Tim and I met in an English literature class our junior year of college, and we’ve been together the ten years since. While he ended up going into IT, I stayed in the arts track and ended up doing non-profit work after college when I realized I didn’t actually want to be a schoolteacher. Just to say that we always assumed he’d out-earn me by a considerable margin, though when he made more I always insisted we split things evenly to avoid potential resentment down the road.

I’ve had sort of a non-linear career path, but ended up switching to the corporate world. To make a long story short, my arts degree and time doing non-profit work gave me a lot of skills that enable me to really excel professionally in some more niche areas. I recently started a new job as a consultant, making way more than I’d ever anticipated. When I got the offer, I told Tim that the pay was “amazing”, but he didn’t ask about the actual amount and I didn’t want to be braggy about it, especially since I was fairly sure it was above his current income.

Well we just put in an application for a new place, and in the process of having to submit our payslips it’s become obvious that I make roughly 30% more than he does now. I expected him to think that was cool, since he’s a feminist and has always been super supportive of my career. But instead he’s started to make increasingly harsh jabs about how I “cheated the system” to get where I am, that no English lit major makes more than a cyber security professional without cheating somehow.

His major point is that I got my first job out of nepotism, which set me up to “trample” more qualified people who didn’t have the same advantages. It’s true that I got my first post-college job after being referred by a sorority sister, but it was for non-profit work making 22k/yr, not exactly at somebody’s daddy’s firm. He also points out that at my first corporate job, I snagged a big promotion after volunteering to take on starting up the company’s diversity/equity/inclusion program, and I’ll admit that were I a man, it’s highly unlikely I would have been able to be the face of the eventually high-profile diversity program. Tim also notes that I was awarded a small college scholarship for being a “promising female writer”, when no such scholarship existed for males.

But all that said…I still don’t feel like I cheated the system, and it makes me angry to listen to him “joke” about it, especially since I grew up blue-collar and worked fulltime while going to school fulltime to afford my degree. I reached a breaking point yesterday when he made a crack about how the new/first woman on his team is an obvious diversity hire. I told him that his jokes about women cheating the system to get ahead aren’t funny or “guy-talk ribbing” as he says, they make him sound like an insecure little boy. He told me I was being a naïve Karen and we haven’t really talked since

A female web designer becomes a gold digger after meeting someone very rich. It was during a first date, and she couldn’t help it she blurted out “Oh my God! This is so exciting!” to make it sound like she is enjoying herself in other words angkat.

Here is the story:

Recently I went to a web design company to make a website for my new venture, the person that I was contacting was both a web designer and sales. Which made me feel that this person would know what kind of person could deliver what I want.

The web designer cum sales was a lady dressed like she is going to work in a nightclub. We started a casual chat and she found out that I stay in a bungalow.

The lady’s attitude immediately changed, she started to be super nice to me and feel like a golden spade is growing out of her ***.

After gathering the requirements for the web design she started to ask me if we could meet other times also of work.

This is the time I realised the golden spade has become a 2 storeys high building.

I rejected her and told her maybe after the project was completed, Normally web designs take at least a few months but within two weeks she called me and said that the web design is completed.

After the handover meeting of the project, she tried to ask me out again. So I decided accept her invite. We went for a drink nearby and she started to seduce me by rubbing her legs to mine.

It was obvious at that time because of three points

• I not handsome
• I talk also not funny one
• I got money

I decided to leave halfway during the drinking and told her something urgent happened at home. I asked if she is drunk and she said no. Immediately I told her that “Since you are not drunk, I have settled the bill. See you soon”. I left immediately before she has a chance to respond.