A man shared how he stopped his ex wife from visiting their son after he found him with pink dyed hair.

Here is the story:

I have full custody of my 10yo son. His mom was hanging out with some bad people. Over the last few years, I’ve allowed her to spend weekends with him.

He’s at that age where he is pushing boundaries and I’m fine with it as long as it is within limits. I picked him up from tuition on Monday and he was wearing a hat, which was weird. He never wears any sort of hat.

He said he had a surprise and showed off pink hair. It was done almost professionally with chemicals. He has light brown hair that she got bleached and then had pink dye put in.

I asked his mom about it and she said they did it on a whim. It took forever to find someone to do it. Then she said our son thought I’d like it. I told her I was angry that it was over the top with the bleaching and dye. She should have ran it by me first

After thinking about it, I decided no more weekend visits. This obviously upset her. My son doesn’t know about it but understands that the weekend thing is not a guarantee. I’m not opposed to her seeing him at my house.

If my son asked, I would not let him bleach his hair. I’d seriously let him get his nose pierced before bleaching his hair.

I was there for him through everything. I helped him financially. I helped him emotionally. I gave him advice and encouragement when he didn’t have it. I was there for him when he didn’t have anyone else in his life (that should have been a red flag).

My birthday is in a week and I wanted to spend it with him. I also was planning to buy him a huge teddy bear, his favorite candy and going out to dinner with him for our anniversary. But instead, I found out from his friend that numerous times after I left, he’d invite other girls AND SOMETIMES GUYS over and sleep with them. This explains why he asked me to help him move his bed from his wall that’s next to his roommates wall (she still ended up finding out and showing me evidence). He doesn’t care, has blamed me and said it’s my fault for volunteering do everything I did for him, and has blocked my number.

I accept my part in this. I gave him way too much soon and have to take full responsibility for it. But I still feel very hurt. And I still feel like a loser.

Here are what netizens think:

• It really isn’t your fault you got cheated on and taken advantage of. It sucks that you sound like such a sweet and giving person and it ended up wasted on some self-centered jerk. Him blaming you is a weak deflection.

• You aren’t a loser. You cared for someone who wasn’t what you thought he was. You learn from these experiences. Best wishes.

• You’re not a loser- a loser is a person who cheats on their partner. You gave what you wanted to give and what felt right for you to give in a relationship. Unfortunately he used you and has hurt you in doing so. The best thing you can do is block him and look after you. He took a lot from you and now it’s time to give it back to yourself. You deserved better. He is not better.

Let me start by saying this: while we haven’t been dating for too long, I will say she has got to be one of the most loving and genuine people I have ever met. I’ve never seen or had a hint of her behavior eventually turning out like this and I’m kind of disgusted right now.

We met up at my apartment and decided that we were both starving so we went to go get some food. Fast forward to us getting there, we pull up to the drive-through and she’s got the music blasting all the way up until the employee starts our order.

She immediately rang off her order not giving the dude a chance to plug it into the system and I say “dang, give him a minute”. I work in the restaurant industry so I know how annoying it is for people to order like that.

We then pull up to the window and the cashier hands her the drinks and when they hand her hers, she’s like “uhh? I order a large. That don’t look like a large.”

In a rude tone. The cashier says it is, and she’s going on about how they need bigger cups and whatnot. At this point I’m starting to get embarrassed that she’s talking to him like that, and I just sit back in my seat.

Then she’s asks for sauces and apparently the restaurant implemented a new policy about giving away too many sauces and he’s trying to tell her that and she’s like “well then just double up on the ranch and honey mustard, and one of the other ones” which is pretty much exactly what the guy explained he can’t do but he gave it to her anyway to avoid the conflict. She didn’t even say thank you when we left.

On the ride back home I tell her “you didn’t have to have an attitude with the guy. He said it was store policy there’s nothing he can do about it, he just works there.” then she says she didn’t think she was being rude and apologizes to me and but my blood is boiling from embarrassment so the ride home is silent. When we get home she is mad bc I confronted her about it and decides she wants to go home.

All I can think about is how she complains about rude customers at her job but then turns around and does this then has the nerve to get mad that she got called out on her nonsense. I don’t even know if I want to continue seeing her at this point. I literally cannot be with someone who is so rude to someone just trying to do their job but on the other hand, I’m hoping this was a one-off thing and I don’t know if I should apologize for confronting her like that..

My [29F] husband [32M] of 3 years said something I can’t move on from.
We have a job that requires us to wake up very early in the morning. We’ve been working a cubicle away for the past couple of years. That’s how we met.

He usually wakes up before me and makes me breakfast. He’s been doing this since we got married.

He’s sweet and caring like that. He’s also the funniest, genuine and friendly person I know. I love him and know that he loves me back. Our relationship has always been stable.

