One of my wife’s best friends cheated on her fiancé last summer while they were all out at another friend’s bridal shower. This friend has cheated on her fiancé in the past a number of times and has no remorse about it.

She acts as if it didn’t even happen and posts all this fake stuff on social media about how dedicated she is to him. I’m friends with her fiancé and he’s a great guy, he definitely doesn’t deserve it. They’re supposed to get married late this summer.

Should I tell him what happened? My wife told me in confidence but I could tell him in a way that they wouldn’t know it was me. I know that sounds petty but I’ve been in the position he’s in and I would definitely want someone to tell me, especially if I was about to marry the person.

Thanks for any advice.

Here are what netizens think:

• Yes you should tell him what happened. If you were him, wouldn’t you want to know? You can save him a HUGE amount of pain by not going through with a sham marriage.

• Also, it may be worth noting that your wife is okay staying best friends with someone who actively cheats without remorse. This is definitely something to keep in mind. It may be somewhat nothing, but if it adds up with other behavior later it is something to think about.

• How did your wife talk about these incidents? in a shocked disapproving manner or just matter of factly? If its a very disapproving manner if you press on her conscience hard enough she might agree letting the guy know would be the right thing.

A netizen shared how he recently lost his father to an accident and is experiencing grief for the first time, not knowing how to handle it.

Here is the story

Long story short, lost my father to an accident recently. As I’m only in my 20s, this is my first time feeling what actual grief is like.

We have always been close and I would always make it a point to eat dinner with him, no matter how late it is.

How do you guys handle grief? I understand that there’s always professional help but I would like to hear some other methods on getting over this hurdle. TIA.

Netizens’ comment

• There are 5 stages of grief. They’re like checkpoints for you to cross. You don’t have to cross it linearly. There will be days where you regress and have to ‘rerun’ this race. There is no special sauce in dealing with grief other than trusting that time will heal your wounds. You have to trust the process. When my grandfather died, I thought about him everyday when I wake up. It felt depressing but as the months rolled by, I thought of him less and less. That’s when I know I’m making progress.

Moving on and dealing with grief doesn’t mean we forget the loved ones that has passed, but rather, accepting the situation for what it is, taking the time to process your emotions and do our best to live a life they would have wanted us to live.

Today you might not be alright, and for awhile that might be the recurring theme. But one day, you’ll be okay. Lots of hugs for you. You’ll be okay. Keep busy in the mean time. As quickly as the negative emotions overwhelm you, as quickly it will recede.

• I lost my dad in my early 20s too. Even a decade later, I still dream sometimes that he’s alive and we somehow mistook somebody else’s death as his and we all happy after reuniting with him. The dream is always so happy, wake up and feel like shit.

The frequency of such dreams have reduced over the years but still happen occasionally man. Death of a close loved one is tough.

One quote from the marvel series that resonated with me a lot is: “What is grief if not love persevered”. just have to process it and accept it. There’s no other fucking way

When I was 17, I found out that my dad wasn’t my father. Because I was an idiot teenager/curious I searched social media and I also had found out that my biological father had another kid so I had a half sister, technically. Her and I talked for a while, she wanted to meet up but I wasn’t really into it. It felt like forcing a friendship. Life moved on.

Whenever people ask if I have siblings I say no. I don’t feel like it’s a lie because she and I weren’t raised together and barely talked.

Well, when I started dating my boyfriend we did the whole “do you have siblings” blah blah. I said no.

Then the other day (together a year now) we were talking about family nonsense. I said that my dad wasn’t my father and that when I was 17 I found out I had a half-sister. I was expecting him to go “wow weird” or something but he got weird and said, “well you said you were an only child so you lied”. We went back and forth for a while with me explaining and re-explaining, then he dropped it.

Then the next day he brought it up again. How “it’s weird that I lied about having a sister” and “he’s so close with his brothers he can’t believe someone wouldn’t want a relationship with their own sister ” “I lied about that so what else did I lie about “. He’s been acting weird since.

My parents that raised me don’t have other kids. My friend said he’s probably mad because it took me a year to tell him.

Why is he so petty, its not even his effing problem.

Here are what netizens think:

• He is breaking up with u, and using a pathetic excuse

• Your biological father isn’t a dad to you and never has been. Therefore it’s more than reasonable to not consider your half-sister your sibling. You didn’t grow up with her nor do you know her.

• I really dislike your bf saying you lied. There is something wrong with him for reacting so accusatory towards you. He is twisting your situation. At the very least, he should ask about how you felt about discovering you had discovered a biological relationship.

A friend of mine has had Irritable bowel syndrome, in another word she is lao sai queen. For most of her life and in the past few years has gotten it mostly under control by changing her diet to gluten and soy-free and vegan. However, it is SO hard to go out to eat with her. She basically can’t eat anything at a non-vegan restaurant and even then, it’s hard to find something that is also gluten and soy free. There’s a raw vegan restaurant that’s got an okay selection that she usually goes to. She’s asked me to go eat with her there several times. I’m sure some people enjoy this place, I, however, am not one of them. It’s also very expensive and I’m not rich. I’ve started turning down invites to go to dinner with her and have been offering other activities or eating at one of our places.

She really likes going out to dinner and said it’s one of her favourite activities. She’s now mad at me bc she said I am refusing to be accommodating of her dietary needs. I feel bad about this but I’m tired of spending $30 on a meal I don’t enjoy at all.

She started getting angry

As I keep rejecting her, she started to ask if I don’t like her or don’t want to see her etc. So I am kind of stuck, I know it’s not her fault she is a breed of lao sai queen but all these so-called healthy places which don’t even cook the food is charging so much.

What should I do? I don’t intend to start a romantic relationship with her but she is a good friend. But I’m getting kind of annoyed…

In 2013 I started being interested in bitcoin and because of the price rise I’ve made a lot of money, enough to retire and not have to worry about money again in my life. I’ve been selling most of it through the years (I have about 15% left ) and I’ve been buying real state and gold. The only person that knows about this is my dad and I made him promise me that he wouldn’t tell my mom about it, I love her but she can’t keep her mouth shut.

If you knew me, you would never say that I have money, I live in a 3 bedroom flat (and I split the instalment with my wife), I spend my holidays with my parents in their home, I love my job and I don’t want to stop working, my car is 10 years old and my watch is a 100+ dollars Seiko.

My dad has always told me that what I’m doing is not okay, he says that I can’t live a lie my whole life and that I’m making him keep my secret and he sometimes feels uncomfortable. I don’t think I’m living a lie, I live the life that I want and for that, I don’t need to show everybody how much money I have, that is nobody’s business. Also, I’m scared that people are going to start treating me differently.

Am I wrong for hiding my money? Sometimes I feel bad, but I love my life and I don’t want any changes. Also, after all this years of hiding it, it would be weird for them to know that I’ve had money all this time.

Just to clarify, I told my dad because he needed money and I wanted to help him, I know that he is in a bad position because he has to keep my secret but I thought that it was the best solution.

Here are what netizens think:

• Your money your business nobody needs or has the right to know how much money you have you might want to share that with your girlfriend if you ever get married but other than that why does anybody else have to know??

• I wouldn’t divulge this info to anyone even after marriage & incomes are combined. He doesn’t need to be supporting a girlfriend who can support herself. It may be nice to splurge on them every now & again but she doesn’t need to know, he has enough to retire with at this time; that’s just asking to be exploited.