My dad wants me to stay with my cheating ex.

Over the past few year, my mom was dying of cancer and I balanced my time between my girlfriend and taking care of my mother.

Despite this, she keeps complaining I spend too much time with my mom and that to cut it down to an hour per week at the most. It even got to the point where she is angry at me just because I’m not in the mood for intimacy.

About 2 months ago, my mother finally passed away and my girlfriend seemed relieved (offering her condolences but didn’t see sad about it).

She then started pressuring me to get intimate not even 4 days in and I had to tell her over and over now is not the right time. What I saw a week ago shocked me.

As I wanted to surprise my best friend [26M] for his birthday, I went to his house and I saw him and my girlfriend passionately kissing.

Despite their begging and insistence that it didn’t go any further, I told both of them to stay out of my life. With my mother dead and my now ex-girlfriend not being faithful, I decided to turn to my father in hopes he can help.

Instead, he is begging me to reconcile with my ex (apparently, she confessed to him before I told him) and insisted she helped me before.

How can I get my dad to see that my ex is actually damaging me more than helping me?

Netizens’ comments

• That’s none of your father’s business. You don’t need to make him realize that you don’t want to be with her.

• Who cares what he wants? It’s your life. Make decisions that are best for you

With the borders now wide open and travelling made easier, more and more people are discussing and planning to go overseas.

One of the easiest countries to enter without needing much planning is our neighbour Malaysia, as the country is just a short bridge away from Singapore.

Singapore Uncensored ask several Singaporeans what are the things they worried about the most when travelling to Malaysia or other countries and here are the responses.

Robbery and Petty Crime

Crime rates are higher compared to Singapore but it is really not as bad as one would imagine. Just think of the people commuting daily to work in Singapore.

A Malaysian told Singapore Uncensored: “Just don’t appear to be flashy and don’t wear jewellery or branded stuff, you will be safe”

Vehicle Theft

In Malaysia, vehicle theft is common. According to statistics reported by the Vehicle Theft Reduction Council of Malaysia Bhd or known as VTRERC, they published a study stating that in year 2020 every 75 mins a vehicle is stolen countrywide.

A local Malaysian said that “No matter how old is your vehicle, always use a steering wheel lock and park in well-lit areas”

The steering wheel lock acts as a deterrent as carjackers will realise that it will take a longer time to steal the vehicle, therefore, giving up and looking for another target.

Kidnap

This is a crime that is very rare in Singapore but not unheard of in Malaysia.

Back in November 2021, a 13-year-old girl escapes from a kidnap attempt right in front of her school, reported Malay Mail.

The victim was taken onto a vehicle and drove for 400 meters before the young girl escaped.

Here is a statement published by the Malaysian Police:

“Police received a report on the attempted kidnapping incident that went viral on social media and investigations found that after the victim got down from her school van, she was approached by a man driving a Perodua Kancil car asking her to deliver a form to the school.

“The man then asked the victim to get in the car but she refused. The victim was then dragged into the vehicle and the suspect then off before the girl managed to escape about 400m away from the scene of the incident,”

Corrupted cops

This is nothing new and most veteran drivers going to Malaysia will always prepare a small amount of spare cash in the car.

This is also known infamously as the “Kopi money”.

A Singaporean once shared an incident at Johor Bahru Pelangi stating that a Malaysian Police gave up after realising that he could not get money out of it.

“I was at Pelangi and I made a U-turn, moments later a Police stop me and told me that I made an illegal U-turn. I straight away told him I have no money and its no problem if he issued me with a ticket.

The officer step away from the vehicle and discussed with two other Police officers before returning and said “You are free to go”

Recently an old video of a Police officer accepting a bribe has resurfaced on Facebook with over 1,000 shares

Yesterday I (31F) received a mail from the clinic after I had a check up for my health and found out that I’ve contracted an STD. I showed my boyfriend (32M) and immediately asked him if he’s done anything.

This is not the first time he’s given me something and said the reason for the first time was he went down on a girl when we were on a break.

I believed him and we got treated. We moved on from it and two years later. He fully denied it this time and even tried to question me if I did anything and I know for a fact that I didn’t and I tested negative for results just about a year ago.

I’ve only been with him since then. We live together now so I was confused and mad that this happened to me again especially as I thought we were planning for a family and a future together and this disease can mess with my fertility.

After some time he said it’s possible to contract the STD from foreplay with another girl. He told me that it was a dare and that’s why he did it and that perhaps that’s were he got it from.

I asked him to call that friend and confirm that in fact he really did dare him to do that. And he said he didn’t want to get embarrassed in front of his friend.

Im unsettled because since he’s already given me an STD twice and both times he’s saying there was no penetration?!? But what are the chances that the only two times he’s ever did anything unfaithful he contracted and infected me with it?

It’s hard to believe what he did and didn’t do. I feel like he’s done more and it upsets me that I have to pay for it every time and I only find out from health records.

I still love him but totally see him in a different light and I don’t know if I can trust him again. I feel stupid if I try to work it out with him again.

What if this happens again?! What should I do? How should I approach this situation?

Everybody farts. And when you’re in a long term live-together relationship like us (24F & 27M) you should feel comfy enough to be free & what not. Sure!!

My problem is, my boyfriend is an actual child when it comes to farting. He thinks farts are so funny. It’s a whole thing when he lets one out.

Examples: if we’re sitting on the couch watching TV together, he’ll hike his knees to his chest & push with all his might, fart loudly & laugh it off.

