My bf of 7years just graduated this year and is currently earning 4k a month.
Throughout these years I have never once requested any big value gifts and the most expensive item he had gotten me was a ring and bag that cost around 700+ in total for the anniversary.
Recently I chanced upon a Gucci bag which cost around 2k+ and I hinted to him that I really like it and asked if he could buy it for me for our next anniversary. He replied that he can’t as he is saving for a nice proposal ring which is expensive. So, I proposed to him to just get me the Gucci bag and I am fine with a normal ring i.e less than a thousand since proposal is just for the sake of showing to the elders and I am not really keen in proposal rings either.
Moreover, we will be wearing wedding bands after marriage and the proposal ring will most likely be kept inside the drawer for most of the time.
Just when I thought this was a good deal for him since he doesn’t have to spend as much, he flared up and raged at me, claiming that he will not buy me the Gucci bag as he wants to save his money for other stuffs. He said that it is his money and he shall decide what he spends his money on, and if I am really so desperate for the bag, I could leave him for another guy who is willing to get me such branded bags.
I know he is a little stingy with his money since the start and up till now, we are still splitting for dates even though he will mostly let me pay few dollars less. But is this a red flag about his character? I assume he lied and isn’t even intending to spend on an expensive ring. Otherwise, he would be more than happy to take on my idea of getting the bag I like and at the same time, he can save his money by spending less on the ring.