably be a 9/10.

Last week he messed up shaving, and TO not look “stupid” as he put, he decided to shave everything. This was the first time I’d ever seen him without facial hair. It was awful.

This beautiful man turned into someone else- and not in a good way. I didn’t really react because I do love him, but attraction is important and there’s none when he is hairless.

So now I just have to hope he never shaved again. Ugh.

Netizens’ comments

• Good thing beards grow back.

• It’s hard out there fellas

• I think it can be shocking at first for anyone. Especially if you are used to it. It’s pretty common for young kids to be scared if a parent changes a haircut or shaves a beard.

Just tell him you think he looks better with facial hair. That’s the nice thing about hair. Generally it grows back.

• You sound like those babies in Youtube who see their dad’s clean shaven face for the first time and cry hahahaha

Please I need some advice…

So I’m in my early-30s, and got married and moved out just recently. I have no kids at the moment and both my husband and I are working office jobs.

There comes the problem, my mom. She doesn’t live with us, but we do live quite near I guess?? 2 mrt stops away. She came to visit us a few times before, and most of it ends up with both of us frustrated and angry.

Firstly I would like to say that our relationship be4 I moved out was alright, I mean okok not super close but ok. So after I moved out sometimes I still visit her.

Initially when she said she wanted to come to my house, I was like quite happy you know, can show her around etcetc. Then nope, she was criticising about how the floor was not clean enough, scolding me when she saw even a strand of hair anywhere and telling me to control my hair (like wtf how am I supposed to do that), and then when she say junk food and instant noodles she was like ‘you alrdy so fat now you want the whole family to die issit’.

She always say I’m fat and this hurts alot, fyi my bmi is 20, is that overweight?? And people ask me why my self-esteem is so low. Until now in my 30s I’m still only wearing baggy clothes, never once wearing anything remotely showing the shape of my body, cos I grew up not liking it.

And then ofc we argued, that the cleanliness of my house is not up to her standard (she can spend the whole day cleaning), that I’m feeding my family junk food, that I’m eating too much, that it is due to my negligence that I have hair on the floor.

Then the next time she came, I thought it will be ok since I tried to vacuum before she came (and hide the junk food) and I really wanted to mend our relationship. But unfortunately, the same thing happened. No matter what I do she is unhappy, that I can never keep the house as clean as hers and I’m forever a fatass. I’m so tired that I really don’t want her to come by anymore.

I find it a struggle to take her out also, I tried once, and she was criticizing my food choices as always. When I was living w her I had to lie about my food choices to prevent scolding, if she ever knew that I went to kbbq or drank bbt I would have literally died. I know she means well, but only occasionally also cant enjoy, then what’s the pt of living?? Might as well go be a monk.

She will tell me to eat the same portions as her, like half a bowl of rice, and scold me when I get bbt or fried food or anything that serves slightly bigger portion than hers. Once in a while, also cannot eat. And I ended up hungry after gg to ‘lunch’ w her. I only ate half plate of beehoon and 2 spoon of vege btw (she said it was the perfect size for a meal).

She dont understand, she thinks that I should eat the same amount as someone in their 60s, that my caloric/nutrition needs are same as those of an elderly.

I feel so tired eating with her or even gg out. Lucky I moved out so I can cook maggie at home when I feel lazy or just crave for it. If I were still living with her, no junk food will be allowed. Maggie, potato chips, bbt??? Totally out of the qn, cant even eat once.

Anyone has the same type of parent here can advise?? Anything I can do or what? Or this relationship will continue to suck, since it is very unlikely to change her mindset. This is more of a rant anw…

A netizen wrote a response to a man who only got a minimum salary increment after working for several years.

Here is what he suggests:

I highly suggest that you need to look elsewhere. In fact, you had 5 years of experience and yet you still get below 3k is really killing yourself.

Here’s my story, i started off in a man, i get $3000 as fresh grad. I stay around 3 years and left while having 3.6k. My first jump got me to 4.5k and i stayed another 3 years. I left again for the next jump while drawing 5k and I got 6.2k on second jump. I stayed for a while this time, promoted to senior and i am getting 7.5k now.

I hear from my boss that my max for senior exec could fetch up to 14k. But that’s the case if I want to stay as a senior exec for the rest of my life as it is the highest non-leadership role. He mentions that if I do well, I can start to handle a few headcounts under me and promote to AM. That could give me a base of 9k at least.

I am almost 35 years old now and getting 7.5k per month, I think it’s really not bad already.

So I think you need to re-look into your options and go for the company that does not lowball you. I am doing logistics and supply chain which I think is comparable to your job scope in procurement. You might as well use me as a benchmark.

Meanwhile, some people flaunt fake credentials to advance their career