my boyfriend and best friend are talking s— about me and don’t know I’m up and can hear them…

My best friend came over to drink as I’m leaving for an overseas job posting, I didn’t want to play strip poker in front of my friend’s cousin(who just turned 18) whom I’ve helped raise.

My boyfriend told me I was ruining the night because I wouldn’t play.

I went into my room with the door ajar and listened to them talk bad about me and heard my boyfriend “joking” about sleeping with my friend and making borderline harassing comments trying to see her without clothes on.

they both said things that I told them in confidence that was between us individually and I really don’t know what to do.

I leave Monday for a job with my boyfriend’s family that pays 3 times what I make now and I need this job but I honestly don’t know what to.. think….

Netizens’ comments

• You’re so lucky you found out now. Don’t go with them. That’s not who you deserve to spend your life with
• Honestly if you need the job that badly then i say bear with it for now, keep quiet and get the job and gain some experience, its always useful to have experience in any field and if the pay is good that makes it even better, and at some point in the future when you feel secured and ready to be independent of your bf and his family, you can search for and secure another job then you can dump him if you still feel like it and if he’s still acting like a jerk.

My son said “You can’t be strong, you’re a girl” and my husband laughed.

He laughed quietly to himself from the other room because while he couldn’t see the fire flashing in my eyes, he knew my son was in for the lecture of a lifetime. He knew that the kid had said the bad words and got mum’s feminism all fired up.

I sat my son (3yo) down and told him that was not at all correct and all women were strong, just like men. Everyone is strong in their own ways and in different ways. My son accepted this and that was that.

Not sure where my son picked up the idea from, he might have just connected us complementing him being strong when he lifts his bag or toys and the fact that he is a boy.

We often tell him the differences and similarities between girls and boys and I think he just thought that he was a boy and he was strong and that was a cold hard fact.

It was a good opportunity to nip that thought process in the bud.

Husband came in shortly after and asked son if girls can be strong and he said “Yep!”

Mission accomplished.

My husband is a gem. He understands and accepts he married a fiery feminist who is determined to instill good values in our sons at any opportunity. He just knows when to step back and let me handle it.

I’m terrified of dying.

To be more specific, I’m terrified of the potential of oblivion after death. I’m not a religious person, for a ton of reasons, but I like the idea of getting to spend eternity in heaven with loved ones.

The thought of just nothingness is scary to me y’all. I was on the verge of a panic attack today at work due to spiraling anxiety thoughts of just oblivion….nothingness.

I listened to random podcast episodes people talking about how they have had experiences with an afterlife after previously being major skeptics and non-believers in an afterlife and that helped a bit.

Idk y’all I’m 27 years old and I’m just….scared.

Just know any and all who have had the same unfortunate thought process have all of my love and support. We are scared, but we are scared together.

Netizens’ comments

• I only fear death when I don’t welcome it. When everything is peachy and happy go lucky I fear it. When I’m down and everything seems to be going wrong I welcome it. It’s a vicious cycle.

• It’s in our DNA to fear death, that’s where our survival instinct comes from. I am not religious but I have a hard to believing we are this complex for it just to evaporate when we pass but if that is the case it really won’t matter because we seize to exist. We would not know we are dead because there is nothing left to know but I believe our spirit lives on in another way that is bigger than this. We won’t know until the day comes so let’s try to make the best to of the time we have on this earth.

I just pass the most important exam of my life after three years of studying every day (plus all the years of uni) for it and because of it I just got an offer for my dream job, if I failed this exam I would have to wait at least another year to try again and the job offers would have been really bad.

Almost two years ago I asked a dealer to put me on the waitlist for my dream watch, to be honest with you I thought that they would never sell me one but yesterday I got a call from the dealer, perfect timing, a reward to myself for all the hard work.

When I told my fiancee that I was going to buy it we had a big fight, she told me that I shouldn’t spend that kind of money on a luxury item and that I should be saving every dollar I have to buy a house when we get married like she is.

I told her that I’m going to start making a lot of money and that It’s okay if I treat myself with this, also if I don’t buy this I would be an idiot, the price on the used market is three times the retail price. After I told her this she said that I should buy it, but that I should sell it after. I told her that I’m not planning on selling it and she was not happy about it. She doesn’t understand that I want to treat myself with my dream watch, also that watch is something that I’m going to have for the rest of my life as a reminder of all this years of hard work.

Is it wrong of me for spending most of my savings on an expensive watch?

Info, the watch is $10200, around 80% of my savings.

Today is my birthday. I’m spending it alone :’)

Happy birthday to me… I’m spending it alone. I’m [F] turning 18.

My Family is only coming for the birthday food. NOT because of me. No one’s bought me any gifts, I don’t really care anyway.

I don’t have any friends coming over. Everyone at my school is a piece of s-, and my then-childhood now-neighbourhood friends don’t care about me anymore.

Since I have no one to spend my birthday with, I figured I would spend it alone. I have some money so I’m gonna go to town, and buy myself gifts.

I’ll also stop by a restaurant for a lunch I desired – my parents were too lazy to make me lunch. I’ve been starving since waking up…

I’m still sad about the fact I’m spending it alone. I wish I had someone in my life. A true friend. A true family member. But it doesn’t matter.

Netizens’ comments

Hey, I hope you have a great birthday. They’re not always special, and sometimes we gotta spend them alone (due to lack of friends I’ve had to do the same the past few years!) but keep your head up, eat some GOOD grub, and have fun doing your own thing! And buying stuff!!! Go hard!