Now I’m not sure.

Today morning while we were having breakfast, he calmly asked me to kill him if I ever caught him cheating. I initially brushed it off as a joke and replied likewise.

Then he said that he’d kill me if he found me cheating. And he would enjoy it.

I didn’t know how to react. I just got chills. He’s never been like this and I can’t imagine him saying things like this.

All day at work I’ve been thinking what I did wrong. Did he read my messages (none of us keep passwords) and find something off? Did he see me talking with someone inappropriately?

I don’t know.

What should I say to him?

So I met her around a year and a half ago and we hit it off pretty well, great chemistry and and all that.

The problem is that every 10 days or so (can’t keep track), she’s absurdly nasty to me. To give a couple of examples, I went to the doctor a couple of weeks ago and it seems I have low testosterone. One day at night, I said I’d start taking the medication and she says: Great, maybe you’ll finally become a man.

Other times, I was chilling on the couch after work (8-17), she shows up, says that I work too little and that there was once a diplomat that had a thing for her that made much more money. She sometimes also mentions some hurtful stuff like I made her some food and she randomly mentions she once hooked up with a random guy from a bar.

These are only a couple, there’s plenty more. Whenever I try to say anything, she usually says it’s just a joke and that I am too sensitive or blames it on her periods and that she likes this kind of banter. Afterwards, when I tell her my feelings,she sends me a huge wall of text saying she loves me, appreciates me, is feeling like shit and that she will try to change.​

Now I’m starting to get kinda crazy on debating whether I really am too sensitive or if this is abusive and like most cases, I can’t grasp it.

Not sure if it’s relevant but I live by myself and she lives with her mother.

Here are what netizens think:

• I have a rule that took me WAY too long to learn – just because people are going through, doesn’t mean they are allowed to take it out on people around them. You’re worth better than that, your feelings are valid. Don’t put up with it.

• She does have mental health issues, she should at minimum apologize when you point out she’s been hurtful. If she doesn’t take your feelings seriously even when you talk to her in a “good” phase that’s pretty red flag-ey.

• If she’s really having cycles where she behaves differently she might have mood disorder issues? I have that (although I get depressive cycles

• You’re not too sensitive. She’s being straight up mean. Instead of saying “you’ll finally become a man,” after getting your meds, imagine if she was curious about them or was excited for the both of you or she just gave you a hug or ANYTHING besides being very mean and cutting about it.

• She’s using that as an excuse to say or do whatever she want.

This morning I went through my husband’s phone because he’s been acting weird. Little did I find out, he wasn’t cheating BUT…

In 2019 he practised kissing with his cousin to kiss me better? I went through his text messages with his cousin and found texts sent like “we held ourselves back” “i wanted to pull your pants down and slap that ass, but it would’ve made things awkward” “i would have bitten your neck” etc. NOW am I the only one that finds this weird? From reading the texts, I don’t think anything more happened than kissing, but like getting taught by YOUR COUSIN??? KISSING YOUR COUSIN??

me and his cousin have hung out before and we’re cool so????

This is kinda disgusting and yet so weird, does anyone has this kind of experience or heard of anyone doing such an act against god?

Here are what netizens think:

• Well, I guess you want to make sure that the phone number matches the cousin? Some people save phone numbers with different names….

• I really wonder whether this is the cousin (cousin name but number is actually of someone else) and if it is indeed the cousin, it still isn’t any better. All I can say is, this is weird and you probably need to get out of this. Unless that’s your thing, and you’re his other cousin. Haha.

• You had suspicions so YOU violate trust by looking through your partner’s phone? Maybe you need to.have a serious “come to jesus” moment with yourself about that.

• Never heard the phrase kissing cousins huh? It’s there for a reason. Now my in law cousins actually are together and had a kid. They hate each other but can’t separate because now it would be awkward at family get togethers

Wife is insecure of my looks after giving birth.

We (32m and 33f) were called the golden couple back in school And she is a legit 10 on any day while I am 8.5/9 on my best day.

We have been together for 7 years now married for 2. There has never been any whiff of infidelity in our relationship but after the birth of our daughter 5 months ago my wife has been really insecure about going out with me, saying that people will say I am with my mother.

She has been trying to lose her pregnancy weight but its hard with a 5 month old.

Now I am not a flirty person and the only one with whom I flirt with is my wife, but last night we were coming back after our post dinner walk and we met our neighbor in the lift.

She stuck up a conversation with us and it was literally about garbage collection in our apartment complex.

But when we came back home I noticed my wife was a little sad and I asked her why and she said that the neighbor couldnt keep her eyes off me.

I tried to tell her that was not the case but she just gave a sad smile.

