I am a fresh uni grad in computer science, and I’m going to be selling everything and taking an opportunity to move to a country I have been interested in and loved for a very long time.

Don’t worry, I have a very solid structure in place so despite being a huge risk, it is mitigated quite heavily.

Namely, my parents agreeing to take me back in should I come crawling back lol, as well as other things.

I have to say though, after dreaming of this moment for so many years, it’s almost terrifying to face it. I speak the language well enough, so I’m not worried there, but just taking such a risk to move to a place I’ve never been is a thought that brings with it a plethora of emotions all at once.

Yes I know, my life won’t change much, I’m not disillusioned. I’ll live the same life with a multitude of daily problems just as I do here, but I’ll be there to explore and take advantage of my younger years to see my dreams become reality.

Pursue your dreams people. Even when things are excruciating, remember the things that you dreamed of as a kid. Every so often those dreams really do become reality.

Wishing every single one of you an extraordinary day/night!

Netizens’ comments

• This is great! What advice would you give others wanting to do the same?

• Congrats man!

I feel like I’ve ruined my life by wasting time and I’m terrified of aging

I’m a 23F soon to be 24 and I’ve dropped out of school when I was 18. I always hated school and put it off because I was convinced I was going to be successful in acting by now because I have an acting manager and had been on a few auditions.

Now with being 24 soon, I’m terrified of being too old to keep going with acting, terrified I won’t be anywhere by 30.

If I go back to school, I worry I’ll always think of what could’ve been and worry I won’t be able to get a job in anything I’m interested in compared to younger applicants (because I’ll be like 26 or 27 at the youngest when finishing school).

I hate myself for wasting time and being too afraid to pursue either fully these past few years. I’ve been so hopeless I’ve also lost touch with friends and now I also worry I’ll be old, friendless, and doing something I shouldn’t have no matter what path I take. What the hell do I do?

I wasted years being too scared to make a decision, didnt do anything, dont know what to and am terrified of aging and giving up a dream

Netizens’ comments

Well, Alan Rickman didn’t get famous until after 40. A lot of actors didn’t get their start until after 40, including: Samuel L Jackson, Burt Reynolds, Steve Carrell, Octavia Spencer, Kathy Bates, even Betty White! You can easily Google all sorts of folks who started writing, acting, playing music, directing, painting, dancing later in life.

When I was first learning to play guitar, it was with my best friend in grade six who had learned guitar earlier than I had. I was so distraught because I was learning slower than her and I felt like a lot of her techniques and stylistic choices were better than mine. She just shrugged her shoulders and said, not better, just different. And that stuck with me. To this day we create music and art together, even though we both have other main projects, side projects, jobs and even families. Creating is still a huge part of our friendship.

Art is perspective and the pursuit of those perspectives comes from a plethora of angles.

In that, it takes all kinds.

It’s very normal to feel this way at this age, also. It’s very imposed upon us through media that there’s a finite number of years, especially as a woman, to fulfill your worth.

Hello, I’m a 22F. I had an issue where I was ‘scammed’ by someone last year. I was going through a really rough time and was vulnerable, and this person promised to offer me ‘help’ when I was looking to get out of my situation.

To keep things short I met up with this person when they claim to have a job opening for me. I was wary and did not want to meet at first but the person kept pressuring me to, saying things like ‘I’m just helping’ and ‘why are you so afraid to meet up? It’s just for a talk’

I then sort of seek advice from a friend and he said to give it a try. I ended up meeting with this person in a public setting and we talked for a while. This person asked me a few questions about my life and my situation. I wasn’t thinking clearly at the time as I had only calmed down from a mental breakdown a few hours prior and ended up saying more than I should.

This person spent the next 2-3 hours gaining my trust and said he’d offered me a job. Just before we left he got a ‘call’ from a client and said he needed to urgently borrow 1k sgd because his bank has reached the daily transfer limit. I was unsure but also pressured as he was waiting on me with someone on the line, so in the end I transferred him the money. 5mins later he walked me to the bus stop and I went home.

We kept in touch for a while and he said he’ll drop in a cheque for me. I informed him to update me when he does and he did the following day. But he said he ended up writing an extra 1k for me and asked for me to transfer it back. At this point I was very suspicious, and told me I’ll give it to him later.

On the evening of the same day he started asking me for the extra 1k, saying he had an urgent order he needs to pay for. My trust at this point was very low as my gut was telling me something was off. This then turned out to be true because when I kept refusing, he started to become very aggressive, pressuring me to go on call with him (which I did) and started cursing me out. Saying stuff about how he’s helped me with a job but I couldn’t even bother to give him his money back. I kept saying that if he was as good a businessman as he claimed himself to be, then he should have his own money to pay. Not having to take money from a fresh graduate like myself. He later ended the call saying that he’ll wait until the cheque comes in and get his money back. But of course the money never did come in.

