FRESH GRAD ONLY JUST STARTED WORKING, FEEL “BURNT OUT” ALREADY & WANT TO RUN AWAY

Feeling down after starting my first Job

Just graduated this year and I started working for a few months. Work has been horrendous and I’m just feeling like I’m going through the motions and waiting for my paycheck.

Been very stressed, anxious and tired although I’ve been sleeping a lot more.

Yes, I’m definitely feeling very burnt out and trying my best to self-motivate. Thought about quitting my job and escaping to somewhere…

I’m working in tech and I’ve been getting a lot of shit from my manager. Shouting at me, giving me snarky remarks etc.

I’ve also been overworked and sometimes work till 7 in the office because my colleagues do it and I feel bad leaving on time.

I sometimes skip lunch to finish the emails and tasks. Feels as though a lot of the work I have been doing has not been well taken by my direct manager.

Any advise? I’m also wanting to look for therapy places – If there are any recommendations do let me know!

Netizens’ comments

1. I’d recommend evaluating objectively before deciding what solutions to implement like, is this the job problem or a ‘you’ problem?
   Job: Are the people toxic? Boss micromanaging? Constant contact outside working hours? Dealing with nasty clients all the time? Long working hours? Steep learning curve with no mentoring? Brain dead job with no learning?
   You: Nature of work goes against your principles? Have a burning interest/passion you really want to pursue? Entrepreneur mindset; hates structure?
   Not thrashing on the younger generation but it could simply be reality kicking in. Studying and having safety nets in school and parents have made many students not able to transition into full time jobs. This takes time.
   In the real world, people do NOT need to be nice to you, solutions does not exist by flipping to the end of the book, you can’t simply mug at home, memorize a bunch of shit and perform. There’s also no school holidays. Unfortunately some people adapt faster, some don’t.
   • (OP) Yes, this. Job nature-wise, I like it and it is what I want to do.
     Feels very suffocating because my direct manager micro-manages everything I do and I feel like I have no flexibility in my work. Put more examples in my other comment.
     Understand where you come from and I definitely feel that I should be grateful for my job – I mean, I am compensated to sit in an air-conditioned office and even get paid to take leave/public holidays. But I just struggle to find the meaning in all these. mostly because of the toxic environment and feeling alone at the work place.