It just breaks my heart, she is still the most beautiful woman in the world but she wont accept it.

Today morning when I was getting ready for work she was smiling at me so I asked why and she said she hoped I didnt run into any beautiful woman today so I told her that its too late because I am already looking at the most gorgeous of them all.

But seriously, please give me ideas on what else can I do to make her feel beautiful again? What can I say and do to show how desirable she is? Really appreciate some advise.

helloo i’ll be enlisting this year and im a little worried about interacting with guys.

i know its a weird issue.. but I’ve never really had a guy friend before (i was an unsociable kid in school and only made a small group of friends all of which are girls) i don’t know why i avoided guys in my school back then but what’s done is already done

my family only has sisters and my cousins are majority girls (2 boys but they’re in primary school) which made it worse for me ( i do love them , it’s just I would like to have a brother/ guy cousin near my age)

in poly i’m also the only guy in class for 3 years straight and i feel that i forgot how to talk to a guy (if that even makes sense?) i even signed up for a Cca just to make some guy friends but i was the only guy in my cca session :/.

The only few guys that i talk to are my sisters boyfriends (sometimes even my friend’s boyfriends) and they keep telling me that ill be just fine and that its a good chance to make some guys friends

thus why i’m a little excited going into ns, tho i’m leaning more towards anxious

since majority of you here are guys how should i interact with all of you? Am i thinking too much into it? Should i be worried? I tried talking to myself in the mirror but i’m really not sure anymore

Netizens’ comments

• There is nothing to worry about mate, u dont need to always try to engage urself in your bunkmate’s conversation or what, just try to find common interest. And dont talk about others on their back or screw things up for them by saboing them or something. We are all here to serve, just get the two years over with and carry on with life 🙂

• Ummmmm, it may be a little hard at the beginning I admit, but trust me you would get used to it. Like I faced a similar situation that I mainly had female friends. When you enlist, most people will be kind of hesitant and awkward for the first few days and its perfectly fine, but gradually somehow from just doing activities together you would warm up. Most of the common topics would be like uni or future job, maybe even scholarships if you have ambitious people around. Before enlisting I had this preconceived notion I admit that it would be hard to talk to guys about emotional stuff but what I learnt is that like all stereotypes it does not represent all people. So ya wish u luck, it can really be nerve wracking but just try the few common topics, maybe share a little about yourself and things should get going from there.

I have two biological daughters “Cara” and “Daisy” and a stepdaughter “Emma”

I married Emma’s dad when they were all in their early teens. I’m going to be honest, and I’m not trying to get slammed for being a bad mom, but Daisy was a bad child.

she threw temper tantrums well into adulthood, snuck out at night, talked back to teachers.

I did take her to multiple therapists, but it didn’t help.

Cara was a very easy child, and Emma didn’t get in trouble but can be very rude, selfish, and when she was older she slept with a boyfriend of Daisy’s (Emma’s dad refused to put her in therapy and claims she’s fine)

Emma and Cara are best friends. They do literally everything together. Daisy is not close to either of them.

I would also like to say Daisy has grown up to be a lovely young woman. She does still struggle with emotional regulation but she is 85% better.

Cara got married 4 years ago and Daisy was pretty jealous. Emma was the maid of honor and was not nice to Daisy.

Daisy ended up dropping out of the wedding the day of because she had been in the bathroom for a while (crying I think) and when she came out, Emma said if she did anything to mess up the wedding, she would push her into the cake.

Everyone laughed and Daisy left and turned her phone off for 3 weeks.

Daisy got a boyfriend about a year later and got even better with her emotional issues, and I’m very proud of her.

Daisy is now getting married, but is embarrassed because she only has one best friend and he had a lot of people to be groomsmen, so she asked Emma and Cara.

Emma declined because the dress didn’t match her hair. Cara said she didn’t want to do it without Emma.

This annoyed me because Cara literally doesn’t do anything without Emma. it borders on co-dependence.

I snapped at Cara that her hair matches everything, so she doesn’t have an excuse and it is pretty sad that she is more concerned with her step-sister than her real sister.

I told her I was disappointed. Daisy began tearing up and asking me to stop because I was embarrassing her.

Cara yelled back that I always prioritized Daisy’s issues and she feels Daisy was mean to her and she can’t move past it and hopes Daisy’s fiancé cheats (I found that awful because Daisy is so in love, I’ve never seen her like this)

Where we are right now is Cara is hardly talking to me, Daisy is saying if she was mean to Cara it was only because Emma was mean her, and Emma is saying if she bullied Daisy it was because she was being ill treated at her mom’s house and we weren’t helping her (unfortunately we didn’t know)

I hate how divided we are, and I hate that Cara thinks I love Daisy more and doesn’t want to talk to me because I lost my temper with her.