I’ve been working on my online dating profile recently, and common advice is to include a photo of yourself with friends. It makes sense, but it’s hard to do when you don’t have either.

I’ve lived the last decade without really having any friends. It wasn’t intentional, but it’s just kind of happened. I’ve lost touch with all my friends from school, and since then everyone I have met has been through work. I have great relationships with a few colleagues, but at the same time they are not really interested in hanging out outside of work (they are older and have families anyway). And none of my interests or hobbies really require interacting with other people.

I feel my need for social interaction is fulfilled by my family and work friends. This doesn’t bother me. But I am concerned that it will be perceived as strange or a red flag. Obviously the solution is to make some friends. But I feel like if it doesn’t authentically happen, then it’s kind of pointless. I also don’t want to just use people. Or maybe I’m making too big of a deal about this?

Does this describe anyone else?.

Here are what netizens think:

• I’m in the same boat, but I consider myself a little bit weird. I wouldn’t look at it as a red flag if the person I was dating didn’t have friends only because I understand what it’s like.

• most peoples profiles look like they havent spent a day of their lives inside, and I dont know about you but thats a turn off to me, I LOVE my ocassional down time haha. If you do manage to get pictures with some friends/coworkers/strangers make sure its obvious which one is you. I’ve been excited about a couple profile only to find out 3/4 pictures in that she was the comparatively unattractive one in her pictures.

I feel like this is a common struggle for most of us in a relationship. While it’s not the end of the world, it would be nice to not be the only one cleaning, doing laundry, taking the trash out, tidying, etc.

He has the audacity to get mad at me for using a towel right after I shower (just barely even dressed yet) and putting it on my chair because it needs washed. He said he couldn’t dry his hands. Meanwhile, there are fresh and clean towels under the sink. Who put them there? Me.

Our agreement since we moved in together years ago was since I hate cooking, he cooks, he hates cleaning, I clean. Well, that’s not working out because he doesn’t cook enough, maybe once a week or two.

Of course, I’ve brought this up when we communicate, but being told “if you want something done, ask me and I’ll do it” isn’t enough. I’m not someone’s mother, no one likes to nag, and no one likes to be nagged. It’s not fun for either party. Just do the thing. If you’re an adult, you should know if something is messy and if you have a minute, tidy up, right? You shouldn’t need a manager.

We were out of laundry detergent so I asked if he can order more. There are two laundry baskets in our room full of his clothes that haven’t been put away in 2 weeks. I hate putting away clothes too but we only have so much space in this room.

He collects two laundry baskets from the room and brings them to me. … I’m studying right now. There are clothes sitting in our dryer. How does it not cross your mind to put our clothes in a basket before you bring them to me so I do it? It’s okay, you go play the drums and I’ll stop studying to put clothes in a basket.

I’m a musician too so that’s not a problem, but holy can you please prioritize and be somewhat considerate.

Here are what netizens think:

• I’m a big believer in my partner not asking to help in his own home. This is a shared space, and the cleaning is a shared task. One thing I learned is to stop being angry in silence and hope they notice and make a change. Be loud about it. Stop cleaning, let the chaos build up. You’re not a house wife, you’re his partner. Until he starts treating you like one, don’t give in.

• I stopped cleaning and now I live in a dust filled, dirty flat

• This feels like reading my own thoughts out loud. Like, I love the man but damn, I need a break from being the only one to do any chores.

A woman shared how her sister is “engaged” to her ex-boyfriend as encouraged by their father to spite her and her mother.

Here is the story

Hi everyone this is a little complicated. I’m 24f. My parents (44f and 51m) divorced when I was 14. My dad was having an affair, I caught him with the other woman and told my mom about it. He’s hated my mom and me ever since.

My sister (18 now) was seven at the time of the divorce and he started using her as a pawn. He’d tell her lies about me and my mom so she wouldn’t want to live with my mom (he told my sister me and my mom were going to throw away all of her toys, he got her a dog and told her if she stayed over my mom’s house nobody would feed the dog and it would starve) so because of this my sister has wanted to live with my dad since they divorced, and her relationship with me and my mom is pretty strained.

When I was 16 I started dating a guy who was 24. I was with him for three years, I finally left him after he put me in the emergency room for the third time. I just left with my car and the clothes I had on in the ER, I left everything else and drove back to my moms house.

Now my sister announced on social media she’s engaged to him. My mom called my sister furious. She said she’s been dating him for over a year now and my father new about the relationship and encouraged it. She told my mom she was 18 now, (she just turned 18 two weeks ago) it was too late and she couldn’t do anything about it.

My mother talked to my father who basically said for me and my mom to eff off, that he doesn’t blame Alexander for putting me in the hospital and “hopes he does it again if I don’t shut up”. My dad admitted to purposely not telling my mom about my sister dating him, to keeping in contact with him and letting him stay over the house with my sister alone for years, he’s allowing all of this just to spite me and my mom.

Is there any talking sense into either of them?