I find myself being an unwilling, distant audience to my upstairs neighbours’ intimate life.

They like to get down and dirty every Saturday night and Sunday morning. She is a screamer. The ceiling is thin enough that I can hear them walk from the bedroom to the kitchen.

So the screaming comes through loud and clear. But it sounds fake. It sounds like she learned what orgasms sound like from adult movies and is copying those noises but isn’t actually enjoying herself.

It often sounds painful and semi-violent and scary and like she is masking unhappiness with fake overly happy noises. It’s icky. I feel icky hearing it.

To drown them out I blast two fans on high speed and have a blue noise machine I put right next to my head.

It sort of does the trick but most Saturday nights I end up sleeping on my sofa to get away from them and where their main action is at.

I hate them. I really want to tell them to shut up and pipe down. But I’ve been advised that that would be unbeneficial and rude.

So I guess I’ll just keep trying to blast them out of my brain and keep my distance.

Netizens’ comments

• You need to blast ‘Who let the dogs out?’ on repeat at full volume every-time they screw!

• Record it this weekend, play it back at them full volume when they start next weekend.

• Bang the ceiling with the broom

This is the true story of my good friend. He is an excellent IT professional.

This is a recent sad story of his job. He has been working for this particular company for 3 years. He is a sincere worker. To be precise, 80% of the work is done by 20% of the engineers. He belongs to that 20% category. Even the company has put a notice period of 3 months if he quits his job (usually 1 to 2 months for other employees). He is that good. Suddenly, the company said that it is liquidating the Singapore operation and laying all the employees of the company in a single call without any prior notice.

He has more than 40 holidays that he did not take (He did not take the holidays because he is the go-to guy for most of his projects). He is not getting any salary further even he has a 3 month notice period. He is not getting anything for his holidays that he did not take. I do not know about the legal obligations. But the company said since they are liquidating, they do not have to pay notice period salaries or for the vacations that the employees did not take.

He will find a better job soon without any doubt. The thing is the moral value of the company and the management. If you are a family man, sudden termination and no salary will put you under great pressure.

The moral of the story is to take your vacation all the time, spend time with your family, and you do not have to be over-committed to a job. In the end, management can just throw you into a bin as in this story. (There are many nice companies. But these companies still exist.

To be honest, the ghost may appear at any time.

Editor’s note: End of the day no matter how hard you work for a company you are nothing like a used tissue paper, anytime can throw.

It’s been a week and I haven’t been able to open up about my experience with another miscarriage in less than a year.

My husband and I have been trying for a baby for over 3 years. We struggled with multiple miscarriages, It’s been so overwhelming and exhausting time for me, I struggled and wanted to take a break but my husband kept pushing me to keep trying.

I got pregnant recently and last week I lost it. I started experiencing the same thing I had gone through with my previous miscarriages and I knew I was going to lose this one too.

My husband was as much devastated as I was but he started screaming at me repeatedly saying that I caused this to happen and accusing me of being neglectful of my health.

it got so overwhelming I started crying but he didn’t stop, he kept throwing accusations of me saying I ruined yet another hope for him to finally become a dad all because I started going to work after being able to manage my health.

He shut the door in my face and left the apartment for a whole day, I had to call my mom to take me to the hospital and stay with me.

He didn’t bother to even call to see how I was doing. He started avoiding me after he returned and refusing to talk about it makes me feel worse.

I feel so much anger and disappointment washing over me, It’s been a week and I haven’t slept properly since then, I can’t even touch my tummy or look at it.

It’s like all my hope is gone and all that’s left is pain and resentment. I keep asking why me, I questioned myself, my body, my health and keep feeling like my husband was justified in his reaction to an extent.

My bf is high SES – earns high income (12k/mth), family well to do, dines at nice places and drives nice car whereas my family is middle class.

I make 2.5k/mth, my parents are not so well off so we rarely go out for meals and cannot afford to drive. My boyfriend doesn’t mind all of these things about me and I know its just me but I cant help but feel so inferior compared to him.

I feel like he can easily find someone else out there with the same attributes as me but from a much better background which will help him maintain his current SOL whereas if he sticks with me, he will have to end up “downgrading” because I simply don’t have the financial capacity to match his. Sometimes I feel resentful towards him because he always seems so carefree. Doesn’t have to worry about things, parents really take care of his needs whereas I’m not so close to my family and I have to worry about my finances and cannot splurge as freely as he can.

Any advice on how I can get over these negative feelings and thoughts.

Here are what netizens think:

• It’s a good opportunity to learn from them how they manage to be high SES. You seem to be mostly looking at the disadvantages (e.g. feeling inferior) but not at the advantages of having a high SES boyfriend (e.g. his needs are taken care of so you have less to worry about, learning what your bf does at his job to earn 12k.)Remember, he chose you because he appreciated you in some way. You have to choose you too – appreciate yourself and work on yourself.

• You sound like a inferior dumpling, no one cares. If this is an issue in the first place he won’t be with you. So stop finding problem

• Wah lau.. Got money also complain… Don’t give girls a bad name leh.. All these feelings are your self-esteem talking and possibly envy too.If you want to match him, then upgrade your qualifications and/or work towards getting a better paying job.If you don’t want him, I’m sure other girls will grab him.