I also did give him another $500 because he claim to have a studio apartment for rent but I’ve never been to the place because he kept insisting he was doing a sale for someone else (stupid, I know. But I was desperate and it was within my budget). So in total this piece of garbage of a human being took 1.5k from me.

He then lied to me for 2 weeks saying he sent another cheque or to give it a week for it to come in. I called the bank to confirm and customer service informed me that it only takes 3 days. On the Friday of the 2nd week I went to make a police report because at that point he had stopped responding to me. All of this took place on Oct 2021.

Fast forward to now, I had a call with the IO in charge of my case, and was told that this is considered a ‘Breach of Agreement’ and not actually a crime. The lady on the phone told me that there was nothing they could do other than keep an eye on this person should a similar case come up or enough prompting has happened for them to actually start an investigation. She also told me if I wish to see anything come out of this I will need to go to a small civil court and take matters into my own hands.

My concern is just how should I go about this? Is this going to cost me a lot of money? I don’t have a lot of savings myself, and I think this issue requires a lawyer. I would like some legal advice on this if anyone has knowledge on it.

As for some wondering why I’m not seeking advice with my family on this, its because of them that I was even having this issue in the first place. So as of now only my close friends know of this problem.

Netizens’ comments

• Can’t really offer legal advice per se, but I’m going to assume you don’t have the scammer’s personal information? Like a copy of his NRIC for example. It will be tough to pursue a case without the person’s name.

I’ve reported a scam once, police said they can’t do anything without personal information.

• I don’t think OP’s situation (loan gone wrong) would fall within the jurisdiction of small claims tribunal though 🙁

Says here https://www.judiciary.gov.sg/civil/cases-eligible-small-claim that the case must fall in one of the following categories:
• A contract for the sale of goods.
• A contract for the provision of services.
• A tenancy agreement for residential premises not exceeding 2 years.
• Damage to any property not arising from or in connection with the use of a motor vehicle, or caused by a neighbour.
• A dispute against a supplier for an unfair practice under the Consumer Protection (Fair Trading) Act.
• Refund of motor vehicle deposits under the Consumer Protection (Fair Trading) (Motor Vehicle Dealer Deposits) Regulations.

I’m glad my stepdad is sad after I barely associate with him

My sister revealed how sad my mom’s husband felt about me barely talking to him, and I’m happy about it.

Like any other black sheep of the family, he treated me like crap by doing his dirt behind the scenes blaming everyone else, mostly me, for his actions, and releasing any other anger he had onto me.

I finally got my big girl job and packed my bags, moved into my apartment, and barely talked to those who did me wrong growing up without any regrets.

Now, he’s all alone because no one in the family really likes him anymore and just knowing his karma has arrived brings me joy.

Netizens’ comments

• What he did to you wasn’t right, but time dilates and dilutes, forgiveness is a form of healing for you as well, you could try reaching out and help each other move on.

• Good for you!

My friend made a disturbing joke, how do I proceed?

Today, my friend was going on about how he likes The Walking Dead. He then proceeds to talk about his favorite character.

He told me his name is Negan. He wanted to show me this villain so he went on YouTube and showed me the scene where he killed two characters called Abraham and Glenn.

During the whole thing, he kept saying “yo look at how he is laughing, that is so cool” ,”look at this savagery”, and “what an amazing character”.

Now as I was seeing the pummelling, where Negan used a baseball bat with barbed wire wrapped around it to smash Glenn in the head until his eyeball popped out, I felt sick to my stomach and felt angry about the barbaric scenes shown.

As he was pummelling, my friend jokingly said “I want to pummel you like that”. Now Ik he is joking with no bad intentions. Even if he tried, he can’t do anything to me.

The problem is, One, I am sick with what I saw so how do I deal w that. I can handle gore but it was the lack of humanity and how he continued even after death is what vexed me.

And two, should I be concerned with the joke he made and his infatuation of this sick character

Netizens’ comments

Your friend was ok, until he said he wanted to do that to you, i like Negan too, he’s a funny character and has some entertaining scenes in the comic and television series, but i’d never tell my friend i’d do what he did to them.

Him showing infatuation with this character is fine, people like The Joker, Darth Vader, Thanos, Jason Voorhees, and they are ok, the difference is, those people don’t go around saying “yeah i wanna kill half the people in the universe, that was so awesome.”