A girl shared how her boyfriend told her that he has genital herpes (which the girl accepts him for it), but added that if she was the one who has it, he would leave her.

Here is the story:

“My boyfriend came forward to tell me he has genital herpes. As soon as he told me this news I went into complete de-escalation and comfort mode.

“We’ll figure this out.” “This isn’t your fault at all.” “Thank you for telling me.” “We will deal with this together.”

I fully accepted him and this condition because I know that genital herpes isn’t actually that big of a deal health wise. (First break out comes with a fever but mostly it’s just the blisters that are the recurring problem).

I know it’s a fairly common STI that can be treated with medication.

Later on we talk about it. And he tells me that if the roles were reversed, if I had herpes and he for sure didn’t, he wouldn’t have stayed with me.

I was deeply hurt but I had to respect his decision since it’s his health.

But still… it really hurts me that he wouldn’t do the same.

I’m just looking for someone to help me rationalize this in my head. Not looking for who’s right or who’s wrong. I just don’t want to feel upset about it anymore.”

Editor’s note: Leave. Him. Now.

I was supposed to get married to my ex-fiance ‘Bryan’ (29) on the 20th of this month. But last week a mutual friend caught him cheating on his ex ‘Kim’ so I called it off. Because it’s so close to our wedding date, I had already booked everything like the venue, catering and everything else. I barely managed to get any money back as it’s mostly non-refundable so in total, I’ve lost $20,000 for my share.

Last year I took out a loan to cover the costs of the wedding, the longer I take to repay it the more interest it gets. When we first got engaged, Bryan agreed to share our finances together, meaning had we got married I would’ve been able to pay it off. This was supposed to be in our prenup but because we didn’t get married, it meant he no longer had to share finances.

I asked him if he was still willing to help and told him that I will go into debt if he doesn’t as I can’t repay it alone. He told me ”It isn’t my problem you took out a loan you can’t pay back” and stopped responding after that. When we got engaged, Bryan proposed to me with a family heirloom ring belonging to his great grandmother that was worth $25,000. When we canceled the wedding, he told me he wanted the ring back but we never got around to arranging a time he could pick it up.

Because I don’t want to go into debt, I told him that if he didn’t agree to help pay it off (I wanted a lawyer involved) that I would sell the ring. He didn’t reply and ignored the messages however after talking to a mutual friend (Jake) I found out he had actually read the messages and told everyone he didn’t care because I ”wouldn’t do it”. I asked Jake to tell Bryan that if I don’t get a message from him in the next 24 hours that I would sell the ring.

Jake told me he again said he didn’t care and didn’t think I would do it. So the next day I sold the ring to an online website and messaged Bryan to tell him it had been done and told him he shouldn’t have underestimated me. He started cussing me out, saying I didn’t scare him and that he would be around for the ring later. True to his word, he came to my house demanding the ring and I told him I sold it already and showed him the proof.

He blew up at me, saying I was a petty B and that I shouldn’t have sold it because it wasn’t just a ring, it was an heirloom that meant a lot to his family. A lot of my family members think I overreacted and shouldn’t have gone to extreme measures as it will be hard for him to get the ring back, if he even can at all.

Am I wrong for selling his great grandmothers ring?