How do I counsel my friend in the kindest way possible?
My friend and room mate is seeing a married man. She insisted the one who is not loved is the third party. So she’s referring to the man’s wife as the third party which I don’t agree. I see her crying and in a state of emotional mess most of the time. She also often drop whatever she’s doing and just go to him when he calls. Once we attended someone’s gathering and she just took off midway during the meal without giving an explanation. I’m running out of excuses for her irresponsible behavior as friends will usually ask me what’s up with her as we live together.
I really cannot see what’s so great about this married man. How long will it take for the situation to self implode? She’s a mess now and has started drinking everyday which is unlike her. I am afraid to talk to her because she will become agitated whenever I ask about her situation. We have also grown distant as she starts keeping to herself, isolating herself from other social activities. I’m very tempted to tell her family but I don’t want to ruin our friendship.
Here are what netizens think:
- Just leave her alone. If you try to say anything, whatever happens to them, she will try to blame you. If they break up, she will blame you, if they get back together, she will also blame you. Let her self destruct.
- You cannot counsel this type of woman. Based on my experience. Once they fall for someone they believe everything from them and become totally subservient to them, 100%. This type will not listen to you.
- If u still cherish your friendship with her, be there when her immoral r/s implode. Otherwise run! Her impending drama will make ur life hell. Ask yourself, is it worth it to stick around with her. Better move out while u can.