If he’s walking around the house he’ll stop in his tracks, bend over, spread his legs, fart & look at me to laugh. Like a toddler. Always laughs & I think it’s because he knows it annoys me.

Comments like “omg did you hear that?” “That was a wet one.” huge, exaggerated sighs of pure joy “awwwww yeah” , etc etc.

I get very annoyed not only because the immaturity but because they smell so bad…putrid. I gag sometimes. I grew up with brothers & my farts don’t smell like roses so it’s not like I’m super sensitive to this kind of thing. It’s just THAT bad. My first concern honestly was his health but he’s fine.

So here’s the kicker… I often voice my concerns to him. Tell him to try to stop farting so much around me. In our 6 years together I continue to keep my farts to myself to the best of my ability. That’s me though, I don’t expect the same from him.

At the very least I ask him to be discreet & not make it into this huge ordeal every time. I can ignore it that way.

You wanna know what his solution was?? After every loud, ridiculous fart, now he’ll try to give me a kiss. I said NO. do not try to “reward me” with affection when you act like that. Do not associate your over the top flatulence & childish gimmicks with kissing me. It’s not cute or charming. It doesn’t make me less annoyed. Don’t do it.

This starts an argument. He tries to essentially gaslight me saying things like “wooow you don’t want to kiss me?” “I’m not doing that, I wanted to kiss you anyways.” Don’t BS me dude. It’s become a pattern now. I try to tell him, please just listen to me & understand that it bothers me. If you really think to kiss me right after your farts, then just wait a couple minutes?

He says no he won’t do it because I’m just being crazy. I snap & say how it REALLY makes me feel: “I’m not crazy, It’s disgusting. It’s not attractive. If you want me to be grossed out every time you kiss me, then fine, keep at it.”

This was last night in bed & he just went to sleep after I said that. This morning he tried feeling me up & I just got up and went to my laptop to start my workday. Not interested. It really has affected my attraction towards him lately & I didn’t want to say it straight up like that because it probably hurt his feelings.

He was not willing to even listen to me though so I felt like it was the only thing to do. I don’t want to end up resenting him or overall disgusted with him as a person. Maybe giving him that reality check will help. I don’t know. Can anyone relate??

My wife is in love with her best friend

Its a sombre realization for me, like its not real and at any point I will wake up and this nightmare will be over.

She has known this friend for around 10 years ( I am 32m, she is 34f, he is 36m and his wife is 33f). He is married too. But he and his wife visit us at least twice every year and they stay with us.

I am not best friends with him but I dont hate him. He was here with his wife, and left just a few hours ago and thats why I am making this post.

Last night all 4 of us were drinking and talking, they were reminiscing about past. It was at that point that he confessed that he had loved my wife from the moment they met but never dared to say it aloud for it could mean losing their friendship, so he just bit his tongue and chose to tolerate the pain of seeing her with others instead of cutting her out of his life, because he couldnt bear the thought of not seeing and talking to her.

He talked about imagining a day when she finally realizes that he is her true love and she gives him a chance finally. We were all shocked and my wife told him that it was very inappropriate and it was clear that they couldnt be friends anymore and its better that when he leaves he doesnt try to contact her anymore.

All this time his wife was just sitting there looking humiliated, I assume she either had some suspicions or she knew about his feelings for my wife.

When we went to bed I tried to lighten the mood by saying that it didnt turn out the way he expected and I noticed my wife was also crying and admitted that she also loved him. But she also loves me and could never leave me, or share or cheat on me, thats why she took the painful decision to cut him off.

By this point she was crying heavily so I took her in my arms and she slept cuddling me. But now I am not sure how to feel about it. They both love each other, so does it not make sense for me to move away from the middle? Will she be truly happy with me? She says that she has made her choice and she is happy and satisfied with it but somehow I am still troubled.

Equality is a word that many people like to talk about all the time. Whether you are a male or female there is always two sides to the coin.

In a Reddit post, a netizen asked: “What are some privileges that females have but they are ignorant about?”

The thread started to become a heated discussion with over 100 comments, the following is a list of comments stated by netizens.

• Divorce & child support laws

• Woman colleagues can ask guy colleagues to help do manual / lifting work and no one bats an eyelid. Woman have better emotional support social circle.

• I think a few that is related ti reservist:

1. Not being judged for going to ICT
2. Not having to worry about ICT call ups (for eg training before ICT, 1 day meetings,etc) that may affect their plans

• More tax benefits (working mothers, spouses of NSMen), More emphasis on women’s health (vs men’s health), Priority in disasters (look at Titanic, Ukraine etc… Women and children are evacuated first. Is it because women are weaker and need to be protected?) Priority in custody for children in divorce cases (Is it because got to enforce female role as caregiver?) ,Pay gap in modeling, conventional kind or ahem otherwise. (Its demand and supply, so while privilege, I would argue that its justifiable. Just like sports paying men more.)
• men are also expected to pay for dates, earn more, propose, pay for most expenses after marriage

• Got woman charter, no man charter.

• Women get in for free during ladies night

• Companies pander to women during International Women’s Day by giving them discounts while nothing happens on international men’s day.

• Women can falsely accuse men of sexual assault and have her identity protected while the accused man has his name plastered all over the news (this happened last year, there was a doctor who was falsely accused. It’s in the straits times)

• Men give women free validation and they get real confident real fast.

• When trouble strikes, men are expected to die for women or “women and children get saved first”

• A woman can hit a man in public and he is expected to take it. When a man retaliates the public will jump on him

• Women get a head start in life (no national service to hold them back, ICT included)

Do you agree?