I broke up with my GF after a 2-year long relationship because of her negativity and trauma.
For context she lives in a pretty abusive household and had an A-H of an ex. But she was constantly complaining about how bad her life was on a regular basis (maybe not daily but close to it) while I’m preparing to apply to uni overseas. I told her I couldn’t handle the negativity she brings into my life as well as dominating a decent amount of my time to help her in some way.
While I admit I was by no means a perfect partner and had trouble communicating and controlling emotions at times. However, I’m sure I communicated clearly that this was a problem and she never really fixed it.
I even convinced her parents to get her therapy and medication for her mental illness (her parents ended up taking away her meds and she quit therapy after a month or 2) I have tried my best to help her develop coping mechanisms to help with her problems but I feel I am the sole person in her support system and it is not healthy for me or her.
She did do good things for me and I have vastly improved my diet and general health because of her. I feel when I leave for uni I will leave her behind in Singapore. And I know I’m not willing to do long distances.
I told her we could continue to be friends and maybe after uni we could try again. She has a victim complex and is framing it a bit like I broke her heart but my heart broke too. I don’t think either of us were bad partners by any means but I don’t think either of us were perfect either.
What should I do?